i have had 3 boyfriends in the past year and they were pretty long term but i feel that i should have more because i was apart if the popular group.....so i felt that i was ugly.....please answer asap!!
2006-07-13 14:58:37 · 34 answers · asked by tasha+sean=luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At your age, 0. I don't think you understand the meaning of a long term relationship. If we do the math, your definition of a long term relationship is about 4 months. That's far from long term. That's casual dating if you ask me. The fact that you feel that you need to date around more is a sign of possible further delinquent behavior in your later teenage years. Be careful. You do not need to date around to keep the status of a popular girl...you'll rather end up with a different status...trust me, one you will not like. I am sure that you are a beautiful girl and dating more people will not validate your beauty. You need to believe that you are beautiful and you need to love yourself. Beauty does not equal to the number of boyfriends you had.... heck if that were true, I'd be butt ugly with my one and only boyfriend who is now my husband.
2006-07-14 05:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by bonjovifan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Popular group........eww!!!!!
All they do is make fun of others. It's so mean and most people end up hating them. (the "populars" anyway)
o and btw I think you should know that being "popular" is a only a middle school term.. Once in high school there really is no "popular" group. (Im in high school, grade 9, major difference that I noticed... that being the best one)
I was never considered "popular" in middle school.. infact I was one that thhey picked on.... funny reason there too... this girl tiffany liked this guy mike, and mike liked me, and tiff got jealous that he didnt like her and that me and him started dating. She got all her friends against me.. b*tching at me when they had a chance.. let me tell you.. it was annoying! I had them threating to beat me up, but I just walked away. I always walk away from fights... they're stupid really. And most for no reason.
Anyway enough about popular... back to your question..
hmm well at that age. (grade 7/8) I had a few boyfreinds, which now I dont call boyfriends cause most of them only lasted 2 weeks. And I know see that that is hardly a boyfriend. I wasnt called a slut or anything, I was just on and off with a few people and trying new boys. (ok that sounded wrong..) But don't worry about it. 3 boyfriends is pretty good for that age. To be honest the lower the number the better.
(embaressing confession) I have a list of ex boyfriends on the back of my door. (made at a slumber party when there was only about 6, and just kept going on) It's from grade 5 up to now (grade 9). 26 boyfriends over that time! Not exactly proud of that number. (some were only 2 or so days so really they shouldnt be counted)
Wow that got pretty long. byebye
2006-07-13 15:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Becky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had too many and regret it now. I wish I would have focused more on just myself and not a guy. That makes you more popular for yourself. It has nothing to do with being popular to others. Love and get to know yourself. Save the relationship for high school but moreso even for college. I would not recommend getting serious about marriage or anything until after college. Never let anyone make you feel that you have to do something. It is your choice and you know what you want and need more than anyone.
2006-07-13 15:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone is different. There are some ppl i kno who've had 7 in 2 yrs n they'r 13. I'm 13 i had 2 long-term relationships. I don't see anything wrong with 3.
2006-07-13 15:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Fallen Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so young. Instead of worrying how many relationships you can have, why don't you just be yourself and when the time comes, you will know. Don't think that hanging around popular kids isn't always the best thing, especially if you have to prove something to them. Focus on what is right for you. Enjoy being young because before you know it, you'll be wondering where your life went.
2006-07-13 15:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tasha, and 'OUCH' girl!
woow down, slow down....hey, there is lots of time to date and well, just about do anything you want in life. You have a great amount of passion inside of you; which is super, yet please slow down and be '13'.
'13' means having friends, not worrying lots about well anything! There is time for worrying, and years ahead.
I sense there is something else going on here. Are you on a spin because you find it is easy to attract the opposite? Hey, thats both good and bad.
Be friends, with your friends. And go and enjoy life as a young person. Okay
luv
Ava
p.s. I was just thinking after reading your piece, and you know I think you have lots of passion and energy; so have you thought about hobbies--anything to keep you real busy meeting these wonderful people? Photography, Track and Field, Swimming Team? Seriously, I think you are bored.
2006-07-13 15:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to calm down. you're only 13. the realy relationships don't happen until high school. don't even sweat it. a lot of the "popular kids" don't have a single boyfriend/girlfreind, becasue they aren't worried about it. when you get to high school, you'll see. you're freinds and school are way more important than a serious realtionship. believe me. i've been through it. i'm going to be a senior, and i've only had 5 real boyfriends ever. i now have a boyfriend that i'm actually worried about the realtionship. it's just a life thing. you don't need a boyfriend. just friends that are potential boyfriends, and then in high school, you'll now what kind of guy you want to date.
2006-07-13 15:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by tirzaht90 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow down....3 in 1 year..that averages 1 every 4 months or 12 weeks..that is not long term..you are a bit young...you can find problems at that pace..just be patient and let it find you instead of you trying to be popular...
you must NOT be ugly since 4 guys have been interested in you..
popular does not =pretty..
2006-07-13 15:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by KT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three would b the max 4 me but i mean..........try havin a real boyfriend 4 once bcauzi think all those previous bfs u've had b4 were 4 the wrong reasons.u dont have to rush this stuff u kno. luv will find u.find sum1 that likes u and u like them genuinely too and get to kno them and u'll get to experience the real beauty of a real relationship in the future. goood luck!
2006-07-13 15:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by slims 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is... Where the heck is your mother and why is she letting a middle schooler date? I didn't even have a boyfriend until I was 16. And now I wish I would have waited longer! The more boys (or men) you give your heart to, the less you're going to be able to give your future husband. You may not think that's true, but trust me, it definitely is.
2006-07-14 09:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋