2006-07-13 13:56:48 · 15 answers · asked by . 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I was adopted as a baby....my parents told me when I was young.
I think it is best to tell a child the truth about adoption when they are old enough to understand what it means. If you are telling a young child, you don't need to go into details....save that for when they are older and more able to handle details.
2006-07-13 14:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by cjs702002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from the time they are able to talk. I was adopted and my parents were always open and honest with me about it and it made me appreciate them even more. From a small child, I always felt special because my parents had worked so hard to "get" me. I had two friends who were adopted as well and didn't find out until later on in life. They are over the shock now but when they first found out about 12 and 15, it was a real shock. One found the adoption papers and one was finally told by her parents. However, they had alot of trust issues in their parents after that.
2006-07-13 14:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by wunluv06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right away. If i adopted a child i would tell the child even if he/she were a baby... just like you would tell a child you gave birth to their birth story. I would tell the baby how we went about adopting him and how blessed we are that God chose to give this wonderful child to us through adoption. I would tell the child that story each night at bedtime when i tell him how much i love him. That way it is natural and is never a shock.
When the child is older and understands and asks questions about it i would answer them explaining why we wanted to adopt and such.
2006-07-13 18:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard that the kids who accept adoption the best are those who are told right from when they are a baby 'You're my special child, you're adopted, which means I picked you specially' use it as you would use 'I love you' (but not instead of of course!) and when they get older they will ask what adopted means, but there will never be that SHOCK. I read about a two or three year old who told everyone 'i'm 'dopted' clearly she was proud of it, even if she couldn't comprehend the meaning.
2006-07-13 14:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by stickybroom100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people that I know that have adopted didn't wait, they started telling them immediately. How special it was, how they were excited when the judge signed the papers, that type of thing. It gives them a sense of pride. Also, they always made it clear that if they wanted information on the biological parents, they would help them find it when they turned 18. Honesty, and compassion, and love. It works.
2006-07-13 14:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-13 14:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by CYNDIITA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents never told me I was adopted that I could actually remember. I always knew. For as long as I can remember. I remember my Mom giving me a book on why was I adopted? They have several books out now for young children on adoption. Just always stress to them we adopted you because we wanted a baby to love and care for and here you are!
2006-07-14 20:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Misty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of my sons (6 y 9m and 4 y 7m) are adopted. We have always been open about talking about adoption, and what it means with them. The eldest certainly knew he was adopted and what that meant by the time he was 4.5. At times he has been puzzled over it, but he knows that he belongs in our family, even though he has another family out there.
The youngest doesn't really understand, yet, but that is because he has problems with language acquisition. We certainly want him to know his situation.
To deny children this knowledge is to deny them part of themselves, and cannot lead to anything good.
2006-07-13 15:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by P. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would recomend as soon as the child can talk and can reamber things. Such as 4-5 year olds might be able to understand about how he/she was adopted
2006-07-13 13:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋