My mom and I have had our spits and spats but we have never hated eachother and now she has cancer and she's not doing so well. Its really hard to let this kind of thing slide so what is your advice...
2006-07-13 18:23:00 · 20 answers · asked by MinaJay 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Spend as much time with her as you can, let her know that you love her even though she already does. Just enjoy the time you have left with her
2006-07-13 18:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have thought about what I would most want to do if I knew that my mom would be gone. I think that you must first make sure that you have resolved any unresolved issues. Its just not something that you want to work through when she's gone. Sometimes it is hard to be humble, especially if you know that you're right. But you will have more peace after she's gone if you go to her and take responsibility for any unsettled feelings. If she's willing, have her make a video about memories of your childhood. You will cherish them later. Go to the bookstore and purchase your favorite childhood books. Have her write memories in each of them and a special dedication that you can share with your children (even if you don't have any yet). Take lots of pictures. She may not have done everything perfect, but she's your mom. She loves you and needs you more than ever right now. Don't let your pride keep you from making amends before its too late. You should cherish the time you still have.
2006-07-13 18:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am so sorry to hear about your Mother. Right now to make everything smooth you need to just be there for her. Spend time with her and show all the love you have for her. Cancer is a scary thing for everyone and so is death. I have pasted below a great website, made for patients and their families. It has some very good coping techniques and more on there. Check it out!
Take Care of youself and Your Mom and You are in my thoughts. Again, I am sorry about you Mom. :)
http://cancerhopenetwork.org
2006-07-18 10:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by pinkribbons&walking4boobies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her, support her, and most importantly be best friends friends like you never were before, you are both going to need a lot of support going through something like this, you have to be strong and very understanding... don't be afraid to cry, and be mad at the world together.... It is quite normal for mother daughter to have spats and fights, your mom knows this, do not hold guilt feelings, your mother loves you, as you do her, keep no secrets, share everything.. laughter, lots of it....
I am sorry, God bless you both!
2006-07-13 18:34:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously make peace and spend quality time with her. And for goodness sake, check to see if her cancer is estrogen receptor positive. If so, STAY AWAY FROM THE MARIJUANA. It stimulates estrogen and could adversely affect your mom. But you can also check out the links below to see if there is anything that can possibly be done. Alternative medicine provides miracles every day. I utilized the traditional methods of surgery, chemo and radiation as well as the adjunct therapies below and I had a 5% chance of survival. It doesn't hurt to be a fighter. Please check out the links. Maybe they can help. Good luck...
2006-07-16 23:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by evenchaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU already know what to do. Make peace with her and be by her side and give her unconditional love. I know this lady who just lost her son and they'd been feuding and hadn't spoken to each other in while... he told a relative that he could die tomorrow and not be able to talk to her today because she was so mad at him. He just got killed last week and now she regrets not speaking to him. Now she'll never ever get the chance to make things right with him. Don't let this happen to you and cherish the time you have with her and do things out of the ordinary like going to the movies, painting and fun stuff.
2006-07-13 18:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ Tony's girl ♪ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is short so don't waste anymore time on it.Spend as much time you can with her,understand the need & console her pain.Talk about the good old times & jokes about the spits & spats both of you had.To what I beleive is to leave this world with happiness is better than to die lonelness.Sorry to hear such from you but everyone has their time to come so be positive on it.
2006-07-13 18:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by busybody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your Mom knows you love her and she loves you too. It's natural for kids to have some spats with their parents as long as it don't get too bad. Be there for her and do what you can for her. I recommend that you contact American Cancer Treatment Centers of America to see if you can improve her chances of survival.
2006-07-14 09:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by toughguy2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her and treat each day as this would be the last together. LET HER KNOW IN WORDS AND ACTIONS HOW YOU SO VERY MUCH LOVE HER. Let her know you both will walk this path together. Do for her, try and take care of the house as she would. Hug and Kisses for her are great too
I lost both my parents to cancer and it is a difficult loss.
Please keep in contact with me..let me know how you and your mom are doing. Gold Bless you, mom and family members.
2006-07-13 18:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show her how sad you are, spend as much quality time with her, let her know that you love her so much by doing all these, even when she goes atleast you wont regret that you didnt spent all the time with her, it will hurt when she goes but think of this way, the last moments of her life is with you and how much dedication and love you put into it and that should be something to help you cope with her moving on. Also think about it this way, her pain is exchange with your love and it will be same to you, nothing is stronger than love, when she goes atleast you know she wont suffer any longer and that you will meet her when the time comes.
2006-07-13 18:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by nismoblitzkts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to have disagreement/different opinion between mom and daughter is a normal thing. Doesn't mean a gap is blocking your way to build relationship with her. when mom is in trouble, we as children should support our mom, since we only have 1 mom in our life and we can't find other mom like her.
Spend more time than usual, to be at her side. Encourage her, comfort her, make her happy, because she has you as her daughter.
trust me, you won't regret after the time passes.
2006-07-13 18:35:36 · answer #11 · answered by ooowen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋