I was engaged for 4 years to an amazing woman its finished now with over a year and I'm even living in a different country. I still compare every woman I see to her and she's still my first thought in the morning and very last at night and last week I had my very first date since my fiancee and at the end of the night I called my date by my ex fiancee's name. Why can I not just get over her????
2006-07-13 18:14:07 · 7 answers · asked by patrick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You spent 4 years of your life devoted to a fantastic girl? Well then who can blame you if its not easy to forget her. I am sorry that your relationship broke up-- there must have been good reason for the split. Perhaps you could concerntrate on why-- that might help-- at least if it wasn't meant to be you could find comfort in that and move on.
Of course you will be thinking of her, even at times think you can smell her perfume in the room, but surely there is life after a break up? Many people do it, Time is all i can say-- it is a great healer but you have to just try put her to the back of your mind otherwise you will never grow in the knowledge that you can be happy again.
Put this one down to experience and treat it as a learning curve. That way you wont repeat the last mistakes you made.
2006-07-13 18:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like you my friend. I've only been split from the girl I thought was my soulmate for a few months. We weren't together as long asyou two were, but you still know when you've found the one.She's still my first and last thought of the day and I think of her a lot through the day too. Time heals wounds in it's own way. I was starting to get over her, even though I miss her and knew she'd never come back and just last night her new bf text me to taunt me. Why I don't know. That hurt and made me think f**k her. She wouldn't let me phone her previous bf when he pestered her through our relationship. So why this? I stopped comparing all woman I met to her recently. It does worry me that I won't find a partner like her again in so many ways...but I also think that might be a good thing in so many others.
It's a great shame when anyone loses the love of their life but you will move on mate.
2006-07-15 03:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by theallknowingscouser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being engaged for 4 years! Why the long engagement? That's the problem right there. Long engagements are a really bad idea. They nearly always end up in tears. Anyways...now you can't get over her, well it's not exactly been a long time. Give it more time, keep plodding on and trying your best to get over her.
However, you should ask yourself something, Do you want to get over her? If not you've got some work to do.
Oh and you know what they say "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" so being in a different country wont help an ounce.
2006-07-14 05:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will it takes time. It takes at least 3 years; it did for me. I called my boyfriend by my ex's name too; this is a common thing. I never do this anymore cause I am over him for good now.
2006-07-14 01:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will in time, but you will never forget her. Lets hope you meet someone even more lovely soon. Be positive and a good woman will arrivesoon.
2006-07-14 03:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by iloveliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never get over her - that's a truth!!! You will learn to live without her... it does happen.
2006-07-14 02:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Robbie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but you've been over a year so either get over it or go back to her
2006-07-14 01:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋