ok like is it ok 2 love your best friend and tell him that, like we rnt going out but i really do is that ok, like i also told him that on the phone, we were talking and he said i g2g so i said yeah me 2 but 1st i love you, then i hung up and that was yesterday and now he outa town 4 a couple of days, so is that ok or what should i do?
2006-07-13 17:10:52 · 38 answers · asked by klo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He probably just needed time. Sometimes guys arent always as ready to say the "L" word as soon as women are. You have to understand that guys tend to see love and dating as a life long commitment and that is hard if your not ready. He may be scared and confused. He may feel the same but he never thought you would feel that way and now that you do he is panniced. Or he may just want to be friends but he may not want to hurt you. And he probably doesnt want your relationship to change. Or to lose you from his life if thats the case. Thats why he left for a few days. To sort it out. He may just need some time to figure out what to say to you and how to say it. However he feels about you. you have to be ready to tell him how you feel next. My suggestion is give him time to come to you to talk it out. He will come back and talk to you eventually. Probably with questions about what you want from him now that you said it. Or it may be to just say he isn't ready. Or it may be to tell you he loves you too. He just needed to think to be sure because it took him by surprise. If you still want him in your life no matter what he says, then be prepared to tell him that. He may come to you and say I love you too.. but you wont know untill you see him. Please, don't do have this talk over the phone. If he calls say you want to see him to talk it out. Thats the best way that way because you can see what he is feeling on his face and in his eyes. And he can see how you feel too. then if there is silence you will not be worried as much about it. you can look into his eyes and know. at least a bit of what he is thinking. Then be honest. but also be kind to him. I would suggest saying, " I love you but that doesn't mean you have to feel the same. And I still want you in my life, even if its always just as a friend. This doesnt change anything unless you want it too." but be honest with him. If you he doesnt feel the same and you are really hurt by his feelings its best to ask him if you can take some time out to heal before being going back to the way things were again. That doesnt mean forever. Just some time to get passed all if this stuff. Its not a bad thing to be in love with a friend, but it does change the relationship. I think you might need some time too while he is gone to sort out how much you love him and if you can go back to being just friends if he doesnt share your feeling. Also, to figure out what you want to say when he does call back. Get prepared for whatever happens next. Just rememeber either way. Nothing great ever happens without taking some risk. I applaud you for your courage. And either way you will be ok and life will go on. Hugs. good luck.
2006-07-13 17:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by lady_effie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best part about best friends is that it allows a certain honesty within the relationship, as such, it was good to tell your friend about your feelings, infact, I might even go to say that it was vital to the relationship. You showed that you were willing to be honest, now, you can only wait. He might not respond how you want, but I think you did the right thing, even if the relationship suffers slightly or majorly.
2006-07-13 17:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Christo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will probably be so hot for you when he comes back. Just let time play its course. you put the ball in his court. But if he hasn't called you the whole time he was gone then give him a ring when he gets home, and don't mention anything about what you told him before he left. See if he mentions it, if he does that means he was thinking about it the whole time he was gone! And don't get all worried if he don't mention anything, he may be shy. Give him a few days after he gets back to really think about you two and what you said to him. Keep you chin up and don't hound him about what you said to him don't go asking him so what do you think about when i said i love you. Just let it be. hope this helps. need more help just look me up
2006-07-13 17:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by terrbeary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not ok to tell him in the phone but its ok that you told him you love him.The problem was did he think that yout told him you you love him simply because his your bestfreind?You should explain a little futher by not hunging up.Do you think by telling him that wouldn't cause losing your freindship with him?think about It?Lets just pray he feels the same!God speed!its really hard falling in love and not knowing what happens next!Let me know what happen when he comes back!
2006-07-13 17:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by maricel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are yuo talking about? i don't get it..so ambiguous!..what's ok? When you told him you love him yesterday and that now he left to go somewhere out of town?well,what's wrong with that?it doesn't mean that if you say i love you,you'll gonna marry him..it's just about expressing your feelings toward you bestfriend. And if he took it negatively or thought that you're kinda flirt, he's not matured yet..
2006-07-13 17:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Uree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love him as a best friend or are you IN love with him? i dont think that he feels the same way tough. if you two have been best friends for a while and seen other people in that time, he doesnt have feeling for you and probably never will. maybe you just love having someone close and your not actually in-love with him
2006-07-13 17:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 08:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by gjokaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may have shocked him or left him speechless either way just wait til he gets back...Let him call you ..It is good he is gone for a few days because this gives him time to understand what you said..You can love someone without being their gf
2006-07-13 17:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do the same thing in person. it is easy over the phone. tell him your feeling in person then you will see his reaction to what you said.you can't tell a guy that and then hang up. do you know how many questions would go through a guys head after that. like did i hear her right. did she say she "doesn't" love me. was she talking to me etc. etc.hope this helps
2006-07-13 17:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by spocklogical1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound way too young to understand the complications and the commitments of love nor should you demand it of someone else. Take it back and tell him you are too young to know what you are talking about.
2006-07-13 17:14:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kristonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋