my boyfriend and i have been together for 5+ months. in the past guys have been jerkz. i've fallin for this one ("him too") but i'm scared to trust him. he's given me no reason to not trust him but i hate feeling dumb! how can i learn to trust more? or ~ should i say forget about it and not draw too close??
2006-07-13 12:46:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, say you have this beautiful apple tree in ur back yard and you get an apple and take a bite it has a worm in it! Eww that can be disgusting, so you get another 1 and take a bite and that one has a worm in it! DISGUSTING, so you say no more apples but this 1 apple looks nice and juicy but ur afraid to pick it . . .
. . . . I mean it is an apple it won't hang around forever, GOOD or BAD, sooner or later it WILL fall from the tree . . . .
So u know what they say about apples and 1 bad apple, spoiling it for everyone and blah blah blah . .
2006-07-14 05:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you cannot open up and find trust, then you can never have a true relationship. Remember that trust builds the foundation for a ever lasting relationship. 5 months is not a very long time but by this time you should be able to tell if he is worth trusting and possibly growing as a couple. I don't mean you need to rush into anything crazy, but you should be able to communicate. Being scared of the sensation that is felt when being betrayed is normal, but allowing for that fear to control your actions and emotions towards another is a mistake. Giving someone trust cannot be learned nor taught in a classroom, it must be earned. If he has not yet earned it then maybe you are just not at that point in your relationship to give it.
2006-07-13 19:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by contrerasr4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old are you but eventually you gonna have to start trusting someone. It might as well be the one you falling for.If he is falling for you too and you are sure about it, there is no reason not to trust him unless he is playing games with you. If he truly loves you it will show.Don't draw conclusions and make decisions based on your prior relationships.Everyone is different.Who knows, he maybe Mr. Right.
2006-07-13 19:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have absolutely no reason to not trust him, then you should.
I have the same exact problem.
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 6 months, but I still can't get over how my ex hurt me so bad.
I just try to keep this is mind:
If it works, then great.
If it doesn't work, then it was nice while it lasted.
2006-07-13 19:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you never open up and give trust you cant feel the full benefits of being togather and a relationship, but hey if you want to be protective of your heart cause your taste sucks typically, then go for it, but make sure you open up sometime. And also, if he gives you no reason to distrust him, then open up at least some
2006-07-13 19:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a f'd up question, if he has given you no reason to trust him then feel grateful, not many do.
I had two of my past bf's sexually abuse me, you aren't off that bad, i have the BEST bf now and he has not given me any reason to not trust him, but i do have my fears, but so far i have trusted him and every thing has turned out great!
so if he has not given you any reason to not trust him , then trust him. duh! but i do understand.
2006-07-13 19:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him unless he gives u a reason not too
2006-07-13 19:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by gaurdianangelic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to trust in a relationship or there is nothing.
2006-07-13 19:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋