My sister has three beautiful kidsand I don't know what to do.....Let me explain. My sister's husband treats her oldest, 4, like crap because it's not his child. He ignores her and abuses her. Also, he makes $16/hour and won't help pay bills or buy groceries. He blows his whole check everyweek on what ever he wants. And my sister is a very co-dependent person. They were apart at one point and the court had it worked out where he was going to have to pay all her bills and her rent, but she took him back and now she can't even get food stamps because he makes too much. She is on WIC, but her husband won't let her have a car, so she has to pack up all three of them and walk across town to pick up her WIC coupons, plus she has to walk all three kids to the store and back. They have a daughter with a rare neurological disorder and he won't let her have a phone even though this disorder causes her to have seizures. Do you think I have a chance to get custody if I take her to court?
2006-07-13 22:33:56 · 9 answers · asked by Meg 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
everyone in my entire family has tried to talk to her about it. I was the one who ultimately talked her into leaving him before, but she doesn't have a job and can't get one because of their daughter's disorder and she's afraid she can't support them. I've told her several times my door is always open, but she won't do it. I take the kids when I can, but I work alot and it's hard for me to find time to keep them, expecially with my messed up schedule and living so far away from her. I take the kids on the weekends I don't work, but then she and her husband just go stay at a hotel and he tells her how things are going t obe different and all the same BS he's been telling her for 3 years.
2006-07-13 22:50:03 · update #1
I would hope so. He sounds like a real jackass. It pisses me off when people mistreat children. It is one thing to be mean to dogs or adults but children are innocent. I would go and talk to a lawyer. Many lawyers will do a free consult, and you can get their opinion on whether or not you have a solid case. I hope everything goes well.
2006-07-13 22:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by deathdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking to court will only make her angry with her the husband is nothing short of a pig maybe offer to help her with the kids let them stay with you over the weekend or during the holidays, to give her a break maybe then she will see what she is missing and how kids should be treated.
Just be there for her she doesn't need another person against her at the moment.
Good luck
2006-07-14 05:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister to get shot of her husband, he sounds like a complete a$$. Tell her that this is no way for their children to be living. He's only living with her so he doesn't have to give money to her... that seems quite obvious. I bet he has another woman too... because he doesn't seem to show much concern for his own kids or their well-being. I'd get social services involved first before trying any court action, speak with them, and say that you want to take them in because of the things that are happening within the house hold. With social services involved it would help make a better case for you, if you do decide to take it to court.
2006-07-14 05:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from.I have a sister that does not put her 3 kids first also.Every state is different when it comes to taking children from their mother.Here in La. it is very hard,but trust me don't give up.Every child is worth fighting for.If your sister doesn't see your only trying to help and change her ways then start with the child welfare office.Also keep records of everytime the kids are abused or just done wrong.Plus keep up with the amount of money you spend on them..gas money,clothes,food,ect.. The courts will want to know all of that.Best of luck to you and remember your just trying to help so don't get down on yourself if your sister gets her feelings hurt.Those kids need someone.
2006-07-14 11:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very good case, there is a large chance of getting custody provided that you can show in court why you will be a better parent than your sister and her husband, and you have to show why your sister and her husband are not suitable parents. I think a lawyer will be able to help you with everything else.
2006-07-14 05:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by Captain Charisma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first two parties. First of all, you need to explain this situation to your sister (try opening her eyes to what you are seeing). If she can't see it in a month or so, take her to court and yes, you have a chance at custody.
2006-07-14 05:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can gather evidence to show these claims. or evidence to show neglect or abuse, then you can apply to become an emergency guardian under child protection laws. My nephew is being raised by her grandparents because my sister is always in trouble. they were able to get custody. Don't wait too long to act, if these children are being abused and neglected you need to act fast.
2006-07-14 05:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by lovpayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, sounds like she is a good parent
you need to be supportive and help her take him to court
(get advice as above)
she is in an abusive situation, with low self esteem and needs your help, get her to a good therapist
2006-07-14 05:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as getting her kids forget it you have to have proof that there both unfit it's very hard.BUT my advise to start would be turning him in call child protective services in to investigate then if there's a case and they do get taken away you have a very strong case and you would probably get them that way..
2006-07-14 17:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋