if you went out with a man for 7 years and he cheated on you the entire time, and you knew, would u marry him?

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if you went out with a man for 7 years and he cheated on you the entire time, and you knew, would u marry him?

if then 7 months after you get married he starts seeing someone else and you found out, would you then stop your birth control to get pregnant? what if he moves out on you and in with his girlfriend when you are in you 8th month and comes back when the baby is born, would you think he really loves you, and wants to be with you? what if for the next 2 years he continues to see this girl, and moves out to live with her and comes back when you give him seperation papers, would you believe that he really loves you and wil be with only you? now it is 4 years and he has gotten the other girl pregnant, do you stay with him? is it possible to really believe that a man who does this loves you?

would you stay for the child?

what about the other girl isnt she to blame too? maybe it is just a phase he is going through? she is 6 years younger than me, and right now he is with me not her, but i worry he will go back to her after her baby is born....can she give him his last name? he said he wont sign the birth certificate

this is a hypothetical question, because i know a woman who married this man and i wanted to see if i am the only one who thinks she is out of her mind? she is in denial even after seeing them together....she tyhinks the girlfriend got pregnant to keep him and believes that the husband will have no part in the other childs life

4 years numerous times why would he ever take threats seriously, she always takes him back

4 years numerous times why would he ever take threats seriously, she always takes him back

4 years numerous times why would he ever take threats seriously, she always takes him back

Answer 1

first of all i would have left him the minute i found out he was cheating, number two you should never stay in a marriage cause of the child and NO HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU

Answer 2

He would have been history in my book.

That kind of behavior doesn't deserve a loving woman and child. Why reward him for being a male slut? What if he gave you Hep C, HIV or an STD? What if some disease was passed onto that beautiful child? What if that child learned from his behavior and treated another person some day just like daddy did?

What about your self esteem? Self respect? Why live your life with the constant fear of wondering when he will leave again (you know he will)? What will you tell that poor baby when he does leave?

No you can't believe him, especially when you condone his behavior, there is no chance he will ever respect you and his child enough to stay faithful.

Dump the guy and let your child know that you both are worth way more than that!

Answer 3

NO WAY. Get out. I would've left him the moment I found out he cheated. I wouldn't cheat on someone I love...would you?
Maybe you should consider leaving for the child. Sometimes staying in a relationship "for the child's sake" is just an excuse so you don't have to go through the personal pain of a split. Wouldn't you want this child to have a good loving relationship as a role model of what a marriage should be about instead of a relationship filled with lies and deceit? Is that what you want for your child? If not...get the heck outta there.
HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU & if he thinks he does he's got a screwed up way of showing it...you deserve better.

Answer 4

Love is about closness, trust, intamacy and and faith between 2 people. Not between 3. If this man loves anybody it's homself. Personally I have no sympathy for anyone involved in the situation described. This man is not only cheating, he is being allowed to cheat! If any of the woman had an ounce of self respect they would have walked away. If either of the woman put their kids first they would leave. Would anyone want their daughters to grow up thinking it is normal for a man to treat a woman this way? No I dont thinks so.

Answer 5

Why on earth would you consider staying with someone who OBVIOUSLY does not care about you.
A man that really and truly loves a woman would not treat them like that.
You need to take a good look at yourself and open up your eyes to the fact that he does not love you. NO MAN is worth your time if he treats you like that. As long as you let him back in, you are giving him every reason to keep doing what he's doing because he knows your weakness and he will always use it to HIS advantage.
So you need to shut the door and move on, then work on you, your self worth and your child.

Answer 6

Here's my question for YOU:

When are women going to stop giving it up to playahs and dawgs and babydaddies-in-name-only?

When women are in a situation in which they THINK that there are not enough men to go around, because too many men of their own race and social class are in jail or dead, then women won't be loyal to one another. Do not expect "sisterhood" from a "sistah." Men will only stop being playahs and dawgs when women cut them off.

And there is not a baby in the world who will seal a bond between you and a proven-to-be-bad man. A baby changes no man. If anything, a baby makes a man feel that now he's got a hold on YOU, not that you've got a hold on HIM.

Wake up, women of the world! No man is worth this trouble! There are NORMAL men, outside of your usual social milieu, who do not behave like this. I know this, because I was lucky enough to be born in a different environment. Men in my environment still cheat, but they don't have this same sense of entitlement as the men in your environment, because they know that they can be REPLACED IN A HEARTBEAT. Women in my environment don't have this same "men are scarce" attitude that women in your environment seem to have.

Stop settling, and the guys will stop playing you and tomcatting around on you so easily. As Dear Abby says, "Wake up and smell the coffee!"

Answer 7

To all of these questions - no. Obviously he does not love or respect you. This is only my opinion - but it seems like he knows you are not going anywhere, and he has tested his boundries and knows he can get away with just about anything. He does this because there are no consequences.

Find someone who loves and truly respects you - but don't be afraid to be alone. Being alone can be hard but very liberating. It sounds to me like you are scared to be alone...Life is too short to be treated like crap for that long - and a child can still have a relationship with a father without the mother being with him.

Answer 8

honey you need to wake up and smell the coffee thats BURNING in your house.
Of course he doesn;t love you.
You are just a there when he needs you. AND he knows that you will just keep on forgiving him and eating the bullshit he feeds you.
I would have gotten so far away from this man AND NEVER HAVE MARRIED HIM. Let alone have a baby with him.

HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU NOR DID HE EVER

Answer 9

Screw me over once, shame on you. Screw me over twice (or more in this case), shame on me. Whoever this friend of yours is is fully to blame for all her problems. It's pathetic that she would allow herself to be treated like this. Is she that desperate? She obviously has a REALLY, REALLY LOW self esteem. She NEEDS psychological help IMMEDIATELY. She is allowing this guy to ruin her life and the key word here is "allowing". This guy could not manipulate her if she were a stronger person who wouldn't put up with that crap. She needs to leave him right away, still hold him responsible for his child (support) and move on. She needs to stay out or ALL romantic relationships till she can learn how to take care of her own emotional needs and can be certain that she won't end up with another loser like this guy. Just a thought.

Also, regarding the other girl, she is just as lost as your friend. She is allowing this guy to pull the same crap with her too. She also needs help. This guy is slick to have his cake and eat it too. He is obviously very manipulative and clever enough to be bouncing between two beds and each of the two women are allowing it. It's guys like him that give all guys a bad name. Not all men are like that. Your friend needs to be really careful that she doesn't fall into the same type of relationship with another loser. She may be stuck in a destructive pattern. One final word: psychotherapy.

Answer 10

Take the clue. he is going back and forth cheating and coming back to you.if you love u him give him a chance put your foot down .tell him he has to come back to u not cheat or go to somebody but u wont take him back.this way he knows u will not take this from him. now he has that option that whenever he cheats he can always come back and it will be normal with u.remove that option . then u will be much happier .