My boyfriend told me yesterday that he thinks that i am only infuated with his looks and body and sex. Which is not true i love my boyfriend very much inside in out we have been together for almost 4 years. I thought that he would be flattered that i find him very attractive and irrestable i cant keep my hands off of him. He thinks i am 2 seductive but like i said i am very sexually attracted to him more than any of my other boyfriends. But i dont want him to think that i am just after one thing.
2006-07-13 15:20:49 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well c i do text him freaky messages everyday. And i am a very aggressive person in bed.
2006-07-13 15:32:16 · update #1
He said this before when we had been together for about a year but i took it lightly. I guess i just have never been attracted to anybody like that ever in all areas.
2006-07-13 15:38:05 · update #2
sounds like yall need to sit down and have a heart to heart conversation. is this the first time this has come up? maybe he feels like there isnt any emotional feelings between yall. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 5 years and i find him very sexually attractive as well, however, we have a very strong emotional bond too. there is a balance of both. we talk about everything and know each other inside and out. if there is a problem then we sit down with no distractions and work it out. sometimes it takes hours and sometimes minutes. it all a part of getting to know each other....and yes even after almost 5 years there are still more things to learn. just when i thought i knew everything about him, i learn something else! the best thing to do is show him how much you love him, dont just tell him. you dont have to have sex to show him you love him. when he comes home from work have his fav meal ready and enjoy a nice dinner together. then maybe go for a walk and end it all with a movie youll both enjoy. dont make the night too serious...just enjoy it and talk! this has worked out well for my boyfriend and me. dont get stuck doing all the work in the relationship though. he needs to show you how much he loves you too. if he's not willing then i say move on...he'll figure out what he had when its gone! i hope this helps.
2006-07-13 15:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, this is an interesting reverse. I think the best way to work this is to SHOW him that you care about him more than his body. Do nice little things for him. Cook him a nice dinner, rub his feet, whatever, just do something to show that you care about him as a person. And here is the most important part; that night that you do the nice thing for him, don't try to have sex with him. In fact, if he offers, tell him you have a headache, but that you love him, and thanks for offering. That should show him that you did something kind JUST to be kind, because you love him.
2006-07-13 15:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by davidw5748 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm...he might be gay. A straight man would welcome every chance to have sex, and knowing that his woman only wants him would make it even sweeter. Unless of course, he doesn't want your attention because he cannot feel the love for you that you feel for him because he is either not in love with you (a straight guy would still take the sex and probably treat you like dirt.) or he is in the closet and afraid of coming out. Just a thought.
2006-07-13 15:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by kevsnow00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be full of himself or maybe he saw some girl out on the street whom may have told him her thoughts about him and that got him thinking why your really with him. I have to give you guys credit for being together for four years not many people can say that.
2006-07-13 15:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by sash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an A$$! here u are trying to show him how much u care for him, and he basically calls u a whore! I would have been out the door as soon as he said that u are only in it for sex.
2006-07-13 15:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by LunarFairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'd think after 4 years he would have gotten that! maybe chill out just a little on the sexual stuff for a while to show that's not all you care about. he sounds like a lucky guy!
2006-07-13 15:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't respect you as a human being, or as a female. He should be happy you are so into him, especially after all this time. Relationships tend to slow down in those areas, especially after 4 years. Sounds to me he is getting bored and doesn't deserve you or your affection.
2006-07-13 15:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah,never heard of a guy complaining bec of that.
anyway,he should feel lucky to have you. not all women who have been in a relationship for 4 years still find their guy attractive&irresistable.
try this...try (very hard)to resist him.try to resist the temptation. don't sleep w/ him for a period of time until he notice then he will ask why. just answer "trying to prove to you that i'm not just after your looks."
and also try to be romantic but not leading to sex.have a night out just talking.if it's leading that way,try(again,hard!)not to go there.
2006-07-13 15:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by m1021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things here. First, the key words here are my other boy friends. no male likes a women to have anybody but him.
And 2, Maybe he wants to end the relationship because hes interested in another girl or girls.
2006-07-13 15:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been wit my man 4 2 years nd maby he juz wants 2 have sex a different way i use2 B the same way wit my boyfriend nd he told me the same thing so thiz iz wat u do wait till he wants it do a lil 4 play juz 2 tease him then give it 2 him trust me it will B great
2006-07-14 04:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by sexy 916 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋