What do you think about it? I know my parents are agains things like that.
2006-07-13 14:47:54 · 18 answers · asked by maya 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I lived with mine before I got married. My parents were against it, but I told them my age and that I was an adult and I was going to make my own choices and hoped they respected it. I'm all for it because it's one less hassle you have to worry about after you get married. When you're getting married, you have enough on your plate to worry about and things to accomplish and moving in with each other is one less thing. Good luck!
2006-07-13 14:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by camping_girl 4 · 10⤊ 6⤋
I don't plan on marrying someone until I have lived with him first. I have to know what our home life is going to be like, without all the romantized preconcieved notons of what married life is like. Plus it helps you get to know that person on that really intimate level before you take the big plunge. My parents weren't too keen on the idea either, but now that the divorce rate is about 50-60%, it makes more sense. Also if you or the guy really f*cks up, you can leave without the mess of money, lawyers and paperwork.
2006-07-13 21:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with my family feeling the same way, but like I had told them I wan't to know what I'm getting into, before I get married. I mean dateing, and liveing togather are 2 different things. When you live togather 24 hrs, 7 days a week you really learn who they are.
2006-07-13 21:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by kimpnd23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can either make or break your relationship.
It can make things better because you won't go through problems and little arguments since you two are not used to living together and you get closer and more used to one another.
The downside is that this might make your boyfriend put off proposing to you because he may feel that the living together thing is good enough for a few years.
2006-07-13 21:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is better if you live with just so you can tell if you are compatible, maybe tell your folks you are engaged but haven't picked a date, that is what I did. I also found out, after a year living with, we didn't get along so well and I was glad we weren't married. We didn't have kids and didn't have to go through a divorce. Do what you think is right for you.
2006-07-13 21:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sue Chef 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my boyfriend for a year before we got married and our parents didnt like it, but we are now happily married. I see nothing wrong with it b/c you get to see if you are able to stand seeing that person every day for the rest of your life or if he will bug the hell out of you. People can put on an act if you hang out and go on dates but when you are living with them they have to let you see their real self
2006-07-13 21:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by j_danielgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is perfectly acceptable, esspecially if this person has the potential to be your husband/wife. I mean you two should be comfortable with eachothers habits. It also really lets you get to know that person quite a bit better. Go for it, my parents are against it too but if you are an adult what they gonna do ground you and send you to your room?!
2006-07-13 21:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why buy the cow if you can milk it for free? Anyway, the real scientific data says that people that live together have a higher divorce rate after they are married. Also, don't you want to save something special for when you are married?
2006-07-13 21:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Amber E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was pretty much against me moving in with my fiance but I reassured her that I'm grown and I take responsibility for what I do. I think her biggest concern is that I would get pregnant without being married but due to birth control...that ain't happening lol. But now she's excited that I'm getting married, and she's even talking about her grandkids :l
2006-07-13 21:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Beautiful Insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is becoming more and more acceptable over time. I think it has a lot to do with your age and rather or not you have been married before.
2006-07-13 21:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by JRandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you learn a lot about the person if you live with them. wouldn't you like to go into marriage fully informed and without surprises?
2006-07-13 21:56:57 · answer #11 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋