Did your parents spank you growing up? How do you feel about using that form of punishment for your kids?

Answer 1

its funny...my mom did and my dad didnt. my grandma did and my grandpa didnt....i'm 40 no and till this day i respect my dad and grandpa more and feel they loved me more, although i love them all just as much. the bottom line is it wasnt necessary to be hit. it is possible to control ur kids without hitting them ..you may have to use a physical strategy...but i never had to hit my kids and they are very well mannered and listen very well also. The key imo is to never let them get away with negative behaviour and always have the attention to follow through on any issue when they test it...if u let it go or just turn them loose and ignore them there will be problems. If one of my kids tests me on an issue i will physically let him/her know that i will prevent them from doing it or there WILL be consequences of a predefined nature but i never had to hit them.

Answer 2

Spanking should be used as a form of punishment when it is necessary. I just spanked my child on the rear last night for stealing and vandalising someone else's property. He deserved to spanked for that, Something like that a time out will not work for it. So what can a parent do to stop that severe of behavior before it gets worse? Spank them!!!!!!!! There is a difference between spanking on the butt and beating them. A good parent will know the difference and they will be careful.

Answer 3

I don't remember them doing it, but I know they did. I learned how to behave from them so early that I knew they would spank me if needed so I behaved.
I spanked my kids, but not just for anything. Mainly when they didn't want to cooperate with other forms of punishment first. That's called "pulling out the big guns".
Spanking will not damage your kids psychologically. If you want to see some screwed up kids, start looking as psychologists' kids. They're in a three-way tie with preacher's kids and lawyer's kids to see who are the biggest pain. I teach school, and I always know when I'm dealing with a kid that the parents didn't discipline. It's obvious.
Spanking is NOT the only form of discipline. Use others on a regular basis. But, you had better be prepared to use it in your arsenal. One day your kids will run through every form of discipline you have prepared to see just who the boss really is. When they yell "NO!" at you, that's a good time to enforce spanking. A little "attitude adjustment" now and then works wonders.

Answer 4

I was spanked only maybe once or twice when i did something very wrong.

I use it for my daughter and it has worked wonders. Most people forget good parenting is about what is best for the children for their future. We need to remember it is always about them not about how it makes us feel. No parent enjoys punishing their children, it breaks their heart but they need to do it because it is not about how it makes them feel, it is about what is best for the child in the long run.

Discipline is good for them in the long run and will make them better people. The younger you start the lesser and the more consistent you are, the easier it is and you wont have to spank for long. They will get it and do the right thing to avoid it.

My sister-in-law tried spanking her unruly child for a week and gave it up because she didnt like how it made her feel. I think that is selfish that she cant put aside her feelings to do something that will help her child in the future. Everyone notices the stark difference in behavior between her kids and my mine and the reason is that i discipline mine. Every time, no exceptions.

I wish more people will do the same.

Answer 5

They did and I feel fine with spanking my kids when it is needed. I'm not talking about spanking them for not picking up their toys. I'm talking about when they go in the road or try to run away from me in the store. They know they aren't supposed to. I have never been to jail, I've never been a violent person. I never have left a mark on either of my kids and they do NOT get a spanking when I'm angry. As far as spanking putting fear in children and causing them not to respect their parents, that isn't true. I respect both my parents and I always have. I was brought up to respect people. When I was younger I was afraid they would spank me if I did something wrong, I was more afraid of disappointing them.

Answer 6

I was spanked as a child. And I have no problem spanking my child when he needs it. Sadly, parents these days don't spank. They want to be friends with their kids, Not parents. Which is the wrong thing to do. And because of this kids are out of control. It has never hurt a child to be spanked.

Answer 7

Spanking is NOT child abuse!
SPARE THE ROD - SPOIL THE CHILD
"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24)
I was spanked as a child (maybe 2 or 3 times when I really needed it) but I was a well-behaved child and grew up to be a very well-behaved teenager and I probably was this way because my parents spanked. I believe I'm a better person because of it and have more respect for my parents because of it. I know how much my mom & dad loved me. The couple of times I got spanked I needed it!! I love my boys more than anything and they get spanked and then they learn their lesson. By no means was I or my boys ever beaten, thats a completely different matter. I also believe that if paddling was brought back in to the schools, we may see a slight decrease in discipline problems.

Answer 8

I was spanked growing up. If my Dad told me I was getting a spanking, I got it. It has made me a responsible person. Spanking can be child abuse if it is done ONLY to hurt...but it is a learning tool and should be used in that way only. Especially in today's permissive society it is important for children to learn consequences and when kids are young this is a great way to convey that message.I found that once my kids knew I was serious and would spank if necessary, I rarely ever had to do it. And like my Dad always told me - It really did hurt me more than my child. Once kids are older, you can change the consequences to loss of privelidges such as TV or games, etc... and trust me, they will wish you would spank them instead of that. haha It is so true. I remember asking my Dad for a spanking so he would not ground me.

Answer 9

Yes and I use it for my daughter but not as much as it was used for me I honestly think that it works. I am a teacher and I can tell kids who get spanked and those who don't the difference in behavior and respect level for the parents is huge. The ones who don't get spanked say "I don't care if you call my mom/dad?" The ones who get spanked usually straighten up. Plus I know former classmates and friends who were not spanked and I hate to say it but they did not turn out so well.

Answer 10

Yes, my parents used spanking as a form of discipline, and I do not see anything wrong with it. I think the reason so many parents CANNOT control their children today is their fear of using any physical means to get the point across - "time outs" in my opinion, do not work. A spanking, however, shows a child that when he/she does something wrong, it hurts. And I don't see it as child abuse in any way.

Answer 11

I remember getting spanked one time in my entire life. I was the type of kid that you had to just look at wrong and it would affect me. That's all my parents ever had to to...give me that disappointed look. I do have a child of my own, but he's only 1. Way too young to even think about that right now. I guess it just depends on what type of punishment suits him. I'm not saying I'll beat him, but I little swat on the rear may not hurt anything