Well I met this guy two months ago and we went out once and then we talked on the phone until the last two weeks. I told him I was a virgin and then his calls became less frequent. I was mad because after that he did not call, I assumed he was just trying to sleep with me and that he did not really like me. I decided that I was going to find out if my assumption was true, so I called him and ask to do me a favor and he did not do it even though he said he would. He told me that he was mad at me because I dissed him during a social gathering. I said I was sorry and he said he forgave me, but he still will not return my calls (3). So my question is do you think he is not talking to me because I am a virgin and using "the dissed" as an excuse so as not to look like an asshole. I know it is over; I just want to find out why. Do you think I should call him and leave him a message about that.
2006-07-14 01:28:54 · 16 answers · asked by bella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really don't need to stress over someone like that. You could be the very best person inside and out, and he'd still be the little asshole he is. Why obsess over that type of guy? Take care of yourself, and no longer waste any more time worrying over that little boy. If you do try everything in your power to find out why, or tell him what you feel, you'll regret it. It may blowup in your face. You'll be described as an obsessive psycho ex to his friends, and his friends tell their friends, and then you get a bad name just because he was an asshole. This is coming from the experience and the observation of others. Just give him the mental middle finger salute and find someone better. By the way, I think it's really good that you're a virgin.
2006-07-14 01:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I realize this is hard, but I think it would be best if you stopped calling him and leaving him messages. If he hasn't responded so far, he is not going to respond just b/c you leave yet one more message.
It could be that he is not calling you back for one of the two reasons you mentioned, or some completely unrelated third reason about which you know nothing. You probably don't know this person very well given how little time you have spent with him. He probably has all sorts of other things in his life that may have led him to not want to call you.
Don't assume it's about you, chances are it's more about him. Move on and find someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
2006-07-14 08:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ladida 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have been a little weirded out by you being a virgin, but even if that's not the case, it is fairly obvious he's just not that into you... so, let him go. A better guy awaits you if you take it slow and don't try and force a relationship.
2006-07-14 08:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand one thing from tis the guys expectation was to enjoy a nite with u so wen he came to know tat u r not such a character he cant digest himself as a result he wants get rid of u & find some other to fullfill his desire so he gives a silly reasons as u said.
My suggestion is to bang him by words & get rid of him.
2006-07-14 08:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why people advertise the fact that they are virgins. It's irrelevant until the "first time" actually happens. We can't know why the guy is no longer interested. Forget him and find somebody else.
2006-07-14 08:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will call you in the near future. Tell him that you do not feel anything for him anymore because he did not call you for a long time.
2006-07-14 08:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by tapsev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him if his that sensitive or doesnt want to be with because of your virginity then he is not worth the effort! move on..
2006-07-14 08:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by snowy.1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not talking to you because he is either a jerk, or he just isn't interested in you, and that doesn't mean that you aren't worthwhile, it just means you aren't for him, so move on and find someone who likes you for you.
2006-07-14 08:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should call him and say that. Then make him tell you what's going on or you'll break up with him.
2006-07-14 08:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by Peter R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no for sure sex is what he wants i dont think you can keep someone unless you have some other attributes to offer like can you fix cars people use other people thats what brings them together
2006-07-14 08:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋