I found out my boyfriend was chatting on a chat line behind my back so i went on the same chat service but pretended to be somebody else. I have been flirting with him and asking if he has a girlfriend and he has been flirting back but still tells that he has a girlfriend who he loves a lot and thinks the world of! He was talking about me for sure though because he said my name etc.
My plan on this is to now tell him in our next chatting time that the girl he is chatting with now is actually me who is his girlfriend.
What are your opinions on this? Please help!!
If i havent explained properly just let me know.
2006-07-13 21:26:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People he is flirting with some girl he doesnt even know!! Wants to meet her, wants to see her, wants to do other things with her but he doesnt know its me!!
Is HE not in the wrong???
2006-07-13 21:47:21 · update #1
why bother telling him? as the saying goes... what you dont know wont hurt you.
2006-07-13 22:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by jeprx 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I got lots of options. Either do what that other person ssaid about meeting him and busting him. Or tell him u got a friend who is on this chatting service and whos flirting with a guy who has a girlfriend... Tell him that he really loves his girlfriend and thinks the world of her but he still wants to meet her. And hes flirting with someone he doesnt even know! tell him that u think its really lame, and that u would be so hurt if you had a boyfriend who did that behind your back. Then tell him how lucky you are to have him as a boyfriend who wouldnt do something like that... He might feel guilty and stop chatting. U continue chatting and going online to see if he still flirts with u... Good luck! Maybe you shouldnt tell him its u coz he'll get bummed and will probably dump you... but then again hes kinda cheating on you. i know how i felt when i found out then my then boyfriend who was 16 was smsing this girl (and others im sure) who was 12!!! and having phone sex with her!!!!
2006-07-14 05:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hes not a good bf for flirting, but lots of people wouldnt call that cheating, so by some standards hes doing fine. Also hes being good by saying he has a bf that he loves, and obviously not cybering with you. Now there are 2 problems, him sneaking around and lieing by not telling you hes chatting with girls...and you sneaking around and lieing pretending to be someone your not when talking to him. All i can say, is if you tell him, he could either get pissed, dump you, or tell you he didnt do anything wrong then not trust you for along time........you take the risk if you want.
2006-07-14 04:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kim how would you feel if the situation were reversed? Okay, so he is chatting and flirting yet being honest and faithful to you. He just might not take this as a joke and look at this as a trust issue. If you're gonnat tell him do it in person and don't make it humiliating for him by doing it online. I think you owe him that much.
2006-07-14 04:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by The Good Humor Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I believe you are about to severely jeopardize your relationship with him. I know plenty of people who chat on chat lines & never make any attempts to cheat on the people they are with, so I probably wouldn't have made a big deal about the chat line in the first place. That is, unless it's on a sex chat line or something like that. Even so, these actions make you sound very insecure in your relationship, & as though you don't trust him. I'm probably not alone in this line of thought.
Second, when he finds out, you will have violated his trust. No one likes for someone to spy on them. When he finds out, it's likely he may become very angry & hurt that you would stoop to such tactics. I'm sure he thought he was more worthy of your trust than to warrant espionage. If it were me, a move like this might bring about the end of my relationship. If I were faithful, & my girlfriend revealed she had spied on me anyway, I would probably feel I deserved better than that, & break up with her.
You may be lucky, & your boyfriend may have figured out that it is you already. Or, it's possible he may find these tactics cute. Just be warned not all men would, & many of us would feel far more betrayed than you could have when you found out he was going to chat lines. I certainly hope you don't end up throwing away what could possibly end up being a wonderful relationship just because you had to spy on your boyfriend. It really was a childish & immature act, & if you tell him about it at all, I truly believe you owe him a big apology. If he has been faithful to you, it sounds as though he deserves better than this.
2006-07-14 04:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've found out what you wanted to know. He chats and flirts with other girls, but he lets them know that he loves YOU. How's he going to react when he sees your lack of trust? I wouldn't blame him if it made him really angry, or very hurt, because you didn't believe in him. I think telling him (i.e. honesty) would be the best thing, but you'd better be prepared for his reaction.
I say you should tell him because he'll probably find out about it sooner or later, just as you found out *he* was chatting.
2006-07-14 04:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Muddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooo...I'm not so sure he's going to like the fact that you found out then went behind his back. He may not take it as just a joke, or just playing around and may actually dislike you for trying something like that. I think you should have your "fake girl" tell him off. Have this girl you made up tell him not to flirt w/you becuz its just like cheating on his g/f. That way, you win both ways. Good luck!!
2006-07-14 04:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey play it up let it continue as this maybe the way to catch him doing something wrong, if you tell him he might get very upset with you too though so you have to watch how you do it. maybe ask him if he wants to meet somewhere just as friends though cause you do have a boyfriend also right and then go and meet him and make it look all stupid and be like well i guess we were meant to be together then. make a joke out of it though to relieve the tention. good luck.
2006-07-14 04:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually you're both in the wrong and the fact that your deceiving him proves it's not much of a relationship to begin with. you're obviously both young so my advice is to date several people and don't get serious until you mature a little. trust is the most important thing between two people and without it you have nothing but an illusion built with smoke and mirrors.
2006-07-14 12:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
l think you should just stop going on the chat coz if you tell him its you he might not take it lightly coz he will say you don't trust him enough that you followed him to the chat to get some info.
Since you now know where he stands just stop visiting the chatroom
2006-07-14 04:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Bugzyville 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you definitely shouldn`t tell him. you obviously have some trust issues too. if you trusted your boyfriend why would you care if he went in a chat he was in? if he knows that it was you he might feel like you don`t trust him and then you will have drama over something so stupid. trust is one of the most important things in a relationship.
2006-07-14 04:35:53 · answer #11 · answered by GABE`S BABE <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋