I've never had a same sex relationship and I really like this girl, she is gay. It's just very difficult because she works alot and I maybe she her once every other week. Also, I'm uncertain b/c I do like guys but I like her so I'm a bit confused. I have found in the past that being honest about you feelings is a good thing and can help you decide where you're going but this is different. If I did tell her and it didn't work out I don't plan on pursing a same sex relationship because I'm not particularly interesting in that. I like the person not the gender. What do I do?
2006-07-13 20:11:56 · 17 answers · asked by if i only knew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't just feel "experimental". I just really like her. She's just really sweet she visits me and brings her guitar and we talk about everything. We are so much alike. We read the same books, like the same music, and have similar ideals. She's an artist and so am I. She makes me happy. I know we're good friends. I just don't know how she feels and I don't want to ruin it but I feel crazy because I want to be closer.
2006-07-13 20:38:54 · update #1
In this situation I would say follow your heart. Deep down inside you know what it is that you want to do and what is truly right for you. There is a technique that we use in my family to figure out what it is that we really want to do. The way I do this with my kids when they're not sure what to do is that I will command them to do one thing then I will command them to do the other thing. I then ask them which one did they feel happy about and which one did they feel upset about. This helps clarify for them what they are honestly wanting to do deep down inside.
So here it goes:
YOU'RE GOING TO ASK THIS GIRL OUT!
--Well, did that feel good or did it feel cruddy?
Next:
YOU'RE NOT GOING TO ASK THIS GIRL OUT!
--O.K. did you feel relieved when I said that or did you feel disappointed or upset?
So now, be honest with yourself. Which one felt the best and which one felt the worst. There's your answer.
2006-07-13 20:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tea 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you ask her out, you must make your intensions clear:
Are you just feeling experimental?
She's gay, and no-one likes a tourist- however
she may just want to hook up for sex.
What do you want, and does she want the same?
I suggest that you ask, besides- she could already have someone in her life.
Good luck- :)
2006-07-14 03:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by superdink_dotcalm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, straighten out your own sexual orientation. Choose your friends carefully. A normal , straight relationship is greatly encouraged. Keep yourself socially active with good friends.
2006-07-14 03:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by Bright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question answers you....... I don't plan on pursing a same sex relationship because I'm not particularly interesting in that.
2006-07-14 03:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Diana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it if and only if you are sure about your feelings. She may feel slighted that you are bi-curious, and really, its not fair to her that you want to "pursue" your feelings just to "find" out. Just be her friend. Express to her your dilemma about this situation. If you truly like this person, then gender shouldn't matter.
2006-07-14 03:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by soulfli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say love is love. its not complicated like u make it sound...u 2 should just go out and have a good time..stop obsessing!
2006-07-14 03:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by suenos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it, if it doesnt work its fine you can move on to do whatever you wish to do..whether its to date same gender or opposite..if you dont ask her and see where this relationship goes then youll always have that doubt..
2006-07-14 03:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by sinful vampyra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being friends first and talk to her about u have certain feelings for her and see if she might be into u. good luck
2006-07-14 03:17:06 · answer #8 · answered by hotti_4x4_gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! You got nothing to lose. Good luck!
2006-07-14 03:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart...theres no harm in trying...
After all,at least you've been honest to yourself and to her...
God Bless...
2006-07-14 03:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by xx_Liza_xx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋