at what point in your pregnancy did you "close up shop" if at all and when did you tell your men to basically..open up their own shops in the meantime until you were ready again...and THEN..when did you feel comfortable having sex again? NOT when you started trying..but when did you actually feel comfortable? My wife is feeling uncomfortable at 5 months and has decided to close down shop....I was just curious to know and I don't want to pressure her at all...I want her pregnancy to go without a hitch and I don't want to hinder her progress. I want to be supportive but seeing how she had a miscarriage the first time, and she was high risk the second time and he was born 2 weeks premature and it was a C-section....the waiting time for any intimacy is going to take a while,...which is fine...I was just curious as far as a timeline...this of course is taking into consideration that NOW we have 2 kids under 3 years of age...so ..there is definitely an exhaustion factor, healing etc...
2006-07-13 21:31:20 · 14 answers · asked by juanes addicion 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
caveat..in our religion masturbation is not allowed....so if you can respond with that in mind...how can i suppress those thoughts and physical needs of my own during the next 4-7 months?
2006-07-13 21:34:27 · update #1
If sex is comfortable for her, she does not have to close up the shop and can have sex up till she starts labour. If she does not feel comfortable, it's better that she stops. After the baby is born, there is a waiting period - the doctor will tell how long.
Good luck!
2006-07-17 13:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shaana 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Its not just a matter of how much time, but also 'how many advances she's turning down'. With communication, those could be different. If we had sex about twice a week, and she occasionally declined but was up for it the next day, there'd be almost no problem. Like someone else said, its when the rejections start piling up there are problems. 3 days of straight rejection and I'd _begin_ to be affected, though not as much as when weeks/months go by. You should also be aware that 'illness/injury or child birth' is less black and white then things seem. Low libido problems generally have 'reasons' why they consider their constant refusals to be justifiable. For example, most of us would consider 'being really tired' a possible reason to turn down sex. Low libido partners will often find they are too tired for ... oh a 6 month or 3 year stretch because its been busy at work or they have young kids. While these do, no doubt, make people tired, if you are _normally_ too tired for sex, being tired is not the problem.
2016-03-27 04:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats about normal, thats when you start to feel the baby inside you moving, and if you lay down you feel it against you. Its also when the water lining starts to really buil up and put pressure on the lower section of the abdomen. Im a bit of a prude but I was ready after about three months. Realize that she will bleed for a good two months after the baby is born. Once her insides settle back in physically she will be ok. Mentally is based on the individual. If she was active before, it wont take long, but if intercourse was a rare occasion,. you could be waiting awhile.
**as far masturbating and religion goes, if its so wrong then why are urges so strong? Its not masturbation if she does it.
2006-07-13 21:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Cozzette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never closed up shop when I was pregnant. I had sex the day before I was induced. By the time my 8th month came around, we were working overtime trying to induce my labor. After I had our first child, I only waited 3 weeks before having sex again. With our second child, I I didn't close up shop, but sex happened very rarely because I had some health risks with my pregnancy. I could still have sex, we were just afraid something would happen to our daughter if we did it too much. After having her, we only waited 4 weeks before having sex again.
2006-07-14 00:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A little after 8 months is when I "closed up shop". The shop re-opened for business 1 week after my 6 week check-up.
And you can still be close w/o going all the way. Cuddle with her, give her massages. And throw all of your energy into getting everything ready for the baby. Congratulations to you both, best wishes.
2006-07-13 21:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex up until I went into labor. Actually, I went into labor right after I had sex with my then boyfriend-now husband. My daughter was born about 20 hours later. Two weeks later I had sex again with boyfriend and that was 6 years ago. I delivered naturally, the doctor had to break my water at the hospital because I was dilating but the water hadn't broke.
2006-07-13 21:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex all the way through the pregnancy.It just depends on your comfort level.I didn't have sex again until after my 6 week check up after giving birth to my daughter.I wanted to make sure I healed fine first.After that reassurance I was completely comfortable with having sex again.
I know you said your religion doesn't allow masturbation,does it allow oral sex?You could ask your wife if she is comfortable doing that.
2006-07-13 22:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both times I was prenant, my husband was a great sport about sex. I had NO desire to have sex the entire time. He suffered for about 9 months each time with a lot of cold showers. Good luck. also as soon as I gave birth, about 3 weeks later I made sure he was taken care of for a long time. Guilt worked wonders for him.
2006-07-14 03:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had sex the whole way, and it brought my labour on. i was three weeks early.
also i had sex again after two and half weeks after the labour. but i wasnt stiched or anything, had a nice three hour labour which was my first.
just because she doesnt want sex doesnt mean she cant do other stuff, that way its not against ur religion.
2006-07-14 01:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by lovelygeorgeoussexy1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i had sex until i was ready to deliver i was due to deliver on the 31st of July 2005 which was a Sunday and i had sex the Friday before (29th) and then exactly six weeks after i had my son i resumed sex and it was great
2006-07-14 03:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋