well me and my boyfriend have been dating for alomost 3 yrs...so he want to get married when i turn 18...n i do want to marry him but im juss worried cuz ppl say i doesnt really work out if you get married early...and my parent dont really seem to like but i love him
2006-07-13 21:55:53 · 21 answers · asked by april 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just stay with him if you love him. No need to get married. You both will grow so much in the next few years, that who you both become may not be compatible.
2006-07-13 21:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by skigod377 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it a some time after you turn 18 and then if you still feel the same way maybe get engaged and then if things go well after that give it a little more time (maybe live together) and then if things go well and you're still just as happy get married. Just because you're not getting married doesn't mean you don't love each other or that you can't be together. The reason so many marriages are ending nowadays is because people rush into things. Give it a little time. You'll have forever with each other. Make sure you're ready for it.
2006-07-14 08:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by shandra587 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, statistically, the odds are against you. Studies show that people who marry at a young age have a higher rate of divorce. I would say do what your heart tells you to, but also realize that you have not fully developed as a person, at least not completely. You know what I mean? With that said, your mate has not fully matured either; circumstances change people, and not always for the better. Be careful and be wise. :o)
I am 28 and still not ready to marry the man I have been with for 8 years. I know he is my constant and I his, but it is just not a road I am ready for. So, do not feel pressured or feel that he will go away of you do not marry soon. If its is the real thing, he will understand your mature decision.
2006-07-13 22:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by alexa2829 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Statistically odds are against you. That doesn't mean you two can't live a long, happy life together it just means that research shows that the younger you are when you're married, the better your chances of divorce and only 50% of marriages last in this country as it is.
I suggest you wait as long as you can. The best age to marry is 26-28 years old. Research has shown that people who wait until then have the best chance of having their marriage last.
Good luck!
2006-07-13 22:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Getting married at 18 is NOT a good idea. Why? Because you're too young, you have a bright future ahead of you and being hampered by a husband and kids will only tie you down. Don't you want to work? Don't you want to be successful in a career? Don't you want to travel? Don't you have ambitions to have your own house, your own car, a good bank account, etc, etc.... all these things cannot be realized if you're married at 18. Plus its unfair to your boyfriend if the two of you marry at this age because you have to attend to yourselves first, find your careers first, be able to become stable enough in life - good job, good earning capacity before you even consider getting married. Parenting, once you become a mother - is harder - for the two of you. How are you going to feed the child? How are you going to fend for yourselves? Where are you going to live? Do you have enough money for rent and amenities, food, etc? Getting married at 18 is not good if all your answers to these questions is either I don't know, no or I'm not sure. Please seek counselling before you do anything drastic like destroying your future by getting married. Believe me - I've been there.
2006-07-13 22:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont believe that it wont work. one of the security guys at my school got married to his wife when they were both like 16-18 and they have been married for like 43 years.
I know what you mean though. I am in the process of trying to marry my highschool sweetheart. I just turned 18 and she is 16 and we have been dating for about a year. we have been fighting to get married and we are finally going to do it on August 7!!!
believe you can do it and go for it. just remember that things are going to be harder than ever once you get married, and dont let it stop you. there will be vicious arguements, never let them stand in between you and your love for him. "you miss 100% of the shots you dont take" also i see alot of negative things here. you can do everything with him that you can do without and more. My fiance gives me strength i never had. besides, even if you spend the rest of your life barely making it by, at least you are with the one you love, and if you love him enough, that is all you need. youll do great
2006-07-13 22:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
getting married is about spending the rest of your life with this person plus with all the children to come. Think about all the obligations a wife and a mother has and ask yourself if you can handle that.
getting married is not just being with this guy. theres more to it!
2006-07-13 22:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by arthurmljr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents ~ they appear to have the logical approach.
Your male Friend will need a good income and a secure job before he even contemplates marriage...
I am almost positive you do not want to be supporting him, do you...
2006-07-13 22:03:38 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...way to young. I thought I was dating the love of my life and it ended in a nasty divorce three years later.
Marry in your late twenties
2006-07-13 21:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Magicman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him get married, and start a family if you can afford it, coz, you will have time to watch your grand childrens before you die.
2006-07-13 22:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by khepo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋