One of my closest friends (Kathy) goes out with one of my closest guy friends (Steve)...I've known both of them for a while now & I just recently introduced them to one another (about 5 months ago) when I got Kathy a job where Steve & I work...& they started dating each other about 2 weeks later
However, I've always had the biggest crush on Steve...he's what I consider "the perfect guy": He's smart, has a great sense of humor (& always makes me laugh), he's got a huge heart, he's friendly & nice to everyone, & not to mention that he's really cute (hot...lol)...Also, he's always there for me & always makes me feel special
Although I know for a fact that I'll never act on my feelings towards him (especially now that he goes out with my friend), I just want to know if it's still wrong to think he's cute & have a crush on him (by the way I've never told him nor anyone else about my feelings for him)
2006-07-13 18:00:28 · 23 answers · asked by ♥WestlifeForLife♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Another thing I forgot to mention: I was (& maybe still am) the Cupid in their relationship...
But I always had a feeling that he liked me, too, because (before they started dating) Steve always seemed to be trying to "reach out" to me & tell me something but I always got freaked out & backed off...
Also, everytime he wants to get her a gift he asks me what I think she'd like...
2006-07-13 18:17:38 · update #1
As long as it stays a secret, I don't know what's wrong with a crush. I mean I think a lot of people that are married or otherwise and are happy in their relationship and would never consider acting on their fantasies, but do have crushes on people. Simply meaning they admire someone or think they are attractive. It's wrong when you act on those feelings, or brood obsessively or let it affect the way you feel about your loved ones. Also, I think it would be unwise for you to take up a relationship with him even after your friend and the guy break-up. At least not until she is firmly in a new relationship. It would probably hurt your friend because those feelings take a while to dissipate.
2006-07-13 18:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by makingthisup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have already missed the train, firstly, by not telling him that you like him so much, secondly, by favouring your friend cathy, by not only giving her a job, but introducing her to him!
it's a bit too late, my dear, your having crush on him is totally futile. it;s also not fair on cathy, because she has smartly grabbed him. now you should look beyond, i am sure, there will be a match for him, who will be equally witty, and all those qualities you lok for. so wipe you rsecret tears, put a smile on your face, than being grumpy, and burn your heart, thinking what cathy is doing with that fellow, and make friends!
in all the probability, if he would have liked you so much, atleast should have expressed his love some time? since there was no initiative from him either, why are you wasting your precious time, and young age, in fretting over some thing, which was never there? and next time, pl. don't make the same mistake again? this world is opportunistic. they will use you as a ladder, and push you away, when not in use any more!
2006-07-13 18:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by palador 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with having a crush on anyone period. But just remember, even though you don't act on your feelings now. If you allow your feelings to keep flourishing for this guy, it will eventually be too hard for you to deal with. And then, you might just start acting on them. THEN it 's a problem.
My advice. Try to forget about him, let him and your friend date however they want. You...go out and mingle with other guys. Chances are, if you meet someone, you'll start to lose interest in the other guy. But you gotta allow that.
A bit of incentive to think about, if you go for this guy, all your friendships are put on the line. You chance to lose both friends.
Good luck.
2006-07-13 18:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by JustAdude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not wrong as long as u dont act on them if its not ok with yr friend if they break up. when they 1st started 2 show feelings toward each other it would've been better if u would have told your best friend 2 back off because u had feelings 4 him, but u didnt so u must live with it. if they break up though, that might be yr second chance as long as it's ok with yr friend u dont want to lose a good frind over a man/boy
2006-07-13 18:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl it is perfectly okay to have a crush on somebody!!!! I kno this is your friends boyfriend but you had a crush on him before her so don't sweat it. Crushes come and go so don't be too stressed about this situation. The only advice I can give is to NOT act on those feelings because that is when drama occurrs. Just keep them to yourself!!!!
2006-07-13 18:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by Chelly Belly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to have the crush, but it would be wrong to hurt your friend. You should ask yourself why did you set them up with each other instead of going for him yourself. In my experience, friends will always be there, even after the relationship is over.
2006-07-13 18:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lostmydammind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like just having him for a best friend is the best. You will always have him for a best friend if you leave it like that. If you had a relationship with him it would change everything and you would be jealous and hurt and other feelings like that so keep him as a friend forever
2006-07-13 18:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by omahapamela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is no harm in having a secret crush on your friends bf. I think it is perfectly natural to be attracted to someone you see often like that. He does sound like the perfect guy for you though...
2006-07-13 18:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by hippychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I play the glue in that situation if it makes sense, honestly it always sucks, hopefully she'll break up with him and let you have him, hope everything works out for you, its hard being in that situation especially when no one else compares. .. . . good luck and best wishes!
2006-07-15 13:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by R.R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not i had a crush on one of my friends girlfriend and it ended up he cheated on her and i helped her out and now we are going out and it is wonderful we are very much in love and i found out that when she was going out with my friend she also had a crush on me but did not know if i liked her so you just have to find out for your self he might like you too....
2006-07-13 18:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by padgetterik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋