How can getting involved in the Bible fufill my lonilness as a single young man?

Question

I'm 21 and single and it seems like when I talk to my peers about feeling lonely they tell me to get in the Word because it will truly satifsfy you. How can reading a book satisfy my phyisical desires? I mean the Bible can't hold me physically and let me know that everything will be alright. I'm a physical person and I need physical attention.

Answer 1

read the kama sutra!

Answer 2

No book can hold you physically, but the truth in the Bible can help you to see beyond yourself. Read it (especially the New Testament), memorize verses and meditate on them. Romans 8 is a great place to start.

Also, open up to older Christian men in your church that have gone through what you're going through now. Ask the hard questions and be prepared for the hard answers! If you don't know of anyone to do this with, I'll be willing. Check out my 360 page and send me a message. I've been where you are!

Answer 3

You can't just read the Bible, you have to live and comprehend the Bible. The Lord is a Comforter to those who obey Him. He brings peace and understabding to hearts that were once roiting. He's a void filler. Trust me, no type of physical contact can compare to what God can do. It's a mind thing...which is why you have to lay yourself aside. It's called tearing down your flesh. God is a spirit, and when you come to Him, you must come in the spirit and truth. He doesn't deal with our flesh because our flesh is in constant war with our spirit. The more that we practice living right according to God, the less problems we have and that's what fills the void. When God enters, you can't help but be made WHOLE. If you want we can talk on the messenger sometimes. Then I can help you begin to fill that void. The Bible is a wonder. It has all type of mysteries in it. If you choose to take your friends advise, you'll see. One of the things that God does promise, because God knows our every need, He says to "seek ye FIRST the kigdom of God, and all these things shall be ADDED to you," which means that He knows that you want physical contact, so He'll send some one to you, don't you go searching for them, also it will be some one after God's own heart, but first you gotta get to know Him, and when you do...don't leave Him. Be encouraged. [e-mail]

Answer 4

My friend, it will not fill that physical loneliness, only a woman can do that, that's how God made us.

But, it will fill much of your heart, because that's also how we were made, theres a spot there that only God can fill.
Reading the Scripture is not the answer to filling a lonliness that is natural and right. I have that, and I long await my wife with great anticipation. But I still have that longing to be fulfilled by another half being made one. Tha'ts just the way we were created, but- for now it is wise always to be in God's Word but it is the most important direction you can have. Be in His word, and focus on doing His will and giving God glory, while waiting for your wife.
By waiting I mean the Biblical sense of waiting, preparing, preparing you heart and praying for your marriage, your wife, and kids, etc. Learn about what God says about being a husband, father, etc.
But only God can fill His void, and only a woman can fill hers.
For some men, it is not for them to have a wife, for others we have that hole that needs to be filled.
hope this helped, any more quesions or comments, or talking , you can just email me.
I hope this helped. Good luck with your Scripture Walking. and May God bless you and your future family.

Answer 5

The bible can't help you. The church might be an opportunity to meet females, but who'd want one that loves some god more than any man. If you really want to meet people, take some ballroom dance lessons. There are 5 women for every male dancer out there, and women love a man that can dance. I have never seen a man stay single for very long once he learns how to ballroom dance. Good luck.

Answer 6

Hon, you are only 21 lol, that's just a baby in my standards.

The reason they tell you to get into the Word is that you cannot be a good husband without it, and isn't that the goal? Read about what a good husband is and strive to be that for your future wife. Also read about what a good wife is (Proverbs, last chapter, the Wife of Noble Character).

Get yourself ready for that wonderful soulmate God has planned for you, or you might end up with a foolish woman.

Answer 7

Yeah....the Bible isn't really intended for satisfying physical loneliness.... Yes, the Bible says that God is with you, etc. etc., but he's just as much with everyone else, so there'd be nothing special and exclusive in it for you.

The best way to not feel lonely is, well, to not be lonely: go out and meet people and stuff, they don't bite....that hard....or at any rate most of them don't have rabies....

Answer 8

You are absolutely right in all you say. I've been a Christian since 1988, and while there is a lot of joy and hope in the LORD, the LORD instituted marriage. Many Christians and churches have bought the devil's perversion of the bible by ONE VERSE taken out of the context of the WHOLE COUNSEL OF GOD'S WORD. Everything you need to know is in the book of Genesis. You are perfectly and divinely NORMAL in your desire to have a woman whom you can hold and touch, kiss, talk to her face and see her looking back at you and talking to you. If anyone tries to deny you what is yours by divine right, get away from them. I am a Christian woman who has spent the majority of the last 18 years VERY LONELY AND WANTING TO DIE. no one would listen to me with compassion - they would say things like, "You don't NEED a man" or "you are COMPLETE IN HIM (Jesus)." Yes, the bible says that I am complete in Him, but that means that HE has all I need, including a mate. Tell a starving man, who has not eaten in 30 days, that he doesn't NEED a meal - he's got JESUS! Jesus or not, this guy needs a meal. So Jesus or not, you need a woman. And there is nothing wrong with that. Don't let anyone tell you that there is. Incidentally, I am getting married this year. I DO NEED a man, a partner in life, someone to talk to, to hold hands with, to pour out love to and to have love poured out on me. Yes, I do need a man, even with Jesus. Seems like when someone says to me, "I need rent money!", I should say, you don't NEED rent money - you've got Jesus!" Jesus created male and female, and marriage between the two. So on behalf of myself and Jesus, go out there and meet women - talk to them- and make no apology outside or inside of yourself to wanting and needing a woman. I wish more people would stop living in the world of denial, and get into TELLING THE TRUTH AS YOU HAVE DONE. THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

Answer 9

Believe it or not THe Holy Spirit can and does/will. IT will take time but as a 40 yr old single I got over the lonliness by getting close enough to God to never be alone.

Answer 10

It might be that you need a bible study fellowship group.

That way you can read and learn the word and fellowsip with like minded believers.

After all this is what GOD meant for us, not to be hermits in his word, but to be with other believers, whereever two or more are gathered ring a bell?

Good luck!!

Answer 11

The bible won't fulfill your lonliness. The only place to do that is within you. Although, yes people do need someone to say it's ok and to meet your physical needs. But without the inner acceptance and love for oneself, nothing else can be fulfilled.