Sophomore year of high school, I decided that I would never want children and I haven't changed my mind since. I can't think of a good reason to want children. Also, when I ask other ppl that question, they hesitate right away and then give me a tentative answer.
2006-07-13 17:01:48 · 17 answers · asked by bebeeangeldust 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the reason i wanted to have and did have children is easy.......i always felt unloved as a child sooooooo i decided way back when i was in grade school to have lots of children and give them all the love that i had pint up inside of me......and so far so good. children are a blessin some ppl would say they r expensive.... that is very true but so what. i have 2 and i want at least 1 more 2 if my husband would agree.
2006-07-13 17:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by poohbearmomma_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child after 30... any earlier it would have been too stressful for me.. I finished all my schooling, and I met the right guy, so why not have children?? I love investing myself in children. I also used to be a teacher, and it's very rewarding, and now I am doing everything with my kids... It hard yes, but it;s like a hile in the mountains, the view is worth the sweat...
Gosh, why won't you want children?? But above that, we all have that instinct of conservation of the species... (survival)
It's a game of immortality that you play... you defy death, you get to live forever through your kids... in a manner of speaking...
I do not advise having children until after you are out of college!!! You also learn a thing or two about life in the mean time.....
after 30 ( and when I was 20 I thought 30 was old) they keep you young, man! I still feel 21, you grow with your kids, and it's like a second childhood for you, really... you can be a kid anytime you want to-- but this time you also have a driver's license and not have to pretend you're driving... ha!
Plus my hubby and I make such cute kids, it makes you wanna keep trying...
Ok, last and not least reason, making them is awesome too!
2006-07-14 00:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was your age I never wanted to have children. My husband and I met when I was 16 and were married 3 years later. We never even talked about children. Then all of the sudden I just wanted a baby and I can't explain why. None of our friends had kids yet and there were no kids in our families. I guess it's just the proverbial ticking clock that everyone jokes about. However, I think you're too young to make that decision right now... there's so much time to change your mind!
2006-07-14 00:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 and don't have any children yet but I have always wanted to be a mother, the reason why, not really sure I can explain, I love children and have always been drawn to little babies and felt a yearning inside to have one of my own to love so hopefully one day I will, just can't seem to find a suitable sperm donor lol Anyway, but having a child is your decision and if you don't feel that maternal instinct then that is fine, nothing wrong with that. Wish other girls thought of that before they bring unwanted children into the world!!!
2006-07-14 00:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by DivaKutie78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!, first of all, I am adopted by a loving family. My mom couldn't have any children so she wanted one and found me. For that, I am very grateful for that. But I don't know if I want to have children? I am scared. I am only child in the family. I don't have any close ties to another members of the family. Only to my parents however, My mom is an alcoholic (nights only) and tend to sleep all day in her bed sometimes she is up to watch TV. My dad is fine since he is working. I always find this very difficult. Don't get me wrong, I love kids and they are cute. I am scared because of my lineage and my heritage. I know I have lived as a Richardson. I know I will die as a Richardson. However, I feel empty inside me. Will my child have health problems? Will my mom change for the better? I need to know about my birth family health background. Because I hate to see my own child suffer and effort from the years of raising vanish in seconds. And I see so much pain the children have to endure in this world and it is very heartbreaking. I do know one thing. I would love to adopt a child but to have my own?? I don't know ? Will i feel this way for a long time? I have more questions than i have for the answers.
2006-07-14 01:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking someone why they wanted to have children is like asking them why they have the job they do.
The variety of answers depends totally on the number of people you ask, and the stage they are at in their life.
1) a fast food worker didn't INTEND to work at McDonald's for ever - and some people have children because of the "oops"
2) a teacher might say that they loved children and felt compelled to work with kids - some parents just know that they were meant to be mothers/fathers
3) someone might say "my Uncle got me the job" - and a newly married couple might be doing what they believe is expected of them.
Having children should not be a selfish concept, yet it often is thought of in those terms. Children ensure the survival of the species. It is though children that we are taken care of in our old age. Children provide a constant source of entertainment. Children constantly make us rethink our priorities and decisions.
Children are a joy, a pain, amazing, tear-full, frustrating, endearing and so much more.
Being a mother is challenging, hateful, heartbreaking, enraging, sensitive, a blessing, wondrous, fulfilling, and so much more. Ã
It is like no other experience on this earth. I highly suggest it.
2006-07-14 00:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by lookiehere...000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never wanted children and was told that I was unable to have any by more than one doctor. Of course, I ended up pregnant....six times. I have a son and a daughter. I had one miscarriage and three abortions because I didn't want anymore!
I think that in this overpopulated world it's perfectly okay not to have any. I also think there should be a limit put on how many people can have per family.
2006-07-14 00:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by xtcgurl123 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am SO with you.
I knew at 12 that I never wanted children. At 18, I went to the gyn and asked to get my tubes tied, and they refused. It took 6 years more before I finally found a doctor who would do it.
I have never regretted that decision.
2006-07-14 00:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by eriayasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never wanted children until I was in a strong relationship and we are now married. Im really excited about having kids hopefully in the next year because it will be a mixture of my husband and I. kind of a combonation of our love which will be our child.
2006-07-14 00:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to continue my family lineage and to raise another person to grow up to be bigger and better then I am. Because having a child is like taking a little piece of yourself and allowing it to continue on into the future. Plus it helps the economy and population and perhaps my son (I hope I have a son) will be the next genious, you never know.
2006-07-14 00:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kiko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋