My kids and I are going camping this weekend. My sister in law and her2 kids want to go, but I don't want them to. They went with us last weekend, and she is going to jail for 25 days on Tuesday, during which time I will have her kids. I told her she and the kids could not go this weekend because I wanted to have a weekend for just my girls and I. She is really upset with me now because she really wanted to go. Did I do the right thing, or am I being selfish. Should I feel obligated to share my little vacation,(which by the way I paid for the site, the food, supplies and everything for her and her kids to go last weekend, and would have to do the same again, and I am a single mom too) or is it OK for me to be a little selfish and want some time for my family? What do you think?
2006-07-13 16:43:27 · 12 answers · asked by jensarquist 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No you are not being selfish ...You took them along last time..You deserve time alone with your girls..and I am sure they want time alone with you too..Afterall you will be watching her kids while she's in jail right..So don't feel guilty...Have a good weekend
2006-07-13 16:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I can tell you right now, that no matter how you look at it, you are in no way being selfish. You would just like some time alone with your kids b4 you have to look after hers. Let her get upset, it is ok, don't feel bad. You would likely (as u said) be paying 4 it anyways, so it is not her right to intrude upon family.
It would be a more different story if she were to pay, too. But, accompanny your kids camping, don't worry about your friend, she'll get over it and realize her mistake...have fun!...
-Helping in NJ-
2006-07-13 17:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by ange 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. You want a little time with your kids before you take on the responsabilty of 2 other kids. I would have the same thing. I would think that your sister in law would want a little "quality" time with her kids before she goes to jail for a 25 days. I'm sure she'll get over it.
2006-07-13 16:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by kim_in_craig 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be nice and say maybe she wants to spend time with you too, before she goes to jail, but I still think it was kind of selfish of her to invite herself. From what you say, I think you're being very generous with her, given her situation and all, and it's not at all wrong of you to want to spend time with your children and not the whole GANG.
I hope it works out OK for you, hopefully your S-I-L will appreciate that yout are taking care of her kids while she's "on vacation".
2006-07-13 16:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by cynthetiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you did the right thing...especially if you are going to be taking care of her kids while in jail. Sounds like she needs to get her priorities in line and start trying totake care of her own kids....she can't do that is she is being put in jail for almost the next month.
Good for you, for putting your family first.
2006-07-13 16:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by klowery1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet your life it is. You took them last week and because of her actions your life is going to be up heaveled to accomodate her once again. I would let her know that my actions show how much I love you, but if you don't understand this weekend time that I feel as though both my girls and I deserve together....well then I understand your feelings but I need to do what I need to do for me.......Believe me she'll get over it. She has no choice...
2006-07-13 17:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sometimes so hard to accept our decisions because of how they make other people feel.You did what you felt was right for you. Your kids need to spend some time with you before she goes to jail and your whole family routine will change. Relax and ejoy yourself.
2006-07-13 17:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by confused/hurt/angry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. After all, you paid for it! Also, it's okay to want some private time with just you and the kids. She should understand that.
2006-07-13 16:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Meirelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your sister in law has issues. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to go just with your kids. Let her get mad, hopefully she'll leave her kids with someone else while she is in JAIL!!!
2006-07-13 16:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by gaby1120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing, you need this time for your family so they dont feel forgotten for the next 25 days
2006-07-13 16:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by monicaynz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋