We seem to get along very well and I am very honest with him about all aspects of my life and I truly believe that he is too. We talk on the phone, IM and text each other. I am 25 and he is 32. Our problem is that I live in New York and he lives in Georgia. We have only seen pictures of each other.
A few times now he has mentioned how he wants to fly up here to visit me, he would stay in a hotel, but just wanted the chance to see me in person and see if we should take this thing to the next level. Seeing that this is his personality, he is looking for a long term relationship, marriage the whole thing; he wouldn't lie about himself right? Because if he was serious enough to pay his way to come and meet me then he surely wouldn't be lying about his life in Georgia. Or would he? I am always a doubter in relationships and am afraid to be hurt again, I feel that he is sincere and I really care about him. Any opinion on this?
2006-07-13 18:50:38 · 22 answers · asked by Sultry Carino 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you have to trust.. it's a tough one... I'm in a similar position right now and I am absolutely certain that everything my E friend tells me about herself is true... I'm equally honest, but that is one example... it doesn't mean your guy is, right... but you don't hang an innocent man, give him the benefit of your doubt....
I'm scared to fly into Michigan, but for different reasons... I don't want "P" to be disappointed with me... I don't want to destroy the friendship we have built... but most of all, If we DO get on as well in real life as we do "on-line", how the hell do you go further? And what about the heartbreak of leaving her again....... So much to consider... but I know in my heart that one day I will fly out there.
2006-07-13 23:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by engineer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here is what to keep in mind: Just because he is willing to fly up to see you does not mean he isn't lying. He could be ANYONE, someone you may not want to meet. Meeting people on line can be a dangerous business. Make sure you know who you are dealing with before you give him ANY personal info. There really isn't any way of knowing if someone is being honest on the internet. It's up to the individual person to tell the truth . There is nothing to MAKE them be honest. You sound like you belive the way I do, honesty is the best policy. Put the truth out there and they can take it or leave it. I hate when people lie to me and I would never do it to anyone either. That doesn't mean everyone belives as you and I. If you think he is being honest, set up a meeting. However DO NOT give him any personal info until after you can get to know him a little better. I have taken an alternative last name for example on all my bills, internet info etc. With technology so advanced now it is very easy for people to get any info they want on you from something as simple as a phone number. Just be sure that you mention upfront that you have not used your real name so that if things do work out, he will not think you lied to him. Above all be safe! Good luck, hope he IS a good one
2006-07-13 19:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two weeks ago,you asked a question and said a guy said he loves you that is 36 but avoiding you, now you say you asking what to do about a guy who is 32. Is it the same guy or another one? Know if you are the only one he is saying this too, and everything he says is true. Always be careful who you meet on the net. Women are being killed by people they meet on the net. Always meet in public,preferable with others there. Also tell family or someone else his name and where he is from. It's just a safety precaution.
2006-07-13 19:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by nativeamericantay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know but I met a guy through "answers" and we email almost everyday and talk on the phone. We have only seen pictures too. He has mentioned flying to see me but he is in England and me USA. We have an emotional connection but would be scared to meet in person. If you make sure you could not be harmed with your first meeting you should go with your heart. Maybe you could do some checking up on him first. You can get fairly inexpensive reports on the internet.
2006-07-13 18:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you're going to know is by meeting this guy once and for all. If he has suggested coming to see you, then meet him halfway and invite him to New York. He's willing to put himself on the line and spend the money so, give it a go and once you've met him in person, you will get a better perspective of the whole situation. Another thing, ALWAYS trust your gut instinct!
2006-07-13 18:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by mandydc3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the best determinator of such a situation. I met my wife online but we got to know each other very well, She had my work number which she called me on for a few minutes. She had my home number to my family. We were very open and did not hide away only behind keyboards. We phoned loads of times for hours she even talked to my sisters. Even though we were the Atlantic Ocean apart we were involved in each others lives everyday.
When we physically met the first time there was no strangerness about it.
2006-07-13 18:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unfortunately he could be lying about himself. I was kinda in the same situation....talked to a guy online(IM & email) also on the phone. He wanted a relationship. We had exchanged pictures as well. He even had an interview set up for his first day in town. He wanted to go ahead and move here..
When we met......I was thinking .....ummm....who is this guy? His pictures were NOT the same. We went to movies, etc. for the 2 days he was in town. I had to tell him that even though we got along so well I was just not attracted to him........Bummer.....I hated to hurt his feelings.....but I didn't want to give him false hopes or lie to him.
Be sure your family/friends know where you will be with him.
Take care.....be safe......good luck....I hope he's the one. :)
2006-07-13 20:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by txholdemgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet in a public place. Don't drink with him yet. Don't get in the car with him. Carry pepperspray and a charged cell phone. You can have a positive instinct and be completely wrong. Be safe and let others know what you are doing. It might help for him to meet your friends and family from the get-go.
2006-07-13 18:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by neener68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention how long you have been talking to him. That is the first thing to be considered. A person can buy a ticket and still be a liar. Be careful dear. Lots of good liars on the internet.
2006-07-13 18:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hum,. I would make sure he is for real, Investigate and see if he's married, single, or is he really telling you the truth about alot of things. Trust ur instincts. Try a trick question remember it and see if he comes back with the same answer that he gave you about something personal that he said. I have tried this it works for me. Trust your instincts and heart.
2006-07-13 18:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by karen g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋