please help!?

Question

i am the father of a 13 year old girl who wants to act and be much older than she really is.
my question is can anyone help me to find away to show her that these are the best years of her life and that growing up is hard and she should enjoy being a kid while she can?
i only get her two and a half months of the year by the way.

the idea of making pay her own way is a good one.
i own my own lanscaping business so i already gave her a job and if she wants something she has to buy it herself. i hadn't thought of carging for room and board though.

Answer 1

Treat her like an adult for the first month. Charge her rent (like small per week), make her buy her own food, get a job (mow grass, walk dogs etc), give her a wake up call. She will get the idea. Then have a sit down with her after the month is up. Ranches and farms really could use help too. *hint*

Good Luck

Answer 2

I am glad you are willing to help your daughter. First thing is what kind of communication do you have with her Mother? If you are able to talk with her, do so, seriously and let her know the things that you observe. Don't attack her as if this behavior is her fault, but let her know you are concerned. Ask her what are some of the things that your daughter does at home? Maybe between the two of you, you can settle on some ideas. Your ex might even appreciate that you are concerned and want your daughter to be in a healthy environment. I teach 8th graders and I see it all the time. When the parents are not together, one always seems to allow the kid to 'do what they want' to compensate for some loss. As far as your daughter is concerned, try to help her by doing things with her that young people her age do - does she know kids of her age in your area? There are activities that you can do with other 13 year olds and they have just as much fun - bowling, skating, biking, movies, theater....then take her shopping. Have the store clerks try to encourage her and introduce her to clothing and styles that are for her age group -get magazines and read them together. Preaching will only turn her off - just good old fashioned daddy-to-daughter talk - being consistent, and continuing to love her will be the ingredients that will help her. It's a phase that sometimes last and much of it because of the society we live in. Girls grow up much faster than before - afterall, look what's on t.v. today. Without parental and wisdom and guidance from the "village" and family support structure - our kids do not have a chance. Daddy, you're doing a good job - keep it up. She will appreciate your consistency and love.

Answer 3

OK first buddy why do you only get her get 2 and half months of the year, I mean serusly did you get divorsed or was it justr a 1 nite stand gone bad and now you have to deal with the little *****! or did you do drugs? well what ijm really asking is she hot? just kidding, just let her be, man i bet you were like that when you young, I have a counselor that I go to when im a little low in spiritual feelings, mad, or etc. just take a breath and let all your negative energy out!

Answer 4

well ithink you should talk to her but if that doesnt work then cut her down on her privilages my mom is trying to teach me that if i have a short rope, then i can only get what i need for a while to show her that i have to act 13 not 17 like my sister...i cant always hang out with older ppl! oohohohohoh also!! rent the movie THIRTEEN and make her watch it...make sure she understands that these two girls in the movie are only 13 and that they are acting 18 adn bad S**T happens when you act older!

Answer 5

I dont' think that there is anyway that you can help her to understand that. She has to come to the conclusion on her own. Unfortuanately, that is not something many kids come to the conclusion of, until it's too late. Try explaining it to her - fast though- don't turn it into a lecture. Most of all though, jsut be her daddy, and love her. She needs it now more than ever! If she has a father giving her male attention, she is less likely to be wanting/ needing other male attention. :)

Answer 6

Hire an actress around your daughter's age to play a girl like her, and have her hang out with your daughter for like, a week, you know, talking about all the things your daughter wants to do, then when you find out which one of the so-called joys of maturity your daughter wishes to partake in most, have the actress "die" from that cause. For example, if your daughter can't wait to grow up and have to pay taxes, make the actress an emancipated minor who dies from a paper cut from a tax form that got infected. Brilliant, I know.

Answer 7

paying her own way thats good put her to work at your job and make her see what its like to be a grownup and dont go easy on her long 8 to 12 hours days like we all do shell like that for about a week

Answer 8

to answer this is hard cause i myself am going though the same problem as u are. i have a daughter thats 15 and shes smart as hell (street wise). but the only thing i can express to her is that no matter what she does, i'll be there to answer anything she might have to ask. i can express my feelings as to what i see goin on and about all i can do. the reason is this as we grew up we did the same thing to our parent(s) and now its returning to use 10 fold. we now have to go though what our own parents went thogh from us

Answer 9

Try to bond with her first you know? like do what she likes. if she plays on a sport team go vist her games and if she's a cheerleader visit her and watch her cheer. It's really easy. If they know they are ready then they are ready. When they know you'll know. Hang out with her a bit. Maybe you can even lether throw a party of her own. just for teens. when they know you will too. Just trust your kids and bond with them.

Answer 10

Okay Dad, sit down and have a talk with her...tell her that you only want the best for her and that she should be young while she can!! Tell her the things you have to go through!! Example:Work,Taxes,Billz....Ect.