Why do women limit what they are looking for in a man. He has to be a certain height, age, weight, race, have a certain job, live in a certain place, or drive a certain car. They fail to see what it is importan and that is the man himself. Beside do you fall in love with all of those things, or do you fall in love with the man, his personality, and the way he treats you. A good man may be right here waiting for you, but you never notice him because of the reasons stated. I am a good man, have been told that many times, but yet I am still single because a good woman would not look at me. You never know, he may be right in front of your face, you just have to open your eyes and see him, think outside of the box and give him a chance to make you happy.
Age: 33
Height: 5'3"
Weight: 145
Race: Mexican
Status: Divorced
Works 2 jobs and takes care of dad who had a stroke. I am always a gentleman and very respectful.
2006-07-13 18:23:25 · 20 answers · asked by lignebur72 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not generalizing in any way, if I was I would have said 'All Women'.
2006-07-13 18:30:12 · update #1
First, I am not desparate or anything of the sort. In order to be a better man for a woman, it is always good to know how they think, so you will able to work with any situation that is thrown your way.
2006-07-13 18:39:43 · update #2
I could turn it around and ask why do men go for hot chicks with big boobs? But I won't because though I realize that SOME men do, I can't generalize all men into the same category.
Sadly it is true that SOME women judge men based on the things that you named, but it is no more fair of you to generalize all women than it is for some women to judge men based on race or income.
The bottom line here is when you come across a woman like that she is not worth your time. You sound like a nice man who cares for people so don't give doofass women who do judge, the time of day.
2006-07-13 18:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by kneesox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 myself I am very very picky, the man I would like to fall in love with he would have to have the whole package, looks, personality, the whole perspective respect is a big one,he would have to be my everything. A man can be so dam handsome and have the worse personality. Nowadays I think some--- of us woman are looking for the whole complete package not just certain limits. Take a poll ask around. Alot of woman appreciate and fall in love just with a persons personality too maybe your looking at the wrong women. Good luck senor"
2006-07-14 01:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by karen g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true, some women do limit what they look for in a guy. The same way some guys limit what they look for in a girl. These type of people are obviously shallow.
You sound like a real sweetheart and the girl who wins your heart someday will be very lucky indeed. She's out there probably searching for you right now. Just don't settle for second best. You deserve a whole lot more.
2006-07-14 01:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by mandydc3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're called standards- not limits. And we simply can't lower them purely cos if we do- we're can't be physically attracted to them and maintain 'interest'. We need these otherwise infidelity becomes an issue
We see these as selection criteria just like when positions need to be filled in an organisation. Job hunters are always complaining of 'not being able to get the foot in the door' and ur case is exactly the same.
U know ur a good person etc- but just can't get the interview to prove it.
I suggest u stop oooozing desperation and stop thinking that relationships are the be-all and end-all of life. It's not.
Stop looking- and they will come. Women will/can smell desperation.
2006-07-14 01:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nattas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only 21, and I am learning to look beyond just the way the guys look. Looks aren't everything (and that includes height, race, etc.). I am going for personality and all that other stuff, because the guy can look amazing and treat you like crap, but ugly and treat you like a queen. And very rarely do you find it all rolled into one package. But you sound like a nice guy, so hang in there.
2006-07-14 01:26:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are stupid! Notice I say girls and not women. I can't stand superficial girls who date guys because they have a nice car or make good money. I am the complete opposite. I have been on dates with guys and I have tried to really get to know them. I never ask what they do for work or what car they drive because I could careless. I have actually had guys be like "So do you want to know what I do for work" or "guess what kind of car I drive". Its pathetic. Most of the guys that I have dated my girlfriends are like "I don't know what you see in him, he isn't good looking" or "Have you seen his car" when to me they are beautiful because I got to know whats inside and what they are really about. You will find the right women that loves you for you, but it is always when you aren't looking for it that you find it. Don't ever lower your standards or not be yourself.
2006-07-14 01:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by lindsslc78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women fall in love with men who are right for them and make them laugh. who treat them respectfully. I think if everyone really thought about that...everyone would agree with me. Our "true love" is someone that can give us a good time, no matter where we are, what has happened, or what's going on. Men that make us feel safe and wanted are what we look for. and when you get right down to it, looks don't matter at all.
2006-07-14 01:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by gonepanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do sound really sweet but not all women are like that it is sad that such a nice man is single but don't blame the good women that are out there because of some.
2006-07-14 01:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey!!! I know that I like a man for who he is, rather than what he owns!!!
I could just as easily say that men only like women with a big butt and even bigger boobs, but that's not true!!!! Or is it???
Maybe some women are the way you described but defiantly not all!!!
2006-07-14 01:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Miley#1Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a girl and truly i dont know why i guess it just come naturally to us girls and i guess that is it . all we think about is muscles eyes looks attitude tall and if he nice to my friends ( at least that is what i think about in a guy ) but i personally dont care what race a guy is cause i come from a mixed race family ( white mom mexican dad ) and so i was raised not to care what race a person is just befriend them and if they dont accept try again but i dont know why all the older woman think that but i think it is because they are plastic, stuck up , super skinny, all about me , barbie girl and i truly hope my answer helped u
2006-07-14 01:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋