2006-07-13 16:06:20 · 8 answers · asked by COURTNEY F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
By simply knowing that she is in some place better than Earth. And that the reason she passed away was because God felt she had done enough, had contributed enough to this Earth, and he knows it is better for her to be in heaven.
It's okay to be upset about it, it's okay to cry, in fact, crying might make you feel better, but just know that she is in some place better than this Earth, and she would want you to be happy for her, and carry on with your life.
Although sometimes in life you might miss her badly, but always know what she is watching over you and still want the best for you. Do what you're good at and make her proud. :)
If you want someone to chat, you can always mail me at
cowgoesbaaa@yahoo.com.sg
Hope you'll feel better.
2006-07-13 16:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by cowgoesbaaa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think almost everyone who loses someone they love goes into some level of depression. It's hard to have such a drastic change in your life. The missing person leaves a big hole in your life. Allow yourself to go through whatever grief you feel, including some depression, but don't let it incapacitate yourself. You may have to live life on "automatic", just going through the routines of what you need to do, for awhile until enough time passes that you start to feel alive again. My mom died when I was 15, and it took me a longer time than most, and I fought depression for several years. What helped me most was talking it out with anyone who would listen. I stayed active all the time, though, beginning to make my new life without my mom. I do think that by being in denial about your feelings simply prolongs the suffering.
2006-07-14 17:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Courtney:
I am so very sorry that you lost your mom. You must be soo sad. Were you close to her? Sounds like it if you feel like you may sink into depression.
Talking about it, and asking on here is a start. The pain sometimes feels impossible hey. I have gone through a few deaths, and well, it is hell. But each day, each month you get better, and the pain is a little less.
Take care of yourself, and curl up with a good book, and warm tea. Keep yourself busy. It is very hard to do, but you will survive. She is with you and loves you.
Sorry, and much love and hugs to you,
luv
Ava
2006-07-13 16:11:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not make a strong, ongoing effort always to think about all the wonderful good things your mother contributed to the world, how you want to give the world as much as she did and more, and how you will be doing the opposite of that if you choose to mope around and be sad?
It is impossible to avoid sadness at the loss of a loved one. Just try not to dwell on it but move on to happy thoughts. It is a choice that you make, moment by moment. But don't be hard on yourself for those moments that you don't succeed.
2006-07-13 16:11:00 · answer #4 · answered by Larry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of you could adventure a loss wtihout going into melancholy. i understand while my mom exceeded, i became into in a funk for a on an identical time as, yet progressively i became into waiting to initiate residing back in the 'genuine worldwide'. i understand in my case, i did no longer choose to chat, manage all people, no longer often ate, had difficulty drowsing. I went by a 'melancholy' state.....it is basically all component of the conventional grieving technique.
2016-10-07 21:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by spies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SO SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOUR MOM DIED. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS I COULD YOU DO DO IS PRAY. IF YOU DON'T REMEMBER ANYTHING ELSE THAT I SAY OR ANYBODY ELSE SAYS TO REMEMBER THAT. I KNOW THAT IT IS HARD BECAUSE YOU LOVE YOUR MOM. I STILL HAVE BOTH OF MY PARENTS SO I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. BUT MY CLOSE FRIENDS AND FAMILY HAVE LOST ONE OF THEIR PARENTS. THEY GOT THROUGH IT WITH PRAYER AND YOU WILL TOO. JUST BE STRONG AND BELIEVE IN GOD. IT WILL TAKE SOME TIME BUT TRUTHFULLY YOU WILL NEVER COMPLETELY GET OVER YOUR MOM'S DEATH. THERE WILL BE SOME GOOD DAYS AND THERE WILL BE SOME VERY BAD DAYS. JUST HAVE FAITH. IF YOU WANT TO TALK OR NEED A FRIEND YOU CAN E-MAIL ME AT MS_LIBRA83@YAHOO.COM ANYTIME .
2006-07-13 16:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by ms_libra83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey, If your mother died of a fatal disease, you can only think she is not suffering any longer, you can go to grief support groups, there are some in every city, you can go to a psychologist and get put on an antidepressant good luck
2006-07-13 16:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by helper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think positive thoughts and think of what she would want you to do know that she is not her. dont worry i have alot of friend with no moms
2006-07-13 16:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Hailee W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋