do you feel like a black sheep of the family?

Question

i feel like i am the odd one out in my family,my younger sister gets everything her way.and it upsets me. i think we should be treated the same. Are you the blacksheep of the family,and how does it make u feel

Answer 1

I'm the youngest and I feel like the black sheep. To tell you the truth, I'm not as bad as my older siblings, but they always point at me and judge all of the stupid things I do. They were worse than me, but my parents just wouldn't find out.

Answer 2

Everyone in my family has been upper-middle class for as far back as my relatives would like me to believe. They've all had black or dark brown hair, had very average grades, and never really done anything particularly wild.

Then there's me.

Red hair, straights A's through high school, and I have a child out of wedlock. I was also a bit of a partier, and I have a tattoo (something my parents still don't exactly approve of). My dad practically kicked me out of the house for that last one. I've always been a little off from the rest of my family. I still love them whole-heartedly, but sometimes I can't shake the idea that maybe I'm adopted or something. I can't help but stand out in family photos.

Whether it's my genetics or my generation that made me who I am, it doesn't really matter. I love being the oddball. It can really be to your benefit if you play your cards right. Good luck with it all.

Answer 3

A lot of people do feel like they don't get enough attention in their families. Attention might be annoying. If you are the rule breaker and the one who initiates something they don't want to happen, THAT is the real meaning of Black sheep. They get the most negative attention.

You don't need to surpass her in everything she does. You need to focus on your own talents. Once you stop comparing yourself you'll find out that you're special in your own way.

Judging from what you have described, you're not the black sheep of the family.

Answer 4

God yeah and I suffer from MCS Middle Child Syndrome where the 1st born is always favoured and the last is the baby and its so obvious that the one in the middle was supposed to be a girl not a boy or a boy not a girl which is why they went and had another kid to get it right. It makes me feel tolerated not lobed and quite franly I am just waiting to pick up my third of the inheritance. They profess (your Parents)there is no black sheep but parents tell lies. remenber the one about Father Christmas. Cheer up though at least you can sheer yourself and sell the wool!

Answer 5

Yes I do, and it's odd. In my family that consists of 4 boys and one girl who is also the youngest (yup you guessed it, that's me), we have a habitual complainer/bitcher, a Reverand Budweiser (you know the guy who's always right, and then on top of it gets drunk and decides he's gonna tell you what's wrong with your life and your faith), a prep who looks perfect on the outside but is more intimately screwed up on the inside then the rest put together, a heroin addict, and then me, a harmless girl who wears all her "weird" on the outside. I'm into piercings and tattoos very much, and have always dressed in what they call a goth or macabrely sexy style, yet my personality is that of someone whom you might meet at a political rally or higher learning institution. Not to say I'm a genius, I'm just very thought out, calm and honest. Yet the way I dress and express myself through my piercings makes everyone, including the whole of my family think I am some bizarre creature they could never understand.
It makes me feel horrible, especially when I am not asking anyone to understand, that in itself would be a huge undertaking. Afterall I really don't even understand myself completely, who does? All I ask is that my family love me for the good I try to contribute, and the intellectual opinions I bring to the table. Yet as it is now, all they can see is the modifications to my skin,...

Until people can look past their own biasts and misunderstandings, there's noway anyone can truly be understood, and noone should ever be catagorized, but having said all this.

There's always a favorite, it sucks I know, but it's true. Parents always have a favorite child, one who usually reminds them of themselves. I believe personally this favoritism is born of the inability for others to understand something foriegn to them. For example, a mother taking a special liking in a daughter that reminds her herself, isn't usually a planned proccess. It happens merely because the mother feels she can put herself in that particualr childs shoes better, and understands her actions or lack there of better,...so

Think of it this way, perhaps you parents don't look to you as kindly as they do your sibling because you are merely on a higher intellectual plane, one that stumps and confuses them, I mean afterall what's so bad about being the black sheep if it's because your thought proccess and intelligence is of a higher level then those around you can appreciate right?

Hope this helps even a little, it helps me. lol Seriously, I know I may not know you, but I know how lonely it is to be the odd one out,... if you want someone to talk to, please feel free and drop me a line, that's what my emails there for. *We can be odd weirdos together,...lol*

Best of Hope, Dora

Answer 6

Hun, when I was younger I absolutely hated being the black sheep of the family. My family are very musically talented: they sing and play instruments. I hated these things and so i never participated in any family activities. It made me feel bad about myself. As I grew up, I discovered that I liked women, that caused a huge upheaval in my families lives, they hated me for it and i think they still do.... The difference is that i really dont give a damn. it is my life and i choose to do whatever makes me happy, so you do the same. If they dont accept you for who you are then they are out of order.

Answer 7

Yes I actually am a black sheep - highly evolved and able to use the internet. Today I found a Welsh sheep porn site and I feel great. All the other sheep are jealous.

Answer 8

You are only a black sheep cos u want to be odd,u should be happy for your sister try and fine out what u are not doing right.

Answer 9

Sometimes I do. I'm the only one who's into metal and paganism in my family. My attraction to all things morbid and bizarre make me an outcast but I'm fine with it. As long as I stay true to myself is all that really matters to me.

And in your case, well... younger siblings are always spoiled no matter what. It used to irritate me to see my mother taking sides with my youngest sister and blaming me for everything. Eventually I got over it and my mother realized all that spoiling did her no good now! haha talk about a backfire, eh?

Answer 10

"Black sheep" is a term that denotates a person who turns down family tradition, values, behaviour and sucsess.
"White sheep" is, logically, black sheep's opposition: the one who's making everything better.
"Normal" families usualy don't like anyone who's different from them. Don't mark yourself as a "black sheep" just because you don't feel you have a support from your family members. Maybe they're just wrong. On the other words, maybe you're "white sheep".
Stay well!
Best regards from Belgrade!