he hates me. he doesnt even know me, yet hates all guys. He checks her phone to make sure she doesnt call me, he checks her emails, IM's. EVEN myspace. How can I still see her and talk to her?
2006-07-13 16:37:56 · 27 answers · asked by Robert B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Deal with it. It sounds like your under 18 and there really isn't much you can do about it. There isn't any point in trying to sneak around him. He'll find out eventually and be angry with you even more and you'll get your girl in trouble too. I wouldn't take it personally. It sounds like this dad is very protective of his daughter.
2006-07-13 16:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by chalis913 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she is old enough to make her own decisions. Her father is responsible for making sure she does not get into any trouble and quite frankly, boys are usually trouble. Maybe it's not about you, maybe it's about her. Maybe she is the one that he does not trust and maybe he has a good reason for not trusting her.
He has every right to check her emails, im's, and mySpace. Those are all public information portals. He probably pays her cell phone bill which he has a right to know who she is calling on it. You know... the WORLD WIDE WEB! So everyone else can see what she does there but not her parents? Give me a break! If she posts it on the internet she can deal with the consequences.
Yeah, yeah, you should be able to make your own choices. But sometimes parents need to narrow down the choices for you kids because you want to have fun but don't want the consequences that go with it.
You are out of your league fighting a parent. They have the right (and the responsibility) to monitor their children's activities and you don't have the right to contact her without their permission. They can press charges against you. Move on man. It's not worth the trouble.
Also, if you really want to hang out with her and there is nothing more to it, ask the father to supervise. Then he knows you're not up to something and he can make sure his daughter is ok.
2006-07-13 16:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kristonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Robert Hi:
Wow. I went through this with my dad years ago, and you know why. He loved me to no end. He didn't want to see me hurt, or dating too soon.
Plain and simple.
The guy I was seeing, well, we continued to communicate and eventually we lived together from 17 till we were 27. The sad thing is, my dad was right, and I should have dated and not got soooo serious so soon.
My dad did this out of love. Pure and simple love, and well, I am sad today because I divorced the guy and actually we dislike one another ......horrible tale hey.
When you respect someone, you respect the 'whole' package. Serious. Move along, and if you are meant to be together, you will be naturally.
Respect her, respect yourself.
Choose well, for your choice may be endless..
luv
Ava
2006-07-13 16:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what his reason for hostility toward any man who tries to enter his daughter's life stems from and make him confront it. You also have to see things in perspective, how old are you, how old is she? Is this likely to make an extremely influence in your life for the long run? Chances are you're still young and have plenty of time to meet and date many other girls. So don't get so bummed out bro, life goes on, and there are many fish in the sea. But if this one is your big kahuna, find a way to connect with her family and gain the respect of her dad.
2006-07-13 16:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by hav0c16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well oyu too should work like a team .. when you call she erases the phone calls , and use ur friends so u can c each other.. be creative , but if you really want everything to work out and not hide anything (avoiding more dad hate) then try talking to the man ... face to face and get to know each other ... that what i would recommend... there must be something he dosent like about you , and if there isnt .. then ...... well u know... talkin is a good idea ... that's what i recomend
2006-07-13 16:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Rbk L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't have her, so want her even more, huh? Well, get over it. She's not your girlfriend anymore. Dad's protecting his daughter from the "if the milk is free, why pay for the cow" crowd. That's you bud. Chuckle. Do the right thing by her, and forget your wants and desires for a change.
2006-07-13 16:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yall need to set up a a new email account that he doesnt know about, you cant check what you dont know, also, tell her to get a separate pay as you go phone, and to keep it hidden.
2006-07-13 16:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres the thing you alone have to get to know this man call their house and ask for permission to go out with his daughter with supervision gain his trust and the rewards will follow. He sees his little girl leaving him. So dont hurt her... or else .ehh
2006-07-13 16:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by hoggod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
politely call her dad personally and ask him to meet you for a beer (if you are old enough), or just to talk. Explain that you want him to understand that you and his daughter would like to be together. He should view you as more mature and let you be with her after that.
2006-07-13 16:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Callie Ann ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time for him to calm down. Since he doesn't know you he probably think you're a no good bum trying to knock up his daughter. So go to him with respect and tell him you'll never hurt his daughter. If he doesn't give in she'll contact you don't worry no one can fight love.
2006-07-13 16:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋