2006-07-13 16:28:52 · 29 answers · asked by j_barnes155 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HAHA I knew someone would ask this question one day... don't tell her unless she asks. Then tell her it was your past. Your past is your past for reasons and there is nothing you can do.
2006-07-13 16:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you had unprotected sex at some point it's really none of her concern. Unless of course, you define your relationship based upon what you've each done with your private parts.
If you even ONCE had unprotected sex, you are obligated to inform her. There is a risk of STD's involved even if you don't think you have any. I would suggest going to a doctor first and getting a check-up. You have no reason not too- especially if you are already convinced that you don't have any.
If your doctor tells you that you are fine then it's simply not a matter of concern.
If you don't go to a doctor or the doctor gives you some bad news you have an obligation to inform your partner about it.
2006-07-13 23:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow aren't you the big old man-ho! Aside from the children you may have fathered that could come back and bite you in the a$$ at any time in the next 50 years, let's think about all the possible STD's you may have caught and passed on. I'll tell you one think for d@mn sure if any boy (because only a boy would screw like a friggen dog, a man has better control over his genitals) there isn't any way in hell I would drop my thong for him. It disgusts me to think that some man would think so little of me and himself that sex is a hobby and not something special shared between two consenting adults in a committed relationship.
2006-07-13 23:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get tested for STD.
Second, do not tell her the number. Do not say "it's my past". When you say that it just sounds bad. Tell her a reasonable number that you know she would approve. Every girl is different. My friends says she feels disgusted by her husband, because he was with too many girls before they got married. He even told her the truth, at the time it didn't matter but now it does.
Hope it works out between you two!!!
2006-07-13 23:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by SOMEONE OUT THERE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, supposedly this is one of those relationship things that works on a "don't ask, don't tell" policy.. she's not supposed to ask and you're not supposed to tell. Personally, I think that's a load of BS but that's just me. I would honestly want to know how many partners my partner had been with.
If you plan on telling the truth, at least get yourself tested for the gamut of STD's and such so when she balks at the number you can tell her you were very safe and have been tested.
If you plan on lying to her tho, I would probably pick a number based on this formula: 3-5 girls a year for every year you've been sexually active.
2006-07-13 23:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she ask?
If she didn't, then I don't see why you'd go out of your way to make it an issue. That is a pretty big number, and there is a decent bet she isn't going to be entirely comfortable with the answer.
If she did, and you think you are working on a serious relationship, then I certainly wouldn't lie to her. If you aren't comfortable with the answer, you could say, "a lot", "more than I wish I had", or whatever else is honest but not direct. But if she wants a number, I wouldn't lie, just be prepared to talk about it.
2006-07-13 23:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by dpawson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh good grief... are they all in your city? 80+???????? Because it seems that if you've lived in the same area this whole time, you two would be running into your ex's all the time and she'd eventually figure it out anyway. But to find your answer, just think about switching the question. If she has had 80+ partners in her past, wouldn't you want to know?
2006-07-13 23:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back in the day when my husband and I were dating, I made the mistake of telling my husband how many guys I had been with. Now whenever we go back to my hometown and I run into some guy I knew he asks me, "Does he have a number?". I know he is giving me a hard time, but I shouldn't have to be subjected to those questions. Figure out someway to keep your past, in the past. The only thing she needs to know is that you are STD free, healthy, and that you are with her for her and not for her body.
2006-07-13 23:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
80+ women over what time span? Should you tell your current girlfriend....i would be upfront and let her know you have a hard time focusing on one women. Then let her decide if this is the kind of relationship she would enjoy.
2006-07-13 23:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her the truth about all of them. i dont mean go into details of the events i just mean she has a right to know what she may be dealing with in regards to STD's. if you care about her enough and vice versa it shouldnt matter what you did in the past coz its the past. believe me girls dont like being lied to even if it is a "white" lie. i hope you do the right thing by both of you. good luck
2006-07-13 23:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by dapeejays 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that you've been with all of them because if she really likes you she should accept your past (I think if you lie to her and she finds out later how many you've really been with it could be a lot worse for you then if you just tell her the truth).
2006-07-13 23:32:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋