i want more than benefits. i want a relationship. how do i go about that.
2006-07-13 16:01:50 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dont give away the benefits before he's signed the contract. The marriage contract that is.
2006-07-13 16:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well thats got to be the question of the year. Do you really think men want relationships or do you think they suffer through them to get the benefits?
I think we all struggle with that. Besides, friendship is a relationship. You have benefits on top of that... then you are ahead of the game. Sounds like you need to chill out and enjoy what you have.
2006-07-13 23:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kristonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was/am in your position. I think that you should tell this "friend with benefits" that you want a relationship now or no more benefits.
2006-07-13 23:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by buttmunchiezz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure that is what the other person wants. otherwise u r just setting yourself up for some hurt. don't confuse sex wit love or simply feelings for this matter. people that just want sex will tell u exactly what u want to hear just to get what they want. ya see, while u are thinking that this person likes u and wants to be wit u; they, at the same time, are just havin fun and getting what they wanted out of u. just know the feelings on both side.
2006-07-13 23:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes months of spending time in various circumstances with someone to take it from dating to boyfriend/girlfriend, where you know someone fairly well from seeing how they act. You have to start with friendship and grow it into a relationship. If you based something current on just messing around, you don't have the foundation to take it to the next level.
2006-07-13 23:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the way he sees you right now, you may be better off moving on to the next person and starting over, and keeping your legs crossed. This guy sees you as an easy way to satisfy himself now, and he's not going to put up with you making him "relate" with you to continue getting it for very long.
2006-07-13 23:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not be able to I am in the same situation but the guy I am friends with would rather be with his babys mama just tell him how you feel and see what he says you never know unless you express how you feel.
2006-07-13 23:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by big bird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suprise him with something. For example, I want to surpise my boyfriend by sneaking into his room handcuffed and in a school uniform. Try something unexpected.
Please see my question about the handcuffs and school uniform thing.
2006-07-13 23:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him and tell him you want to do more with him than just have sex and see what he says. If he is hesitant, then move on or maybe he wants the same thing and is afraid to tell you.
2006-07-13 23:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by M R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the "quit giving it away for free" answer...
it's crude, but simple to understand and to the point.
2006-07-13 23:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋