My husband always away, but this time, we talk on the phone, he wants me to get pregnant again (1st child just 16 mnts), when he come home next week. I already 35 and he is 44. I feel too old to get pregant again. Can I just take a pill without his knowledge.
2006-07-13 19:14:21 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You could but do you really want that much dishonesty in your marriage? Why not just talk to him about it. 35 is not too old to be a mommy. I had my last one when I was 37. He is a normal little boy. If it is because you are the only one at home taking care of the one that you have and you don't feel that you could take care of another right now then just tell him that. Explain how you feel. Communication is very important in a marriage.
2006-07-13 19:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mawyemsekhmet 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can take pills if you want. Reverse the situation for a moment. How would you feel if your husband went for a vasectomy without your knowledge? (There is no birth control pill for men for me to make this a fair comparison).
Why can't you talk to him about this and explain that you don't want to have more children, if that's the case? If you want more children but are concerned about your age, you probably should do some research on this topic. Many women 35+ have children with no problems. The thirty-five number is a statistical cut-off point but it is not a "magic" catch-all age for all birth defects. If you want more children, have them. If you don't, don't. However, the best solution is educating yourself about your options and open communicating about those options with the person you chose to marry.
2006-07-13 19:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by jd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can take a pill without his knowledge...your 35 years old. And if you dont want another baby thats your decision he cant force you to have another baby..Because your at that age where you have to really worry about birth defects and mental retardation. But thank god we live in the world we do now that can detect those problems early in pregnancy.
2006-07-14 02:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by ashleygravley_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have just tried on your husband's shoes... what i came up with is i would want you to tell me the truth, because if i really wanted another child and you didn't say otherwise...... time goes by and i think we are on the same page. i think we are both trying for the same goal, to have a baby together. then one day out of the blue (months or weeks maybe year i dunno) i find your pills when i am looking for the toothpaste or something, and my heart is broken... you lied to me, you lied to me, you betrayed me. how could you do that?
o.k. i'm wearing my own shoes again. did that make sense?
2006-07-13 19:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you can be truthful to save problems later when he realizes he has less chances of having Grandchildren. That's where I'm at right now. If you deceive him now and he finds out later, it will be hard for him to feel like he got the most out of your relationship. Ttherefore be up front and tell him the truth if you want a long marraige.
2006-07-13 19:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him. if you lie to him or hide taking the pill., you are just going to cause more problems than what you would have by just telling him you don't want to. Honesty is the best policy!
2006-07-13 19:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by hotmama3712 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could, but that's dishonest. next time you talk to him tell him your fears and concerns, ask for at least a month to consider his request, and if he's decent, he shouldn't pressure you.
2006-07-13 19:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jbeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the husband and the bible says for wives to obey your husbands but husbands protect your wives. So if it would hurt you "other than the norm" go ahead.
2006-07-13 19:19:10 · answer #8 · answered by whitetrashwithmoney 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋