what is a suitable bedtime for my 15 year old daughter?

Question

i don't want her staying up all ours of the night. especially on days that she has work. i know i can't force her to go to bed then; when does your 15 year old go to bed?

in the summer she works at a fast food chain and mostly has shifts in the morning. i dont know why but thats her schedule.

Answer 1

i think 10:30 is fair for a 15 year old on a school days...there's really nothing else to watch (appropriate for her age) after 10pm anyways. Also, theres nothing else to do later than that except go online AND that's not good being online unattendant so late at night.

On weekends, be more lenient and let her stay up till midnight.

To prevent being hated by a teenager,Compromise....tell her by the time she turns16, her curfew will be negotiable only if she follows the curfew she has now.

Answer 2

I firmly believe that this should be up to her to decide.

That was the way it was done at my father's house when I was 15 and that's the way it's done now.

I'm 27 years old and still have six brothers who live at home from ages 14-19.

The standing rule at my father's house is not open for discussion and remains very simple- you are to be ontime for school in the morning and there for any family function regardless of what you were doing the night before.

It has very rarely failed and is to the satisfaction of everyone.

This taught all of the older children responsibility early on and allowed my father to get his sleep rather than spending half the night listing to whining and complaining about going to bed so early.

After two days of staying up late playing video games and being tired at school the next day I learned to limit myself using my own common sense.

My little brothers are never late to school, make no excuses and simply do their homework on their own time now, finding that later at night there is less activity and less distraction.

You may have resolved yourself not to do this by the time you read the very first sentence but I'm telling you that it's worked in my family for as long as I can remember- at least give it some thought before dismissing it outright.

Weigh the benefits of your 15 year old learning some responsibility on her own rather than simply having it forced on her. Natural consequences for actions are far more effective than threat of punishment. That is why when I moved out on my own I didn't go insane with my newfound freedom knowing that my parents weren't there to punish me.
After all, it wont be long before your 15 year old is an adult- what do you think will happen when your child is living alone and the threat of punishment lives somewhere else? Trust me, this is better.

Answer 3

When I was 15 my bed time was 9:30 on school days and 10:30 on summer vacation.

Answer 4

I don't think I would call it bedtime--she's going to have homework, and school activities, and all kinds of stuff. I would just let her know that she needs to be up by _________ and she needs to get enough sleep. Then tell her when she needs to be home without friends and in her room (or another area if she shares a room) quietly. (I would suggest 10:00 on weekends and summer, and 9:00 on school nights). Then you don't have to worry about her out all night, she learns some responsibility, and you're helping her become closer to adult. :)

Answer 5

For the summer (supposing she doesn't have to get up early or have summer school) about 12 and on the weekends maybe 1
For school 10-11 just depends if she can still wake up and not have grades slip or fall asleep in class

Answer 6

11:00pm....if she gets up without problems in the morning.....however, if she has a hard time waking up and complains every morning, drop it by 30 min. until she starts getting up with problems.

Oh, and i don't think that a 15 needs a bedtime during summer or weekends, maybe a certain time for her to go to her room and chill out without disturbing the other household members.......remember, she's 15

Answer 7

when i was 15 i had to go to bed at 10 on the weekdays and 11 on the weekends

Answer 8

at least eight hours before she has to get up, so school nights depend on what time she needs to wake to get ready. So, if she has to get up at 6am, 10pm should be okay. Actually, studies show(see source) kids that age need more sleep than average adults, so if she can't get going in the mornings on 8 hours, you may want to make it 9 or 9.5 hours.
Its also supposed to stay consistent, but I think a little leeway is in order for that age on weekends.

Answer 9

10:30 to 11:00 PM every night

Answer 10

My father train me & my siblings to sleep by 10pm, enough 7-8 hours of sleep for 1. Now as an adult, though we sleep quite late, my siblings and I had no problem waking up in the morning and punctual for any appointment. If non-school days, we still sleep at 10pm and treat it as a "bonus extra time" to sleep longer.