I really wanted to go with a really beautiful, funny, nice girl to my homecoming dance. I asked her tonight, and she said "she was sorry". I was really looking foward to going with her, and now I feel terrible, almost like crying. What can I do to feel better? Should I imporve my image? Try again?
I don't want to lose her, because we only see each other during summers, and I go to an all guy school. How can I keep her in my life but not "romantically" at first? How do I get involved with her "romantically" later?
2006-07-13 15:05:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes you need to just walk away. It's painful, yes, but if she has already refused you, then you need to learn to accept the rejection. Believe me, it has happened to all of us, and in time, another person will come along to help you forget about her. And yet, who knows, in time things may change and you'll look pretty good to her. But life being what it is, then you may not be interested in her! That happened to me...I let a guy know I was interested and he told me he wanted to go out with me several years back, but now he was in love with someone else!
2006-07-13 15:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes at this age, just being friends is enough. Maybe if you just accept that it may not go any further than that, it may turn into something more......if not a friend is great to have as well. Of course you feel like crying---you have feelings too!! Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and ask someone else to go even if you take a friend. You will get through this...promise Good Luck!
2006-07-13 15:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow Andrew: I feel for you! Sorry you were hurt, and let yourself have a long cry. It is worth it, and you are worth it.
No, don't try and go for her. You are worth a lot more then that. Seriously, she lost out, don't change yourself either.
Put your best foot forward; after the long cry; and keep yourself really busy, either reading, sports, even walking everywhere for awhile. It will pass, and well, you deserve someone special, and she wasn't it. She said no.
No is no.
and, well, you go ahead and enjoy life.
luv
Ava
p.s. and if you see her every summer, who knows, if you are busy being happy and outgoing, well that is attractive in itself. We as humans are attracted to healthy people who take good care of themselves and are self loving first! Okay.
2006-07-13 15:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find way to be friends and maybe eventually she will start liking you. I am not bad looking myself and in the past I dated a guy for 2 years, who i turned down at first like 3 times. You don't know what her reasons are for turning you down.If you have some mutual friends try to talk to them and see what they think. it maybe something stupid that she may be able to get over in future.Just don't make a big deal out of it because you gonna make it worst.Have patience.
2006-07-13 15:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens to everyone. What you have to do now is let it go. Improve yourself by all means but do it for yourself not her. When all is said and done i'm sure you'll be ok. Oh ya sorry about the all boys school dude that's gotta suck
2006-07-13 15:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by NEOTEH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, move on! I know it's hard, but the truth is girls want what they can't have.
You are making yourself too available to her.
You sound like a nice-enough guy, so it's her lose not yours!
find someone else, and treat her like the world!
2006-07-13 15:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by val schmal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she said no, she has her reasons. If you can remain a friend you might be able to find out if something is meant to be or not.
By all means do not pressure, keep your chin up, if she said no, it doesnt necessarily mean it is you. Dont let that ruin your self-esteem.
2006-07-13 15:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i wouldn't suggest trying again... She'll only get disgusted by your immaturity... She may never talk again because she's fed up! Just be yourself, and if that's good enough - she'll go back on what she said!! Good luck!
2006-07-13 15:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by John McGrawl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok man,
just ring her and say that you don't really mind at this stage that she tuurned you down, don't feel bad about it mate, mine just left me and I had a glass of whisky to help. not half hr back I laughed about it.
but just chill mate, the time will come and she'll find you attractive at some point.
can I please ask why you were turned down? women don't just say "NO" without a reason.
keep calm and good luck.
2006-07-13 15:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made the first mistake by being really
shallow. If its her beauty your in love with, what is
stopping her from being in love with another "beauty"
Beautiful women want Beautiful men.
It is only Fair.
2006-07-13 15:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by roman_surf_goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋