I work in an office with 4 other women. We have no dress code...one of the women whom is over 40 wears clothes that are enitrely too young for her and not appropriate for office attire. Most of the time her stomach shows and when she bends over or sits down you can see the crack of her "Butt". She and my boss are friends...this makes it very difficult for the rest of the office assistants to discuss this matter. We are totally embarassed by her clothing and can't understand why she doesn't see that she is making a spectacle of herself! Can anyone out there give me any ideas on how or what I can do to open my bosses eyes to see that this is totally unappropriate without causing an uproar with the rest of the employees.
2006-07-13 18:41:10 · 10 answers · asked by Bluewillow 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just ignore it. There is not much that you could do that would not be offensive. So just be polite to your co-workers and be glad that-that is the problem instead of the numerous more worrisome ones that could be happening in the office. You know what I mean??
2006-07-13 19:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by just julie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think it's your business what your colleague wears to work. If there is no dress code and the boss sees no problem with it I don't see why you should do anything about this.
But if you're desperate to do something, start a discussion about clothes sometime, talk about what you like and don't like and get some more colleagues (including the one whose clothes bother you) to chat about it for a while or talk about clothes you just bought or something. Maybe during that talk you'll get the chance to subtly hint to her that her clothes aren't really appropriate.
Or if you know each other more, ask her an some other colleague if they don't want to go shopping together sometime and then you can tell this woman what would look great on her. If she doesn't agree and really likes what she wears, I think you should just accept that and get over this. There's no reason to insult her just because you don't share the same taste.
2006-07-14 09:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this isn't really your dilemma now is it? Now if there was a strict dress code, you'd have something to back yourself with to ask her to change her style. But as her friend, you can suggest going shopping together on a weekend and pointing out things that would really flatter her (age and body wise). Other than that, contact WHAT NOT TO WEAR... Once she sees herself in the 360 degree mirror she'll see what a spectacle she's making out of herself hehe!
2006-07-14 01:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by GlitzNGlam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noone should have to open your boss' eyes if this is an office looks like the boss would know that is inapproiate for office attire. When you deal with the public you have to respect yourself b4 the public will respect you
2006-07-14 01:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by bobby_brenda_slone2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is not your company where do you get off being so self righteous about who is dressed properly and who is not. Are you highly educated in fashion or just an opinionated buffoon who thinks because you do not like what she wears she ought not wear it. It sounds to me like you are just a regular office worker with not an ounce of authority to tell anyone what to do or what to wear. Lord if you are the future of our work force we are in deep trouble .
2006-07-14 02:30:12 · answer #5 · answered by windyy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should contact What not to Wear in TLC.. They are experts in solving your problem while they completly ridicule the person in National TV. Hey at least she makes out with a whole new wardrobe (5.000 Dollars) and your problem will be gone...
2006-07-14 01:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could invite her to go shopping with you and give her tips (just like you would if you were with your gals and you were trying on skirts i.e. That one is okay, but THIS... this would look amazing on you. It is very flattering to your figure).
If that would make you uncomfortable, make sure you mention it on the days when she looks more appropriate. We like to be complimented and she may slowly evolve her style to keep getting your approval.
2006-07-14 01:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by amymame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is not your dilemma. If your female colleague didn't ask you for advice on how she should dress, so probably have her own idea of what looks good on her not what you think it looks good on her. Got it?
2006-07-14 02:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by h2o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write an anonymous note and put it on your boss's table.
2006-07-14 01:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go shopping with her?
2006-07-14 04:15:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky♣Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋