This is kind of a follow up to my question last night. My younger brother (13) seems to get treated better and more lenient than me (15). Well I took some people's advice and tried to talk to my mom and Dad today about how it made me feel.
I found out during this talk that they have set my brother up with a college fund investment thing, but never did one for me. My mom basically told me that they never expected me to go to college but just expect me to get married and make babies. At best my mom thinks I should go into hairstyling, until I have a baby at least.
How do you deal with your parents when they have such low hopes for you?
Jessica
2006-07-13 13:19:02 · 10 answers · asked by Jessica W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get your grind on girl,show mom and dad that you do want more out of life.Try and get better grades and if you haf to get a pt job and start your own college fund.And then when you do make it hold your head up high,and just think you did it all by yourself.I don't know what's wrong with mom and dad but they have some serious issues they need to deal with.Don't wait around for mom and dad baby get you a pt job and do what you haf to do.It's sad that I haf to tell you that becuz you should be enjoying life right now.But you will learn to look at life different if you do it yourself.You will learn not to take things for granted and appreciate life more.The sky is the limit baby I believe in you!Goodluck!
2006-07-13 13:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if it were true, I don't know how parents could tell their child that. I am in shock. WHY wouldn't they expect you to go to college? Because you are a girl? Which is so 1950s, are you in trouble all the time? There is a big problem with this. Don't your parents know that all girls do not want babies?
If there is another relative you are close to I would go talk to them. Maybe an aunt or someone? Sad, very sad.
Good Luck to you. I hope you get some peace from all this.
2006-07-13 20:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you add more details? I would like to know what you would like to be when you grow up. First decide what you want to do. It may be that you would enjoy hairstyling. I have a friend who does that and makes pretty good money, has lots of free time, sets her own hours, etc. Her Mom owns a beauty salon and is doing very well. It's an excellent direction to go in. But that's just my opinion. What would you like to do?
2006-07-13 20:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is low! I am so sorry for you. Here's my advice. If you want to go to college, do it. It won't be easy, but you can apply for grants and student loans and you may have to get a job for extra money. If you have good grades maybe you can get scholarships and just think of the satisfaction you would have knowing you did it on your own and proved your parents wrong!
2006-07-14 00:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's not much more you can do. Just start saving up yourself! And remember, if you don't have the money to pay for college out right, there are always student loans, grants, scholarships and financial aid. Don't be discouraged by your parents. I know it's hard, but you can't rely on them for everything. Plus, think of how much more mature you'll be if you are able to take care of yourself!
2006-07-13 20:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by corbeyelise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh. I am so sorry! This is awful!!
You should work your butt off and earn a scholarship for college. Go to college out of state, graduate from college, and become successful in your career choice. You can do it and you don't need their help! Prove them wrong! Decide what you want to be and go for it! Forget the rest...
Good luck!!!
2006-07-13 20:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Whatever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to prove it to them, you're 15 now so you probably have 3 more years of high school, get good grades, be mature, responsible, you can still go to college without a college fund, you can get financial aid and/or student loans, and always, always keep the lines of communication open with your parents. good luck to you!
2006-07-13 20:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by DodgerBlueFan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you would have done very well in college.
But what are your career goals.
I mean for your parents to send one kid to college is hard enough on the family finances.
Maybe they just thought it out logically.
If you still want to go to collage there are places to help you.
When you apply for assistance don't use your parents.
What I mean by that is tell them you're on your own when applying.
2006-07-13 20:36:58 · answer #8 · answered by psych0bug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove them wrong. A friend of mine went through a similar situation like yours. Now she's in medical school and it's pretty much an "In Your Face" to her parents and siblings
2006-07-13 20:23:16 · answer #9 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn that was so wrong how ur mom told yo and go make babie that mess up but yea
2006-07-13 20:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by leebeeguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋