I have this crazy mom that I am sick of . She is so dependent and abusive at the same time and I really dont know what to do with her . She cant use a computer or drive a car . She needs someone to babysit her all the time . Yeserday my step dad left her after 20 years . He said he cant take it anymore and as she ageing she is getting worse. PLS share your stories with me maybe it gonna make me feel better seeing other people have the same problem .
2006-07-13 17:10:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My step dad gave her all the love and money he possibley could . He did everything for her for 20 years but she never appreciate it . She was fighting with my step dad every 2 days and since my step dad lost his job it got worse and worse . My mom comes from a divorced parents but my gradma was a lovely person . She is better with people who dont do much for her ( my brother ) but if someone do a lot for her , she always ask for more and more and abuse them .
2006-07-13 17:23:21 · update #1
she has a co dependent problem, maybe her childhood was abusive, but she needs to seek medical and psychological help, you can break this chain, the best thing that your dad did was to leave her, maybe tough love is what she needs to wake her up
2006-07-13 17:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by helper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her ruin your life. I fully understand a mother that is abusive and controlling who would love to think she wrecked my life...but didn't. This is the key, you don't let her.
You didn't say how old you are so I'll assume you are under 18 or I'd say leave too. I would sit down a calmly try to let her know she needs help. Tell her you'll set up an appointment with a counselor and go with her. This way, you can explain to the counselor why you want her there, be specific, write things down to remember.
Do this for yourself too. Once an for all try to put an end to the madness of living with someone like that. If she flat out refuses and really puts up a stink, then you have not alternative but to find another place to live. Maybe you and your step-dad can room together for a while. If she is by herself, things will change fast because she has no one to dump on and also to cart her around.
2006-07-13 17:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tina my mom drove me crazy.She could not understand that an A D D kid needs to set free. She tried to slow me down by giving me curfews and followed me everywhere. She always said that If I did not like the way it is then leave.Well I left when I was 16 started working Had a son at a young age .Still raising him . He is 20 going to be 21 .I am raising my kids so different . I set them free with the note that thier is conseqences for actions so behave .To get on with your?. Leave if you are not happy.Get job and support yourself.
You see I do not call my mom. She knows she has 3 grand kids ,but does not bother to call. So Hey she is not your responsibility.I forgave my mom ,but like I said i do not care for her much. I do hope I mad some sense to your delema.
2006-07-13 17:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by plumbman_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi tina, you are not alone. you don't say how old your mom is. what i can tell you after working with geriatric patients for the past 20 years is that whatever personality traits we have when we are younger are intensified as we age. experience tells me you have to stand up and be counted. tell your mom in a loving but no nonsense way you will no longer take her abuse.
2006-07-13 17:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by wonder woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone's parents ruin their lives. my parents got divorced four years ago, and then my mother started drinking a lot. she got really abusive and she had to go to rehab for months. we had to stay at our aunt's and uncle's house until she got out. she's over drinking but i don't think i can ever trust her again. so you're not the only one with ****** up parents. it's not exactly the same as your issue though...
2006-07-13 17:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by greendayrockgods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry you are going through this, you didn't say how old you are though. you don't have to let it ruin your life. what is your mothers problem? i mean seriously, does she have a mental condition or a disability of some kind? if she does then its really not her fault, if she's choosing to live that way then shame on everyone around her for letting her.
2006-07-13 17:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋