This all started when my neighbor challanged my son whom is a brown belt in Karate to fight his son whom is a wrestler. He first tells my son whom is 11 that Karate is crap, and then says, "Let's see what you got." He puts the two boys on the trampoline, and makes them fight. Well, my son bloodies the kid's nose, and my neighbor gets angry, scolds his boy, and sends my boy home. Well, ever since, he's called my son names like 4 eyes, whitey, calls my husband, and I names to my son... Well, it's come to the point where this neighbor has started making up things on my son, and calling the police, and now my son has had to see the JPO 2 times. There is no proof, and my son even had a witness the first time, but still it keeps on. The JPO even says the guy needs to grow up, but that she has to send my son's case back to the D.A. We have sold our home, and moving. We even caught this guy stabbing our pool, and filed charges that case is pending...Is this serious for my boy?
2006-07-13 21:36:58 · 12 answers · asked by K S 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
first of all I am very sorry you have to endure something like this.. sadly the nature of t his all comes down to the ego and pride of this Man that is reeking havoc on your family... I hate that you are losing your home over his selfishness and yes that is very selfish of him.. HE should have NEVER put those boys in that situation!
That man is upset over something HE did which was damaging not only to him but to those children... his pride is causing him to be childish and out of control.
I hope your son isn't allowing this man to condemn him... your son is NOT the criminal here the neighbor is for doing this in the first place...
Ask yourself this.. would this guy be reacting the same way IF it were your son that was hurt? I think not... he would have most likely boasted and became obnoxious...
If it were my son and I have two myself I would as any other mother would protect my son and family at all cost... take him to court for harassment if you see fit then go about your way and yes do move... if you stay it could make it worse.. as for your son.. please continue to love on him.. encourage him and above all you tell him this is not his fault...
in many cases like this children can fall into depression and we as parents may never know until its too late...
I will be praying for you and your family... Blessings to you.. and keep your heads up...
2006-07-13 21:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Zinnina 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hindsight is always 20/20 but it probably would have helped to stop this madness before it started. In order for this neighbor to behave this way, there probably was not strong communication between you two in the beginning. That is irrelevant now because it's escalated into something harmful for your family.
Get a notebook and document everything that has happened and is happening. Include dates, times, description of the incidents, any witnesses and any other pertinent information. Document everything even if you think it's insignificant. Keep this information in a safe place.
Talk with other neighbors to find out if they or their children have had any problems. He may make a habit of bullying others which will help your side. He most likely is bullying his own son as well. Can you talk to the boy's mother?
It may help to get a video camera or have someone housesit if the house is vacant so you can prove he has been coming onto the property and/or vandalizing the property.
It may also help to talk to the police department about getting a restraining order. A person who is troubled enough to do what you are describing probably will not be appeased to let it go. He may bother your son at school or Karate practice. It is better to put the authories at each location on alert.
This could be serious for your son if this man is able to use the court system to continue his bullying. Unfortunately, it is impossible to predict how a case will turn out until it happens. There are just too many variables involved when one is standing before a judge.
2006-07-13 21:47:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a no-contact order on this fellow. Any adult harassing a child is reason for concern. I would advise placing a small tape recorder in your son's pocket or backpack and having him make sure it's on record anytime he's about to pass the neighbor's house. That alone would be proof enough to get the no-contact order. Then I'd see about setting up a security camera or even a simple system to keep Bozo out of your yard. Also, anytime your son has an encounter w/ this fellow, call 911. Have officers come out and make a report. Even if nothing comes of it, at least when it comes down to your son's word against the neighbor's word, he can't go and say, "but he's a juvenile deliquent, look at his record." I know it can be embarrassing to have officers come to your door frequently, but it would be worse if Bozo somehow managed to make it so you had to visit Jr in Juvi Hall. Good luck. P.S. Keep a journal along w/ all police reports.
2016-03-27 04:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, my hunch was right.....there really are a lot of psychos in America these days. Why would you even allow your son around this guy and his son in the first place?! That was your main mistake. But since there's no time machines yet, get a good lawyer to handle your son's case, get the case over with asap, and start a new and MORE PEACEFUL life in your next neighborhood and stay away from psychos and their psycho children. Good luck.
2006-07-14 00:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by Bonethuggg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This whole matter careened out of control when you let your son fight your neighbor's son. That is when this situation got out of hand. Now you're dealing with the consequences. The guy is obviously a lunatic. So now, you are going to have to get a restraining order, or even sue him for harrassment because he is simply going to make your life a living hell. Oh, and buy a weapon of some sort, because I've heard of "bad neighbors" like yours taking it to the next level with breaking and entering. If it comes to property damage and tresspassing, pop a cap in his @$$.
2006-07-13 21:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think it is a case of hurt pride and he wants to repay what your son did to his and I think it is going far beyond his son.
It is his pride mostly and that guy seriously needs to grow up!
and I hoe your son gets his black belt because it so will protect him some day if not then or now. buy a video camera and record this nut! and use it in court! if he goes out someone else bigger goes with him. so if trouble he can phone or defend your son if he has a weapon if not I am very sure your son can put him down.
2006-07-13 21:54:22 · answer #6 · answered by Paul G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you sold your house and are getting out of that neighborhood.
It's only serious for your son if he's convicted, but any decent lawyer will get him off. That's assuming it even goes to trial, which it may not.
You should document / tape as much as possible and stay away from the guy and his family. If he wants to talk to you, turn your head and walk away. Don't let him manipulate you or your son or husband into a confrontation.
2006-07-13 21:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining order usually does the trick.
Since you're moving, don't leave a forwarding address with him.
Lesson learned.
2006-07-14 00:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
T I P S
beat her ***.
sleep with her husband.
set her house on fire.
shoot her dog.
cut a hole in the middle of the trampoline.
sling poo on her house.
slit her tires.
get a for sale sign and put in her front yard.
Hire a Hit man.
send her white powder in the mail. no return address...
*67 her and hang up.
HOPE THIS WORKS.
2006-07-13 21:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by wildwildannie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the police on that 30-year-old predator and send him to prison.
2006-07-14 03:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by liker_of_minnesota 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋