As a man, we generally get on with our lives without knowing that certain insignificant events or things have upset the opposite sex. The best solution to avoid any further confrontations (which sometimes can be expensive!) is always to apologize and apologize immediately if possible. But is there any other way to cheer her up?
2006-07-14 01:01:01 · 34 answers · asked by WBT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
bend her over and give her a good one yee ha
2006-07-14 01:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by pebblesandkara 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd think about the cause that actaully upset her (and from all my communications with men, they usually tend to have a misconception on why exactly the woman is upset), and apologize for that. Once. And then change it, if possible, or make up for, if not... and try, honestly, and full-heartedly, not to do it again.
Btw, the best way to learn what aspect of what you did upset her, talk to her, and listen to what she tells you. Not to what you think she says, but to what she actually does. That is a good thing in itself, you know, and she will know you are trying.
2006-07-14 01:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I have to disagree with whoever reocmmended 'Men are from Mars' - no good comes from people believing they act a certain way becuase of their gender. A much better book for improving relationships is 'Relationship Rescue' - it rescued mine and 6 years later I still refer to it and I keep getting happier in my relationship.
I think you need to try to undo what you did. That doesn't mean buying stuff - any fool can do that. If you said something hurtful then you need to explain why you said that and then say things that balance it out. For instance if you said 'you're stupid' then you'd have to say something like 'I said that because I was angry. I was a horrible thing to say and I wish I hadn't said it but I did and I can't take it back. I said it because actually it frightens me how smart and insighful you can be.'
If you did something to upset her then make sure you are now doing things that will make her smile instead.
Just try to show her how special she is to you.
2006-07-14 01:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Women love to talk about things that have upset them so that they feel justified for being emotional. :-) Sounds like you love your wife very much, so the next time you upset her, just tell her you're sorry, and ask her to explain to you how to avoid making the same mistake in the future. We are very big on "communication" so just taking the time to listen to her will go a lot further than always buying her gifts when things go downhill. It will show her that you really care about her "feelings". Good luck
2006-07-14 01:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Laura W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get out of your head completely that 'cheering up' is in order! Also be quite clear that the events you are talking about are major problems to her. If you don't try and understand that, you will never get it right.
It's YOU that has blotted your copy-book, YOU that's in the doghouse. Apologies are one thing, regaining your wife's trust and confidence is quite another.
2006-07-14 01:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club!
After 19 years of married life I can say
I've learned what not to say around my wife.
but when I have a brain fart,
"Yes honey those pants do make you look fat"!
I first remind her I love her with all my heart
and that we don't have to agree on everything to love each other.
then I do the full blown date thing, diner dancing a movie flowers ect. really cuts down on the couch sleeping time...
For gods sake don't tell her your taking her out!
she wont go.
just say you want her to go for a ride with you.
But for those days when It's just you your boxers the remote and a night of ESPN just remember there are about a million other husbands out there doing the same thing.
2006-07-14 01:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by BigBadWolf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say sorry and don't do it again.
Give her a nice hug and a smoooooooooooch kiss.
Both of you go through the book entitled:
"Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" written by JOHN GRAY.
This will help you to understand each other well.
2006-07-14 01:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't she be more adult than needing anything besides an apology? If you screw up, say you're sorry and mean it. That is enough. Heck, if I could only get an apology once in awhile... That's what I get for marrying Mr. (Always) Right, I guess!
2006-07-14 01:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you did. I would leave her alone for a while until her anger subsides. I'm sure whatever you did, she has a right to be upset.
2006-07-14 01:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a really nice day for just the two of you to make up for what you have done. May i suggest a picnic somewhere nice. this shows thought and forward planning. Us ladies like to be thought of!
2006-07-14 01:05:43 · answer #10 · answered by bubble 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Open door.
2. Throw in chocolate.
3. Close door (with you still outside room).
4. Count to one hundred.
5. Enter room safely.
2006-07-14 01:13:53 · answer #11 · answered by nev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋