okay if you have no feelings for this girl and you *** her wat do you do afterwards....? would you get up and leave and never talk to her bout it again or something like that... or would you like get done and be like was it good or something and then kiss her b4 you left and hug her.... i mean wat would that mean if you kissed her and hugged her that you wanted more then just sex like a relationship or wat....? help...!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-13 20:46:27 · 25 answers · asked by hesgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IF we just met, I hug and kiss good bye and out the door and I am on my way.
If we have have a couple of dates and I know it is just friends and straight booty call.. I kiss her and tell her see her later.
So it sounds like you have feelings for this guy, and are hoping for more. To be honest, if you gave it up to him and he just wants to be friends, it is just the beginning of a possible "benneficial friends". But if you have feelings for this guy, you might not want to go down that road and cut him off now.
On the other hand, if all you want out of it is a booty call, then just keep on doing what you are doing.
There you go, no BS, straight up.
2006-07-13 20:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Charles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
Simply put, sex for guys has no meaning.
It is just sex, we like sex. But in the process forget that there is a price to pay, because there is another human being with real cares, feelings and concerns ... if we are not married to the female involved.... we are in the wrong place....
Sex for women is different. Sex for YOUNG women is even more different, at least compared to guys.
I am sure you won't like this, but.... for a guy sex is not at all an emotional loving act.... it is just sex.... pure hormones....
For women it is very different. If you have sex with a guy and when all is done, he gives you a hug, shows some affection etc. He does mean it, but an hour later, a day later it is different again. Different than your own response or hopes will be..... we are different in ways well beyond obvious physical differences.
A women (from a guys prospective) places a meaning, potential commitment, love interest etc in that guy. Why, well she just "gave of herself to him" and you don't do that unless you like someone right?? Well, that is more or less how a women feels about it. For the guy.... it is still just sex.... something to do, Lets see, basketball, video games....uhhh, sex.... It is not bad, but if YOU choose to participate that is what you are fighting. A video game, some latest widget for the car, super bowl...
Sex is not a relationship it is just sex, at least for a guy.
If a relationship is to blossom, sex will NOT be part of it for a while. How long, well many months would be a good idea. If there is to be a relationship you and your potential boyfriend need to be way more comfortable with each other in other areas. Sex early on just muddy's the water.
Now, if you decide "you just want to have sex" and that is all. The guy will go and get all jealous if he sees you with a different guy.... What a mess, it seems nobody is right and everything is wrong....
So what do you do??? How does all this get to where it makes some sense.... ?? What a great question!!! :)
Here are some rules that may help: If the guy won't follow them, he is he wrong one... OK?
1. Don't allow yourself to be alone or in some other compromising place with him. If there is a room full of people a jumping into sex, you need to get out of there and remember Don't allow yourself to be alone or in some other compromising place... with anyone.
2. If you are to meet somewhere, have someone with you, you know you can trust to not leave you alone with him.
3. If he exercises no control ... leave, he is the wrong one.
4. If it is a relationship you want. Treat it like rare flower. As if you have the very last seed. Planted carelessly it can't grow or will be twisted or distorted from what it could have been. Guys are not plants, you can't grow them or change them without some result you cannot predict. If you feel you "need" to change him... he is the wrong one....
5. My mother would tell you to get an aspirin. Place it between your knees and keep it there. If you begin to open your legs. you will drop the aspirin, don't drop the aspirin.... I know it is a really bad analogy. It simply means you have control of you .... you can't control him....
6. Meet with people in daylight, in public, outside .... don't be alone. You have control.
I suppose I sound like your parents, well I am one. I do know your life and the guys you know have a much better chance at great life if you focus more on education and a career.
You will learn to love the life you CAN have ... if you will learn to love you ... now... without the guy... just you ..... Then hard as it may be to believe... one day… The RIGHT guy will be there.... for you, only you. You will then know why you waded through the others and waited for the right one.... Best of luck to you....
2006-07-14 04:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by skating265 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people (girls or guys) who are not interested don't want to make the other feel bad so they are polite and courteous. It can be mistaken for showing interest when the person is not interested. I left and said goodbye to a girl after bad sex and wasn't interested in seeing her again, but I don't remember kissing and hugging her afterwards because that would confuse her.
2006-07-14 03:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd never have sex with someone for whom I have no feelings. If that was the case, though, I'd hug/kiss her before I left. Usually, that means that he wants more in a relationship and that he does have feelings for her.
Don't go testing to see what guys will do. Find a man that cares for you and not only for your body.
Good luck :-)
2006-07-14 03:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It basically depends on how good the sex is. two people can definately have no feelings for each other personally, and still have earthshattering sex.oh,and the hug means, Thanx and the kiss means Till the next time. No hug no kiss simply means I'll holla, SEEya.
2006-07-14 03:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by m&m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personaly it depends on the guy if he wanna have sex with some even without feelings, hey its alread Y2K... its usual!! as for the question, for me, i have done it, but im not the type who would just leave and never talk to her again maybe a simple kiss and a little talk afterwards. a girl knows if its only a one night or not.
2006-07-14 10:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Xxx☆pjay☆xxX 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you have sex with a girl you don't have feelings for because if you had any feelings at all in your body the truth would be that sex doesn't happen without some sort of feelings.And if you kissed and hugged her at the end of it then you must be lying to yourself about your feelings otherwise you wouldn't have to ask this question. the only question you should be asking yourself is do i have feelings for her.
2006-07-14 03:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! That's exactly what I'm going through right now! She's already said the 'L' word! She wants me to say it but I'm afraid to because, in the past when I said it the emotional 'ShizzNit' hit the fan! We became boyfriend and girlfriend about a week ago. I really want to say, "Baby, I love you." Men are more protective of their emotions than women because when we commit it 'Reality' tends to change for us - so to speak. To answer your question, yes. he wants a relationship, but you're going to have to let him be the 'Chaser'; so cut him off from the 'Poo-Nanny' for awhile and let him know that your emotional state has changed. -he'll come around!
2006-07-14 03:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's good, then definitely want to do her again. So, I would definitely keep in touch. I wouldn't kiss her or give her false impressions besides sex. I would draw the line very clear.
2006-07-14 03:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least try and kiss her so that she did not think that at the moment, but if I was really not interested, I would leave her alone and hope that she got the message. That is not bull ****
2006-07-14 03:50:09 · answer #10 · answered by showtimegk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋