theres a guy that I like and he likes me too, but the problem is that he's a stoner... he says he does it cuz it makes him happy, and I really dont mind because he says he wont pressure me... but im afraid my parents will hate him because they know how hard it is to get clean... this guy says he's only gonna do it for one more year. now my question is... if you found out your bf(or gf) was doing drugs, would you dump 'em?
2006-07-13 15:41:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
remember~ this is hypothetical...
2006-07-13 15:43:20 · update #1
yes
2006-07-13 15:43:30 · answer #1 · answered by Billy Talent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The tough thing about drugs is controlling them. Usually it's the other way around and they control you or you are at risk for them controlling you.
Does he have some good things going on in his life? Is he close to some friends that you like and does he have some interests in sports or school or hobbies that make him want to get better at stuff?
If not and all he wants to do is get high then he is probably not going to "clean up" real well for your parents no matter how you try to present him to them.
Also, what's so magical about "one more year"? Seems to me he has a problem and it seems you kind of get it too. Maybe he is fine as a friend?
2006-07-13 15:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gut tells you this isn't a good person for you to go out with, then go by what you are feeling. If your parents wont approve, I'm sure their reasoning's will be good enough. My
question is this. "If he doesn't care enough about himself to stop the drugs, how can he care about you at all? Think about where this relationship is going to be a year from now? Think of yourself. Being involved with people doing drugs just dont mix. Eventually, it will affect you in one way or another.
2006-07-13 16:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say weed is a gateway drug, is it really? I do not know BUT it sounds to me like your mom and dad have some experience with drug abuse? I do not know how they have been exposed to it but just give them the benefit of the doubt and think for one second...they have done or loved someone who has done drugs so wouldn't it stand to reason that maybe they know what they are talking about? I'd have to go with them on this one.
But I guess that would be determined by the relationship you have with them.
2006-07-13 15:51:43 · answer #4 · answered by crystlizm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. First of all, people do drugs for reasons. Some people do drugs recreationally, yeah, but most don't. Most are just trying to escape their lives and/or destroy themselves.
Personally, I don't want to be with a guy who has to be "fixed" or "completed." I've been in situations like that before and I told the guy to take a hike. The exact words that made him shut up and stop trying to sway my opinion were "I like you but I don't want to and don't have to put up with your bullshit. Sort it out and then come and see me."
2006-07-13 15:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lyth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as you wish, but take responsibility for your choices in life, and above all.....don't be puzzled later in life when you're married and just can't figure out why you're not happy and why your husband is out all night, etc etc. The answer is pretty clear in that you set a very low, lower than low, standard for someone to be your boyfriend.
2006-07-13 15:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hypothetical friend should lose this guy before she starts participating in his self-destructive lifestyle, which she inevitably will. There are any number of great guys (who aren't stoners) out there. Look around. B
2006-07-13 15:48:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok let me start by saying he will probly never quit only slow down. Plus while we are on it do you want to be with him when he gets busted with it , could ruin your life and you didn't even do it! I don't think I would dump him IF he tried to stop ... but he would have to be showing a effort ... while on the subject how will it hinder future thoughts of kids,
2006-07-13 15:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Dreamy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally yes and i have.
did u know that with pot what ever age u start doing it is the age that you mind will stop growing at so if u start at age 13 your brain withh be 13 for a long time and it make s u lazy as hell
seriously no matter how much ppl deny it i no it from personal friends. so yeah neways
me no way but its dif for every 1
2006-07-13 15:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew that they were doing drugs when I started dating then it wouldn't bother me if they continued, because obviously I was cool with it in the beginning. If I started dating a guy who didn't do drugs and then he started, then yes I'd dump him because I wouldn't be cool with it.
This guy isn't going to quit in one year. If he wanted to quit he'd do it now not in one year.
2006-07-13 15:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a heart beat because I do not tolerate that. You never know when something will go wrong. He might say he will quit in a year but he could forget or not care after a year goes by.
2006-07-13 15:44:45 · answer #11 · answered by Haruko ^-^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋