i have to see this guy every monday we went out on a date the other week with him and it didn't go well , he then ignored me until this week and is now asking to come round to mine, he s bein really nice but i dont think it ll work !
help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-14 01:37:47 · 20 answers · asked by crazy_chick_h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You tell him frankly and kindly that you think it won't work, and give out your reason explicitly. Tell him why. Coz if not, he'll keep coming back. Don't ever let him believe that you like him. That is the worst thing. It will hurt him badly, and it won't be good for you either. The reason must be something that does not involve him, or he'll just try to be something. The reason must be personal, that is, your preference or immediate goals, etc.
2006-07-14 01:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by past_present_subsequent 3 · 11⤊ 2⤋
Ok you do need to tell him how you feel...and that you want to stay friend's, don't make the mistake of taking pity on him because the situation will get worse and you'll end up tearing your hair out...and losing a good friend at the same time. If he dosen't or say's he dosen't want to stay friend's then try not to take it to heart. Don't forget he's just been rejected and so he's feeling hurt...(a feeling you yourself has probably suffered too). I'm sure if you give it a bit of time he will see you as a friend he want's back.
2006-07-14 02:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Viv C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! properly it isn't basic, and the better fascinated he's in you, the more severe he will experience, yet which could no longer your problem. the most you should do is be person-pleasant about it, some thing is as a lot as him. and that i imagine that on the very second he requested me out, i'd say "thanks, i quite savor it, yet I had already made plans to bypass out with ____(the different guy). no matter if its no longer authentic, yet by technique of doing that, he ought to understand without delay that you're not from now on fascinated in him. you're saying this guy is an effective chum, so i anticipate that as an effective chum you should've informed him in some unspecified time sooner or later about your interest in this different guy. i understand its not basic, specially in a challenge like this one, in spite of the indisputable fact that the faster you're making your thoughts sparkling, the better he will savor you for no longer taking area in including his thoughts. good success!
2016-12-01 06:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, Be strait up, Why does he want to be in a relationship with you---- For gods sake dont go on another date, and really mess this poor guys head up. Tell him hes not your type. and tell him you hope he finds what hes looking for. guys that dont get the hint after a bad date, are usally gluttons for pain and just want to hear it from your lips, just to assure that things wont work. If you really want to still be friends then you can, but his pride will be broken and expect to have a lil silence after this!
2006-07-14 01:48:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jonas V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him u like him better as a friend, guys would never think twice about letting u down, so don't be to considerate.
2006-07-14 01:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by London girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although it will be difficult, I think you need to tell him that you would like to be friends with him, nothing more. Most guys I know don't know how to be friends with a woman, only a sex partner. If he doesn't like this idea, then it's his problem. Be honest without saying anything hurtful.
2006-07-14 01:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really close you can tell him you think of him as a big bro. Once a guy who dated my sister wanted to go out with me. I tried to ignore his advances they did not work. The moment i told him i considered him a big bro it worked like magic.& i do consider him to be a big brother as i do not have one.
2006-07-14 01:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always best to be honest but not always easy,and remember anyone who cant respect you for being honest you mite not want as a friend ( man or women) you would know then they would not be the same with you
2006-07-14 02:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by chrispy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him u think hes a really great guy and u do like him but u only c him as a friend
2006-07-14 01:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by browneyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It actually depends also in the guy... Some guys accept reality. Some just don't. Worst, some dwell in their past!
2006-07-14 01:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by athame 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋