My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 1/2 months and really care about each other a lot. We have been living together for the past 3 months. We are both in our mid 20's. He knows I love him, I let it slip one night, but he won't tell me he loves me. He tells me that he cares for me a lot more than he probably should.... Should that worry me? Or am I just trying to rush things???
2006-07-13 12:40:15 · 17 answers · asked by collegebusygirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Men think differently than woman. Only 1 woman can have the heart of a man, once he is actually in love. My husband told me he loved me 3 months after dating, but it took us 6 years before we found our way to the altar. Don't rush things...if he really loves you, trust me, he'll say it.
2006-07-13 12:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by peaceandlove3 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You moved in together 1 month after you met? First mistake!
And what the hell does he mean by, He cares for you more then he probably should? At the point of living together you really should love that person, If not your just a roommate he sleeps with.
2006-07-13 12:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by michelle17543 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not trying to rush things you've already rolled the train out of the station. You "let it slip one night" no wonder he doesn't respect you. That indicates that you only knew him for 6 weeks before you two moved in together. If you two didn't love each then, you bought yourself a wooden nickel. Why should he tell you he loves you? He's getting what he wants already. It seems as though you moved together hoping you could change him and bring him around. So sad.
Also, for the girl whose "ex-boyfriend" took about a year to tell her, her advice is ridiculous in the face of the "ex" factor.
2006-07-13 12:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by JustJoiningTheFun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that I was in my now long term (4yrs and counting) relationship for a year before I said the words. He told me about 6 months into the relationship. I was scared of what I was feeling and had to be comfortable with it before I could say it. Although I did feel it, it is a little scary to say it. When he says he cares for you alot more than he should. Take that as he does love you, but he is scared to really let it come out. When I finally let the wall fall it all went up hill from there. Don't give up as long as he shows you he cares than hang in there the words will come.
2006-07-13 12:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOA! How did you end up living together if he doesn't love you back? That's kind of rushing things a bit. It sounds like he's using you. You should get out. YES you should be worried.
You may be rushing things but he's leading you on to get what he wants. Leave while you still can.
Take care.
2006-07-13 12:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not be comfortable with saying love just yet. Some guys can never say it but can feel love. Plus, love doesn't have a timetable, it can take anywhere from 1 minute to 10 years. Don't worry about it, he may feel that love is too important a word to be taken lightly, or just may not think love is descriptive enough.
2006-07-13 12:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont let it worry u. Its a fact that women tap into their emotions way before men do. If he's not ready to tell u those magic words respect him for that. At least when he does tell u, u will know that its the honest truth.
2006-07-13 12:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you have feelings for him enough to tell him you love him,but with guys it takes alittle more time for them to figure out that they really do care as much as they say they do. Also don't worry about if he says he cares about you alot cause that just means that he is getting closer to saying "I love you!" just give it time.
2006-07-13 13:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living together and he doesn't say he loves you? Hmmmm.... First of all, I wouldnt live with him without being married to him, but that would worry me. I mean, that's what is so wrong about living with someone without being married to them, they can do it without any commitment and when time gets hard, or if he meets someone 'better', he can say, 'good bye hunny' and be gone. I am sorry to be so harsh, but I firmly believe in not living with or having sex with someone while dating.
2006-07-13 12:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by ~~Catbird Woman~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda odd that you live together, but he hasn't said I love you yet...I don't think I could bring myself to live with someone until they said it.
However, I don't think you have anything to worry about. The people that you DO have to worry about are the ones who say it much too easily...not the ones who wait. ;)
2006-07-13 12:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋