How come I can't get a date? Read Details.?

Question

I'm cute,
nice,
know how to have a good time,
fun,
easy to talk to,
fun to be around,
every thing that I think a guy would like
but I've 1 date in my whole life!!! Why doesn't anyone like me, and how can I get guys to like me? Guys, what do you like in girls? What do I need to change?

Answer 1

Your don't need to change anything because you have to be yourself so no one falls for you for all the wrong reasons. I would rather be hated for who I am instead of loved for who I am not.

Besides what are you doing tonight......

Answer 2

I don't know you, but I'm assuming that you might be acting a little too eager or too excited around the guys that you really like (comes across as desperate, which scares people away).

If you are going to flirt with someone (or even if you are just wanting to talk to someone) that you have just met, act as if whatever happens between the two of you is going to be OK with you. No expectations, and no demands (Sorry, Pat Benatar for the copyright infringement ^_^). People hate feeling "pressured" into a relationship.

Just smile, enjoy yourself, and talk to everyone (even the ones that you are not interested in -- makes you look polite). You want to look friendly, happy, and approachable. You don't want to look like you are trying too hard and just trying to get attention. It is also not too good to take up too much of someone elses' time if you have just met (don't overstay your welcome). Talk to someone for a little while, and while they are still smiling, tell them that you have to get back to your friends (or that you have to talk to someone else). If he trys to stop you and asks what's the rush, then he likes you and wants you to talk longer. If he lets you go, then you probably took up too much of his time or he's just not interested. Don't take it personal if you are not his type (It makes everyone else think that you are mature & emotionally stable if you can keep your cool after being turned down.).

Ironically, it seems to be human nature to like you more if you are independent and have your own friends & your own life. If you come across as too dependent and too clingy at the begining, you scare people off.

Maybe that helps?

Answer 3

Don't change. Just be patient. My wife never dated anyone before she dated me (we didnt' start dating till college) and we are both very happy. I have many other friends with similar stories.