I need a womans advice and help.?

Question

im 19 years old and im a virgin. i need some help what could be possibly wrong with me. l think it could be that im fat not super fat like jared fogel or anything. i have a beer gut. or my face has a lot of cloged pores or im just shy. what do you ladies think it could be? i am taking measures to uncloge my poers but its to painfull and scrubs and rubs dont work very fast or well.

Answer 1

Billy, stop obsessing over the state of your sex life. At 19, you have at LEAST 60 yrs ahead of you for having sex. Men can and do enjoy sex later in life so just relax.... "It" will happen when it happens.

As ffar as "why" you're still a virgin, based on your description of you, there are probably somethings you could do to improve on how you present yourself. Since you've asked, I'll offer a little older woman advice to a young man.

1. Body shape/type: if you fel your over-weight (not Jared fat) then start out walking. Where I live, there are a over dozen lakes and parks with great walking paths. These offer great scenery AND it also offers an opportunity to do a little people watching. If you make it a habit and develope a routine, you will see improvement in your body AND you may meet a girl that shares this habit with you and THAT could develope into a RELATIONSHIP.

2. Dress yourself in clothes that compliment your body, not act as a drapery that hides your body. One mistake that a lot of people make is to wear bigger clothing, thinking it makes them look smaller. WRONG. Wear pants and shirts that fit close (not TIGHT) to your body. Avoid the low, droopy butt jeans and XXXXXL shirts. They don't look good on ANYONE.

3. Keep yourself neat. Take a shower every morning and wash your hair. Keep your facial hair short and neat if you don't want to shave it off every day. DON'T use heavy cologne.

4. Stand up straight and walk with your head held up. If you act confident you will start to BE confident. (Positive thinking)

5. I've had my issues with bad skin all my life. My suggestion is to use Cetaphil Daily Facil Cleanser and a Buff Puff to exfoliate. Be gentle with the Buff Puff and use the Cetaphil in the morning when you get up and at night when you go to bed. Unfortunately, you're at the age where breakouts are inevitable. Drink more water (and try to cut out soda and beer-they're NOTORIOUS for helping your gain and keep weight on); eat less greasy foods; eat more fruits and vegies. It should help with your skin AND help with your weight.

These are a few suggestions and observations. I wish I could give you a magic button so that you could obtain the experience you want, but I can't. Don't dwell on this aspect of your life. There WILL be a girl out there who wants to be with you and if you're lucky, she'll be a virgin too. Just don't let this drag you down. OK?

Remember, positive energy attracts positive energy, at least when it comes to people. Good luck!

Answer 2

Honey, it is not a problem that you are a virgin. I myself would love to meet a virgin, because the last thing in the world a girl wants is someone who has slept with lots of women. Br proud to be a virgin. You dont have to announce it to the world, if you are worried what everyone else thinks. Virginity is not something posted on your drivers license, so dont worry. As far as your self esteem, do not focus on putting yourself down. This is the biggest turn off of all. Boost your self esteem and be proud of who you are. Clogged pores is not the reason you are a virgin! Be comfortable with yourself, and others will be comfortable with you. If you dont think you are worthy, why should anyone else. Give people a reason to want to know you. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 3

dont try a lot of chemicals ot youy can create new skin issues scrub daily or tweice a day with a mild cleanser. aveeno pads work really well. they are also less expensive than most of the other stuff out there. modify your diet to avoid too many fried foods. if you worry about your weight try walking every day. not only will it help you physically but it will make you feel more positive. get out more but dont do it to have sex do it to make yourself feel better everything else is secondary. and theres nothing wrong with being a virgin at 19 lots of people are by choice. stress can cause severe breakouts so dont worry relax good luck

Answer 4

I'm 19, and I have plenty of guy friends (some of them older than me) who are virgins! There is nothing wrong with them or you. To tell you the truth, being college-aged and dating a guy who's a virgin would be really refreshing. A girl feels a lot less awkward and pressured into the bedroom if she knows that there isn't some standard set by some girl that came before her that she has to live up to. Plus, there's the fact that you know you don't have herpagonhasyphilaids, which is always a plus.

Answer 5

19 and a virgin is perfectly fine! There is nothing wrong with you. Btw if you think you're fat, then here is a tip. Whenever you sit down, sit at the edge of your chair and don't slouch. It's working your abs and reduces belly fat without doing much of all. Choose clothes that compliment you, and don't overdue it on the makeup or perfume. Wash your face with soap and water every night. That should work. DONT POP YOUR ZITS!!! That will not turn out well. Present yourself well. Smile, be bold and go on dates. Hope I helped!

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with you being a VIRGIN, be proud of it. As for your Skin Problem, dint give up there are many inexpensive Products out there to help you. Maybe you should watch your Food a little bit more closely-it could help with the skin. Start moderate exercises if you have no Health issues.

Answer 7

Work on yourself first. If you are happy with yourself people are drawn to you. Make a list of all the stuff that you feel that you want to change in your life and then do it. This will give you great confidence and as soon as you know it someone will be flirting with you. Chicks will also love the fact that your still a virgin so don't feel bad about it. I mean we want someone to know what their doing but it sounds bad to say that you have slept with over 9-10 people. Do your homework to. I know a guy who didn't have but two partners and he knew what he was doing , he said he watched alot of porn. Just be yourself and be confident and soon you won't have any problems with the girls.

Answer 8

First of all nothing is wrong with you.
When you lose your virginity be sure to use protection. You just
need to date put yourself out there. Female friends maybe a good start. After that who knows what could happen, but take it slow don't rush in you'll get burned. There has to be a relationship first.

Answer 9

It isnt nessesarily a bad thing that u are a virgin. As for your other problems, try this:
*exercise and try to eat right to get rid of the beer belly
*to get rid of the clogged pores issue, try different products and wash your face daily
*and the only way to get over shyness is to practice! talk 2 anyone hoo will listen!
*Good luck w/ the ladies!!!*

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with you. You should be proud that in todays society you are still a virgin at 19. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin...