OK, well, my sister always has her iPod adapter plugged in so that she can hear her music through her computer when she is in her room. Well, I wanted to move some pictures from her computer onto my Mom's becasue my mom's has more room and my sister's is running out of space. She said I could use her computer, but when I'm done I have to plug back in her adpater and that when she gets done working on her experiment it better be plugged in. I have to unplug it so I can use the FlashDisk because there is only one working slot on her PC. so I was just like... "Ok"...because it wasn't a big deal.
Well I moved several files betweeen the computers, and I went to the bathroom. I came back and she was on checking her mail. She said she would be done in 5 minutes and that I could get back on after her. So I left...and she got off. I didn't know WHEN she got off...and I never actually got back on...so I didn't plug back in her adapter...I COMPLETELY forgot.
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2006-07-13 14:45:53 · 23 answers · asked by Psychedelic Worm 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So, I was wsahing my feet with a salt scrub in my mother's bathroom when she got back on her computer because she was done with her experiment. SHE came STORMING in absolutely FURIOUS because I had not plugged in her adapter. She was screaming and yelling at me and saying that I could not use her computer again. She said I couldn't because she said that I could under only that one condition. She also was orderinh me to go in NOW and plug in her adpter when all she had to do was bend down and move her arm to put somehting in another bigger thing...adn I said I could not because i had the scrub allover my feet. She screammed adn me to hurry up and that i needed to do it NOW... My mom asked what was wrong becasue she heard her yelling from downstairs, and my sister told her... then my mom was mad at me!! I was just like what the h***?? Because i had just forgotten!! What was the big deaL??? She just had to plug the adapter back in and that would be it!! I siad I was sorry and that ....
2006-07-13 14:46:38 · update #1
I siad I was sorry and that I didn't unerstand why she was so mad. She kept saying because I had not done what she had told me to do. I siad, "It was an ACCIDENT! You forget things too! You jsut have to plug it back in and thats all!" my sister was like, "Well I don't CARE I am P***ED! You didn't do what I had told you to do. You're stupid that you forgot!" And I said back, "I'm STUPID because I forgot?!?! What? you forget things all the time! I'm stupid?" Then i laughed and walked outof her room. now they're are both mad at me!! This is absolutely INSANE!!! I mean, I can understand if she were irritated becasue I hadn't done it... but she was just SOOO ANGRY. This happened around 2 hours ago and they are both fine now. Should she/they be this mad? My mom wasn't as mad as my sister. Who was in the right? This was sooo weird! Advice?
p.s: also, is there something i could say, because when i'm arguing with my sister pver something stupid or she tells me to do something like get her
2006-07-13 14:48:24 · update #2
water or whatvever... and I say no, then she tell sme again but gets angry. She says I have to do it because she is 5 years older than me. that doesn't make any sense!! It's soooo frusturating! *sighs*
2006-07-13 14:49:21 · update #3
You should apologize. However, your sister is acting very immature for getting so upset over something she could have done in five seconds. Actually, you both should just apologize. Partly, she is to blame because she got back on the computer while you left for a break, and you ended up not finishing what you were doing. Honestly, she just overreacted, in my opinion. Forgetting something doesn't make you stupid. Everybody forgets things occasionally.
2006-07-13 14:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel badly for you. I am 45 and am the youngest of 4 children, 2 boys, 2 girls. The second oldest was my sister and she was 7 yrs older than me. I often felt that my sister and my Mom were ganging up on me and often I was right. There's a hierarchy in every house and the fact is that the women in the house try to be the queen bee. Your sister is older and she is vying for queen bee status with your mother. You are much better off leaving that battle between them. Leave it alone and you will come out looking like the good guy. Trust me - been there, done that, came out the winner in the end.
Between you and me, the fact that you went back to use the computer and she was using it is, in my mind, a mitigating factor. But as you said, you forgot. It's an honest mistake.
How old are you and how old is your sister? I ask this because I'm wondering why your sister has a computer, your mother has a computer, and you don't. What's up with that? I think you need to talk to your mother when things calm down. Explain to her calmly and maturely what happened with your sister, and ask her what you can do to show that you have the maturity to own a computer. Obviously, this conversation should happen when your sister is not home.
2006-07-13 22:29:08 · answer #2 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well kiddo, in one since of the word you are right and then on the other hand she is right. She did ask you to plug it back in and you didn't, BUT at the same time she should have let you know when she was done. I think what I would have done, is when she told you that she wanted to check her email, I think I would have taken a couple of seconds to plug it back in right then. And if she told you at that time don't worry about it, tell her that she told you to do it. But none of that happened so you can't do anything about it.
Now another thing, just because she is older than you does not give her the right to order you around and your mom should not let her get away with that. She is your sister, not your boss!! She should ONLY ASK YOU to do stuff.
2006-07-13 22:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take this one for the team. You take the blame, IN FRONT OF YOUR MOM, and don't argue your side, just say your are sorry and you'll never do it again then be silent. Your sister will then probably say something mean to you which will make your mom mad. This is good, it will work in your favor later on. Just say sorry again and walk away with your head down and don't fight back.
Then you let some time pass like maybe a day. Then you ask nicely IN FRONT OF YOUR MOM to be able to use the computer again. Then just be silent and wait to hear what your sister says. If she's anything like my sister she'll say something mean again. I'll bet your mom intervenes and makes your sister share with you again.
2006-07-13 21:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't that it was a big deal, but you not living up to your word IS a BIG DEAL. That is what she was mad about and it is why your Mom was mad also. If you say you will do something, you do it, no matter what happens. Forgetting is not a reason, it is a sorry excuse.
Your sister has every right to keep you off her computer. It is her's and you didn't live up to your word.
Maybe next time you promise something you will remember to live up to your oligations. Which would then show you are growing up, and then MAYBE you can get a computer of your own.
2006-07-13 21:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by llywarch_dindaethwy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... that takes me back. You want to make her feel like a real b***h. Write a short but sweet note and leave it on her computer with her favorite candy. Even if she's right and you should have remembered you get to be the bigger more mature person because she totally flipped out. That was waaaay over the top. I remember those times with my sister so well. Glad I have sons. *L*
2006-07-13 23:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life's too short to argue with your sister over this. Plug her thing in and explain to her that you didn't do it BC you never went back to the computer when you found her on it when you returned from the bathroom.
"Treasure Life"
2006-07-13 21:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Champ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is right, you were asked to plug it back in. But, in my opinion, she didn't need to go ballistic like she did. A simple you didn't plug the adapter back in like I asked would have been enough. Apologize again and make nice with her.
2006-07-13 21:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by mopargrapeape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your sister is something of a control freak. I don't see it as such a big deal, but people who lend out their stuff sometimes come up with strange requests. Your sister, I'm afraid, is a selfish person without much understanding of other people.
2006-07-13 21:51:50 · answer #9 · answered by Pandak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right. She asked you to do something and you neglected to do so. You are in the wrong because you took advantage of a favor without complying with your end of the agreement. Now make up!
2006-07-13 21:47:57 · answer #10 · answered by PUtuba7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋