I have been involved with a man for 3 yrs. When I met him, it was *wow* an instant connection. We have only been intimate once. But lately he calls, visits me at work...just wanting to know how I am. He tells me that he is 'torn'. That he loves his fiance of ten yrs. and would marry her if it wasn't for financial problems. He tells me that his feelings for me have changed. That he cares about how I am doing, wants to know how I am. We have had phone sex several times. Just the sound of his voice drives me wild. Its a relationship built on lust, but can it be turning into something more? He says that he won't leave her (not in a mean way) but he just lets me know that he can't give me his whole heart. Then he goes on to tell me how perfect we are for each other and that he knows I would do anything for him (cause i would) and that I would make a great wife. I am so torn. My nerves are shot. I love him/can't get him off my mind. Is he using me? Please, I need some advice.
2006-07-13 19:28:00 · 3 answers · asked by JT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for the answers. yeah, wish i could find one of the good guys that are out there. it really woke me up hearing someone say....'do you think that little of yourself'... so you get my 10points. thanks guys. gotta let go of him.
2006-07-14 18:39:53 · update #1
He really sounds like a great catch.
Christ on the cross, wake up. He is freakin' using you.
Do you think that little of yourself?
2006-07-13 19:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Hmm....he sounds like a wimp and a jerk....why do girls like you like these freakin idiots?? I really wanna know??
2006-07-14 02:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by BA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His fiance of ten years! (That should tell you something right there.)
2006-07-14 02:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by The Invisible Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋