I have been in alot of bad relationships and been cheated on just about everyone so I feel like my man I have now is going to cheat on me but he swears he would never and he loves me and my daughter and wants to marry me but I still have a hard time making myself believe him. We fight all the time because of my insecurities. I dont like myself so I think how could he? How can I tell if his love is real and he is being truthful about the things he says?
2006-07-13 14:45:39 · 11 answers · asked by precious_denisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love him so much then don't destroy it. You do the same suicid actins that many of 100% lovers do. Give him a little space, but don't do it so that he think you are not interested anymore. Show him that you trust him.
I can read in your words here already that you will lose him if you continue with the same way.
And one very important thing: IF he have in the future an affair then go over it. You can not change it and he still loves YOU. Sometimes it happens that a Man have an affair for a short time. He still will not leave you if you don't make his life to hell.
If your man is happy to come home then he will always come home. Don't destroy this with to much love and to less love. Use the golden middle way.
I have the feeling that the bad relationships from you have to do a lot with you. You want to eat your partner and give him no space for himself. That is a very bad way.
2006-07-13 15:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by torosorogoro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have trust in him or don't be in a relationship at all
for awhile until you know within yourself you are worth being
treated with respect...and to have the confidence that reflects
such an attitiude like.."I am a wonderful, intelligent, kind and
loving person and there's no way I'm gonna tolerate such
b.s...".and he won't ever think about cheating on a person who
he values so much...first this must come with valuing yourself
that much and demanding respect..and giving respect..if this
can't be done for you right now...don't be in a committed relationship...just have fun till you get to know who you are
and that you are worth the effort to have a relationship with.
Which I'm sure you are...but you must find this out for yourself
he can't give it to you...No jealousy, or worries...please just
understand everyone has choices and you must choose to
believe in your worth and thus you will beleive you are worthy
of him being loyal to you....he can sense your vulnerability and
that's not good...hopefully he truly loves you and will not take
advantage of this weakness...
2006-07-13 21:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by ljean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to go to COUNSELING and deal with YOUR trust issues.
You're insecure for a reason- it's called BAGGAGE- deal with it before it ruins your current relationship.
Bottom line- always assume your partners best intentions until he gives you REASON to NOT trust him. If this behavior is REPEATED then you are justified in QUESTIONING his behavior. If things are not at this point you are dealing with your own INSECURITIES. Find out why you THINK he'll cheat-this is
what YOU have to do....
2006-07-13 21:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look him straight in the eye...ask him for the truth and give him the real truth back... if he ends up foolin you then let him go on to politics and you can find someone who doesnt make you feel insecure
2006-07-13 22:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by fistfull5000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you wont know if he's telling the truth. And If you dont like yourself why are you in a relationship? You cant be truely happy with someone else or make them truely happy until you are truely happy with yourself. Believe me I know.
2006-07-13 21:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by civictuner03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still with you after all your insecurities and picking fights about stuff than I would have to say he loves you and he means it!!
2006-07-13 21:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in your situation too..i like my man alot but i cant seem to trust him either.. when he talks to me i thinks hes just sweet talking.. i guess the only way u can tell if he is true is if he shows it around others. if he is not showing you off then i guess thats a hint
2006-07-13 21:48:42 · answer #7 · answered by pinkspreem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look him in the eyes and watch his pupils big (lying) small or same telling the truth
2006-07-13 21:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by holla back 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry girl there is no way to tell all you can do is ride it out and hope you have it right. Good luck to you him and your kid.
2006-07-13 22:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by irishlad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him more think of all the things u guys hav been throu.....
2006-07-13 21:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋