Girls say I am hot and really good looking. The thing is, I am terrible at talking to girls. My brothers have all gotten girls no problem and they have tried to give me advice but when I follow it I always mess up. I learned that having no GF is better than a bad one, so heres my question. I finally met a girl I really like, but she barely knows me. I don't know how to talk to her, I know what she likes and everything. Can anyone give me advice on what to talk to girls about, and what they want to here. I am very shy.
2006-07-13 20:28:57 · 27 answers · asked by Amor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes i have some useful tips on how to ward off that shyness
2006-07-13 20:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shyness is often cute, but for the person in question it is very difficult. It is important to talk about what you are interested in and to hear what she wants to say. How many people just talk and talk without listening?!
It works to go to acting classes. Weird as it is, you have to learn new behavior. When you do not know what to do, don't fall back on shyness, but on acting.
Self-criticism and tension makes it more difficult. Just tell yourself you can do it. Overcoming Shyness may in large part be about working to change or eliminate these negative beliefs. Negative thinking creates anxiety, and interferes with attention and concentration.
Try having a conversation and being friendly when all of that is going on! Start, be prepared to overcome difficulties and reward yourself when you have taken small steps.
Good luck, I know you can do it, you have taken the first step by posing this question.
2006-07-14 03:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Stillwater 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must learn confidence. You can be shy and still be confident. Women have confidence radar. They will seek out an average man with confidence, before a stud who isn't. Pretend you are confident and you will become confident. Why shouldn't you puff out your chest, make eye contact and have confidence that you have alot to offer, your a great guy, and you have the integrity to admit your have an issue. You may need an anti-anxiety/anti-depressant to use as a band-aid if you are really struggling. Paxil works well for social anxiety. The drug has been found to work well to rewire people who struggle with crippling shyness. While on the drug they learn how to handle themselves socially and when they taper off the drug they have new ways of acting and coping.
The best way would be to find something your good at, develop that skill, and have confidence that you have something unique and special. When she senses you feel good about yourself, she is all yours. We love happy, confident people because they are confident enough to to be unconfident.
2006-07-14 03:37:02 · answer #3 · answered by Eric A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's the thing. I used to be somewhat shy like you around girls. But what you need to know is not what you can talk to girls about, because that doesn't help very much. Girls like shy guys! Well, some do. I think you should just try to get to know her, and just talk to her. Random things lighten up the conversation, and most important of all, BE YOURSELF! Even if you are shy, talking to her shows her that you are a shy person, and hopefully, she will accept you for the shy person that you are. You also get to know her better this way.
Good luck with this girl! I hope things work out for you.
P.S. - Don't do or say anything perverted, I don't think girls like that very much. Don't be nervous or try too hard! Remember, being yourself is the most important thing you need to know.
2006-07-14 03:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmy C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls love a guy who is sensitive and who is interested in what they opinions are on different subjects. So, ask questions to get things started. Say like; ask her what are her likes and dislikes, not just with boys, but what kind of people she likes or doesn't. you can generally tell a lot about a person by the way they respond when asked about other people. Say someone who doesn't feel very good about themselves is usually going to do a lot of putting others down. A truly kind spirit will have great difficulty with finding faults in others. So ask questions!
2006-07-14 03:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by cancerwright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you finally met a girl you like although she barely knows you. As for you saying you don't know how to talk to her, I suggest you just let it run its own course. Don't think about what you're going to do or what you're going to say too much or the chances are... you're going to scare yourself out of into doing it. Simply ask her if she wants to hang out, not as an official date but a casual thing just to start things off and get to know each other. You said you know what she likes so ask her about it, keep good eye contact (as in look at her in the eyes not her chest) and listen ATTENTIVELY. Make her feel comfortable and just let the conversation flow. If it works out then good for you, ask her out and sweep her off her feet but if it doesn't then at least it was worth a shot. Just remember, she'll probably be as nervous as you are and very flattered too. So main point here is... Be calm, don't think too much, don't panic... let it flow. Good Luck.
Maaaan, I wish the guy I like had the same thing going on for him.
2006-07-14 03:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Accidentally in Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I like interesting conversations with guys.. talking about music, movies, your own personal experiences, other people, art, spirituality, and food... :P
those are some good subjects.. Don’t be shy towards a girl you like.. I am a naturally shy person myself. I try to be interested and excited to talk to a guy I like.
I hope I helped a little bit.
Take care
Ta ta
2006-07-14 03:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by kiki Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple and easy, next time you talk to her say im kinda thirsty want to go get a soda/coffee (whatever you like) with me? Make it a fun affair. Over a drink you can kinda break the ice, girls want you to make the first move and even if its small it'll be appreciated and make her have butterflies in her stomach. Both of you will be able to open up after the ice is broken Good luck
2006-07-14 03:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're genuinely interested in this girl then it should be no problem. But maybe a lack of self-confidence is making you not genuinely interested yet?
Try not to be someone you're not or make yourself feel uncomfortable unless you are trying to advertise the type of person you are.
And I would choose a girl with an easy-going personality before choosing a nice-looking one. It's hard finding one that is both who isn't already taken!
2006-07-14 03:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, occasionally look at her. Wait for her to notice you looking at her and give her a slight or good smile. This will let her know that you like her. Then just talk to her about something after that, not immediately afterward but sometime after. This is a good strat.
2006-07-14 03:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in really good shape go to the beach and show your abs of try dating websites if you want to meet a girl. Tell them your job and your status. You can be a batch or look sexy and no need to be shy. Just go for it. Good luck
2006-07-14 03:34:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋