Guys !!!! Please help. I met this guy who was cute, nice, educated. We had a great time (atleast I think we did)...first date:no kiss, second date:still no kiss, third date: still no kiss......and so on until the fifth date. Why would he string me along on five dates and not kiss me. I mean dont guys know how to stop asking girls out that they are not interested in? I dont get it. If I was not kissable, then why ask me out again? And if he wanted to be just friends then how come he never called me back? It was a waste of my time frankly, but I still wonder why it took him five dates to realize that I was not his type.
2006-07-13 19:01:39 · 22 answers · asked by Sofia V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably to shy. I bet he is very nervous about it. The longer he waits the harder it is for him. Why dont you take matters into your own hands.
2006-07-13 19:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by Goblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, just maybe he is a gentlman. Did you get a kiss on the cheek? Does he seem open to you? Touch your hand or hold your hand? Could also be that you guys go out for dinner and he thinks his breathe is kicking. Next time bring gum with you and offer it to him as the date comes to an end.
If you really do like the guy and he seems open to you in a romantic way, just take the time and build on the friendship part some and getting to know him. If it gets to a point where it is just friends, then keep it that way.
Sheeeshh.. complain when men are being an gentlemen, complain when they seem to forward. Ever wonder why men seem unsure about what to do and why?? Dang, Ive gone back to asking if I could kiss the girl before I do.
2006-07-13 19:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Charles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first read the opening line to your entire question, I was under the impression that you were still with this young man. Nevertheless, I'll try my best to give you an ear, and an answer: If the young man wasn't gay, there are about two more options: 1.) He discovered early in time that you simply were not his type and lost interest from the very start, or
2.) He is indeed a real "gentleman" who was (or is) highly respecting you and, because of that respect, feels that being forward enough to actually "kiss" you, would be pressing himself upon you and not showing that deep respect. If you were still with that man, and that was indeed the case, I would support you even further and tell you to hang on to that man; for men like that, are truly difficult in this world to find.
2006-07-13 19:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by LARRY M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly it's taking him a while to warm up to the idea of kissing you...either that or he's afraid he'll offend you. The good thing is that the repeat dates means he's definitely interested. If I were you, I would coax him into kissing you (if that's what you want) by starting small. Reach out to hold his hand while you two are walking - this shows him you aren't afraid to touch him and he will get used to the idea of being close to you that way. When your next date is coming to an end and you're ready for a kiss, lean over, kiss him on the cheek and leave. Hopefully your behavior will boost his kissing confidence for the next date.
2006-07-13 19:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably was just trying to feel you out and didn't want to lead you on if he wasn't that interested. Think he did the right thing.
Dating isn't a waste of time, you tend to learn from meeting a variety of people in a dating setting. Not all dates lead to relationships or bed.
2006-07-13 19:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by GreenManorite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he accepts you the way you are and is willing to wait to get a kiss. Maybe he thinks you're worth more than a kiss. Remember this. There could be worse out there and that patience is a virtue. I wish you peace and joy. Good luck and much wisdom.
2006-07-13 19:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im a guy . and its either hes too shy, waiting on u, or he likes u better than a kiss, or he wants to know u more.
i dont think its the opposite (where he doent like u)
hes probly just embarassed.
FYI lady, u shudnt be worried about this! guys shud be worried about trying to get u to kiss us !
dont worry he will come around
2006-07-13 19:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants friendship? Maybe he is shy? Why not make relationships a point of discussion next time and ask the same way as you ask here. Good luck.
2006-07-13 19:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by guy in Yemen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's just too shy?? maybe he has all the hots for u but well, he doesn't wanna blow it just like tat bcoz he won't know how u will react if he really kisses u, rite?? he doesn't wanna lose a good catch....
or perhaps, pop a few mints when u think u two r getting close to each other...
2006-07-13 21:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your situation is hard...to me it seems that he really likes you. He probably hasn't kissed you yet because he might not be ready to. He could be thinking "wow, this girl is really beautiful and i don't want to screw this up" you are probably intimidating to him. Maybe he just doesn't know the right time to kiss you yet. or just maybe he is ready when you are...and maybe you should let him know.
2006-07-13 19:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by tomwlglvr5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋