Why is sex so painful?

Question

I recently had sex for the first time. My boyfriend is bigger than average and i'm about 5'3. The first time it was really painful and i bled for more than a day. I knew this was probably normal, but we've had sex 3 times since and i've bled everytime (although the amount of bleeding decreases everytime). Its still really painful. Is this normal? will it get better once i have sex a few times?

by the way, just cuz i'd nver had sex before this doesn't mean i haven't seen what a penis looks like. I know whats average and whats not...moving on

Answer 1

That's not normal, but it can be fixed.

First of all, have LOTS of foreplay, especially have him give you oral. This will get you wet so it will hurt less.

Also, be completely fine with your decision. If you think that your mom is going to walk in on you, it isn't going to be good.

Use lubricant such as KY. It'll make for less friction.

Go slow after you have orgasmed (or are well on your way) The slower he goes, the more he can see if it hurts you.

Also, have him finger you and stretch you out that way.

If it continues to hurt, see your gynecologist or planned parenthood.

Answer 2

I am a 30 year old with 3 kids and it use to be painful for me all the time and I never new why until I found a doctor that found endometriosis and I had to have a hysterectomy at the age of 26. So maybe you should go to the doctor or family planning and make sure everything is OK.

Answer 3

Obviously the b/f is a total a$$hole and has no clue what he's doing nor does he care about hurting you or he wouldn't keep doing it so d@mn hard and when you obviously are not lubricated enough.

My suggestion....find a REAL man instead of a stupid boy to make love with instead of just laying under some dumb boy so he can have sex on you.

Answer 4

if you think sex is a pain in the a s s , roll over thats the wrong side. and if this is yer first sex how do you know he's bigger than average? just exactly what is average

Answer 5

You should stop for a while, find time to really understand why it's so painfull. coz vagina are amazingly elastic, imagine a baby came out of it.. so size shouldn't be a problem.

I think your man needs more guidance to understand you as a sex partner, and mostly as a lover coz to do both of those right, a guy has to be considerate and passionate.

Answer 6

It could be a little more foreplay and lubrication are needed. If he inserts it too fast or roughly that causes membranes to rip. Be sure you are lubricated enough and that he enters slowly and does not just push until he bottoms out. You are not rabbits and should take your time to enjoy it.

Answer 7

You must have sex with him ten times a day everyday for a month before it starts to feel good. Have fun!

Answer 8

well its suppose to feel really painful the first and the second and third arent suppose to be as bad but once u really do it alot itll probably feel good and yeah it probably will if not u need to see a doctor about it

Answer 9

Hmmm....my only guess is that you've hit your menstrual period at the time, and that's why you were bleeding.

And don't mind the other idiots on here, you may have watched pornography, AND THAT'S HOW SHE KNOWS WHAT A NORMAL TO ABNORMAL DICK SIZE IS ASSHOLES. Get serious.

Answer 10

Give it a few more times...for me the second time was more painful. If it continues to hurt, I would see your doctor. Good Luck...