Arguments & Heat of the moment?

Question

When a person says something "in the heat of the moment" do you think this is what the really mean?

Answer 1

Very good question.
I'm not sure that you will like the answer very much though.
When we are in an argument, and this goes for everyone...our inhibitions are usually loosened. So we can say and do all of the things that we are prevented from doing by the normal rules of society. If someone says something in the heat of the moment...there is usually a slight nugget of truth to what they are saying. It usually means that they have thought about it, either consciously or subconsciously and it has come out in the midst of a heated argument. Something that they might have been scared to say normally.

This is not bad news. This is an opportunity to really listen to your partner/other person and find out where grievances lie. You can use this arguement to strengthen your relationship with this person, if you so choose.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

Not always, I fly off the handle pretty easily, and words are a handy weapon. Sometimes I will even say something totally out of bounds and hurtful for different reasons
1- because I want the argument to just stop
2-because I am hurt and I want the other person to see how it feels 10 times worse
3- because I've thought it, but I know it's not true and I usually would NEVER say it, but, it's handy ammo
4-It distracts the other person from what I'VE done wrong
5-I'm temporarily insane
If abusive comments become regular, or the person never apologizes after, then they probably DID mean it. My BF and I are pretty hot tempered, but we are able to say, after some time, "Hey, that really hurt, did you mean what you said?"

Answer 3

I have to admit Iv done that before. I said something that I did really think but didnt want that person to know, we had a argument and it just came out. We dont mean to do it or say it but these things happen.
(I thought my husband could be doing more with the baby and I just let him carry on and I thought his parent werent doing much in the "visiting us" side of things. Id been suffering post natal depression and it wasnt helping matters so in the end it just got too much, I blew my top and came out with allsorts. It was mostly stuff Id kept inside for a while and I just let it all out.)

Now i tell my husband things that bother me and he now listens, helps out more and his parents - well thats another story

Answer 4

OH YES!!!!!!!!

My mother-in-law said some really nasty things to me "in the heat of the moment", and I know that she meant every word that came out of her mouth, as she had been off with me for ages.

I think you get to a stage where you can't stop yourself saying everything that has been peeing you off., you loose your inhabitions

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Answer 5

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Answer 6

No not always but then people are different. Some people only say things to hurt you as you have hurt them with the argument so its hard to say really.

Answer 7

It could be. If you say something unpleasant or worse to someone and there is no misunderstanding, you need to apologize unless you continue to mean it and want to have an enemy. All but the most irrational people will accept apologies.

Answer 8

SOMETIMES THEY DONT - MEANT ITS, coincidentally voice out,basically with or without intention to,with physiological stress at the moment , with extreme anger they loss their stability - con trolling their sound minds,any words shooting out without realizing or feels at ease, after releasing the tensions that suppressed within,

Answer 9

Not always. Sometimes people are so angry that all thoughts of sanity go flying out the window and they add more fuel to the fire with hurtful words.

Answer 10

yes but people just say its cause of the moment and that they didnt mean it but really they mean every word...