I do everything for my boyfriend, pick him up from bars, clean his house, do his laundry, buy him food, and so on. I've found it really hard to stay happy, he says he loves me and he wants to marry me, but I just don't know if he really does because he doesn't do for me like I do for him. Is it just a guy thing where they don't know what to do, or do I have a real problem and I need to find someone else. We're in college and it's summer and he goes out to bars 4 out of the 7 nights. If I ask him to stay in with me, he won't. And if I have a bad day, he doesn't even think to ask me if he should stay in with me to make me feel better. It just seems like he only thinks of himself and what makes him happy. Even though he comes home to me EVERY single night, I just feel a huge void. Should I stay with him?
2006-07-13 15:27:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy IS only thinking of himself.
Get out now while you still can.
He isn't going to change, and you will never be happy being his doormat. You are also his maid, whore, cook, and babysitter.
You are better than that .... go find someone who treats you like a real woman!!
2006-07-13 15:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Right now it seems that you are more afraid of being alone. A relationship may not always be exactly 50/50, but there has to be give and take. It sounds like he is going 95% of the taking. He has no concern for your feelings. And why would he need to go to bars so often without you? Take a break from this guy. You can do MUCH better.
2006-07-13 15:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by beadtheway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, just like me. a while ago my bf was the same way, when i finaly got the guts to tell him how i felt he said he'd change he didnt, well when we finaly broke up as much as it hurt i was happy being treated right by other guys, he askd me back out last night i said no, it hurt b/c i love him but in the long run i know it was the right decision, and if you can relate then just try telling him and if it doesnt work maybe you should see other people, i mean it will take a while to get over him but theres so many ppl that would be lucky to have you and would probably treat you the right way. true it seems like they are the one but maybe there just better off as friends. hope it helps!!
2006-07-13 15:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, I've heard this similar story sooo many times. Girls do this too easily usually. They get emotionally attached, as do guys (they really do), but then they go out of their way, putting 110% into a relationship and the guy figures out he doesn't have to. Of course he's not going to change, because as of now he knows you're not. Stop doing everything for him. He might change. I doubt it, because that's what he enjoys, but he might. Girls gotta stop getting walked over though.
2006-07-13 15:32:25 · answer #4 · answered by Derrrr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant tell you if you should stay with him or not. My opinion is to go see The Breakup. He should give you the respect you deserve and it doesn't seem like he is doing that. Tell him straight out that you want to be appreciated for what you do, and see what his response is. That should give you some idea of how he really feels. He needs to step up and take part in your relationship. You can't do it all by yourself.
2006-07-13 15:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. I don't think he knows what love is. You should read a book called "The Five Love Languages". It helps to find out what is wrong in your relationship and what you need to be happy. ^-^
2006-07-13 15:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Haruko ^-^ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move him out of the picture........try to find 50-50 i know these are hard to find but u should be a team not like a slave serving a king or queen............also he shouldnt be so dependent on someone,and u shouldnt either...becuase when u lose the person ur dependent about,ur going to have a rough life ahead of u..
2006-07-13 15:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Psycho-Minion(Jeff Hardy Fan) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes useing you and when you about to plip he says the right words to bring you back in its good he comes home to you but he needs to pay more attension to you. its totally up to you if you want to stay with him or leave him and no one here should make that choice for you this is very deep moments you need to make your own choice.
2006-07-13 15:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who put themselves in the position of being doormats are never happy; dump him, rediscover you, get on with your life.
2006-07-13 15:33:20 · answer #9 · answered by JEFFAVEGRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you give and give and give and he takes and takes and takes. I would tell him that you are tired of being taken advantage of and tell him its either this (then tell him what you want) or you are gone.
2006-07-13 15:30:08 · answer #10 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋